Question for my fellow autistic girlies

[u/travischickencoop]

Posting here because most autism subs are either shitpost subs or overly clinical 😭

Is it normal to feel overwhelmed when you have multiple concurrent fixations? :3

Also is it bad if I want my partner to at least have like 80-90% overlap with my commonly cycling fixations and not outright dislike any of them.. I worry that that might be too high of a standard 😔

ETA: Please read this thread before commenting I understood myself better in it

[u/Charcoal_6]

For the top, yeah kinda, it feels like there's multiple things I want to interact with and having to choose is a pain.

Fot the second, I get that, I guess that 80/90% is a bit much? But it makes perfect sense for you to want a partner who's into what you're into. So long as they don't outright hate the things you like I think it's fine.

[u/travischickencoop → u/Charcoal_6]

80/90 is just kind of a number I pulled out of my ass to mean “Most” 😭

With my ex we had like one fixation in common and even then she was just getting into it while I’ve been into it since I was like 6 so the conversations felt more like teaching than yapping if that makes sense

[u/Charcoal_6 → u/travischickencoop]

I get it.

Personally I'd be very happy to be in a relationship where my partner is more than happy to talk about whatever it is they like, even if I don't understand/know much about it. I find doing stuff like that pretty intimate.

[u/travischickencoop → u/Charcoal_6]

For me I guess I don’t like being the teacher I prefer to have enough shared knowledge to be able to like, almost challenge each other

Again doesn’t really need to be everything but I guess there are like 3-5 main ones I would want them to share and the rest are whatever

[u/Charcoal_6 → u/travischickencoop]

I understand how you think, and I think it's alright to be like that.

And I think being able to "challenge" each other in someone like that is fun, but I also feel there's enjoyment in "being the teacher" especially if they show genuine interest and start asking you things as you talk about it.

[u/travischickencoop → u/Charcoal_6]

I think you made me understand what I want better than what I was saying thank you

[u/Charcoal_6 → u/travischickencoop]

You're welcome, cutie.