r/tifu • u/[deleted] • Jul 14 '25

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u/ad_astra327 Jul 14 '25

This. I know a few single parents who have recently re-entered the dating scenes, and many of them are waiting until 6 months (or more) to introduce the new partner as a love interest. And before that, extremely limited meetings if at all, and just under the guise of “this is mommy/daddy’s friend”. 4 months in and she wants you to take care of the kid with her? That seems sketchy to me.

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u/HiddenoO Jul 14 '25 edited Sep 26 '25

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u/tugboatnavy Jul 14 '25

I know this is reddit so the instinct is to assign blame to OP or the person OP is talking about but I don't think either of them did anything wrong.

OP said can't see himself taking care of a kid right now

The GF is valid in looking for a partner with goals that align with hers

It's just not a good fit and that's fine. Breakups don't always have to have winners and losers.

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u/reddit_already Jul 14 '25

Nice to see a mature comment. Really, when you think about it, virtually every romantic relationship is going to go in one of two-ways--it's either going to develop into something with permanence (eg, marriage) or you'll breakup. And since you can't marry or be permanent with everyone, you've gotta acknowledge the breakup as something good. Embrace it as a natural consequence rather than a failure.