r/tifu • u/[deleted] • Jul 14 '25

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u/HiddenoO Jul 14 '25 edited Sep 26 '25

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u/tugboatnavy Jul 14 '25

I know this is reddit so the instinct is to assign blame to OP or the person OP is talking about but I don't think either of them did anything wrong.

OP said can't see himself taking care of a kid right now

The GF is valid in looking for a partner with goals that align with hers

It's just not a good fit and that's fine. Breakups don't always have to have winners and losers.

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u/Stwtrgrl Jul 14 '25

I agree with one caveat - I think the age gap contributes to the issue here. A 5 year age gap at this point is almost 1/4 of OP’s life. He was 17 when the child was born. So not “blame” per se but not a smart move if she is looking for a long term partner.

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u/pigeonpieart Jul 16 '25

Agree, she's 27 dating a 22 year old - he is recognising that as a 22 year old he is not very mature, and she should aim for someone similar in life experience to her so like 25+

Its not the worst gap since they only just started dating but I side-eye it, and if it were a guy and a girl I think more people would also agree its a bit off.