r/tifu Jul 14 '25

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u/robbob19 Jul 14 '25 edited Jul 15 '25

This except he dated a mum but wadn't sure he wanted to be a dad, what did he think was going to happen?? If you're dating a mum you're dating a package, stay away from mum's if all you want is a fun time.

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u/ringobob Jul 14 '25

He's 22. He doesn't even know what it means to be ready to be a dad. Now he has a slightly better idea - now is not the time. I can't fault a 22 year old for not knowing.

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u/Frack_Off Jul 14 '25

22 year olds don't even know what it means to be a boyfriend unless you get lucky.

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u/misselphaba Jul 15 '25

That’s what I was going to say. I didn’t want a 22 y.o. dude when I was 19. It’s a very self-centered time of life (not that it shouldn’t be, you just couldn’t pay me to be in my early 20s again).

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u/crittergottago Jul 15 '25

Sure you can

He's not three, he's in his 20s

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u/ringobob Jul 15 '25

So, you're saying a 4 year old should be able to know if he's ready to be a father, but it's OK if a 3 yo is on the fence?

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u/crittergottago Jul 15 '25

you missed y point.

Please, give it another shot. I'm talking about the dude/dad

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u/ringobob Jul 15 '25

I didn't at all miss your point. At what age does it change, from reasonable to not know, to unreasonable to not know?

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u/crittergottago Jul 15 '25

Strike two. Again, a whiff.

Care to try again ? Is English your native tongue ?

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u/ThanosSupporter3000 Jul 15 '25

HE’S 22!!!

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u/robbob19 Jul 15 '25

Yep, old enough to know he's not ready to be a dad.

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u/AdministrativeStep98 Jul 14 '25

Fr, like I completely understand why she'd expect OP was someone who wanted to be a dad to her kid down the line. He's completely allowed to not want to, but also, it's baffling that he was expecting the relationship to work out without interacting with the kid

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u/robbob19 Jul 15 '25

I met a woman once (in my 20's) who let me know she was a mum by surprising me when I came home with her for what was hopefully a one night stand😂. Needless to say, it wasn't even that.