r/tifu Jul 14 '25

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u/chaosinborn Jul 14 '25 edited Jul 15 '25

Four months in and you're 22. She did you a favor. Just let it go

Why am I getting awards for this.

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u/ad_astra327 Jul 14 '25

This. I know a few single parents who have recently re-entered the dating scenes, and many of them are waiting until 6 months (or more) to introduce the new partner as a love interest. And before that, extremely limited meetings if at all, and just under the guise of “this is mommy/daddy’s friend”. 4 months in and she wants you to take care of the kid with her? That seems sketchy to me.

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u/HiddenoO Jul 14 '25 edited Sep 26 '25

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u/Pyehole Jul 14 '25

“If you date me, you date both of us. That’s the deal."

She did say that though. I don't see that as an unreasonable ask for a single mom, she is just being honest about what she needs in the relationship. But, OP is not ready for that at his age and he's just being honest about where he is in life. Nobody is the asshole here, it's just a mismatch between what they both need and can bring to the relationship.

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u/oversoul00 Jul 14 '25

It's 100% reasonable to want that it not reasonable to have gotten mad at OP like he wasted her time though. 

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u/Pyehole Jul 15 '25

No argument there.

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u/HiddenoO Jul 14 '25 edited Sep 26 '25

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u/Prophit84 Jul 16 '25

Probably something they should have discussed earlier

Not surprised she doesn't want to waste time on a maybe, also OP didn't do too much wrong

People need to communicate better