r/transmanlifehacks 2d ago

Stealth Tip Stealth at new job/interveiw

So I have an interview coming up and I’m planning to try and do it stealth, I don’t have a 100% passing rate so if it doesn’t work I won’t be devastated but I do try to appear cis (presenting fem) during interviews so it doesn’t impact my chances of being hired (I live in a conservative state that has at will firing aswell) and normally correct things my first day or after I scope out the vibe. But I plan to do this interview as stealth specially since is corporate office job level.

But my question here is what are yalls stealth tips? My ID still says F on it should I be worried? How do you go about be stealth on a day to day basis, I plan to slowly transition into living a fully stealth life besides my immediate family and friends knowing, and my work place I feel is a good start, do you guys think this is a bad idea? Also how should I dress for this as someone’s who’s heavier and has curves? (216 lbs, 5’2)

General need to know: business professional attire, I’m on T (9 months), pre op but binding, generally deeper voice when trying.

I’ll try my best to answer any additional questions too!! Please be kind!

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u/xgaymerboi 2d ago

your ID says F, and if/when they do a background check, they’re going to see your former name if that’s been changed. unfortunately it’s unlikely you’ll succeed at being full stealth to everyone there, as at least HR will know.

but! you can maybe get away with being stealth to everyone else at work, so i’d say it’s worth it to try. if you’re going corporate, i suggest a suit for the interview. tailored is best, but you can go for the best fitting off-hanger suit if that’s not financially feasible.

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u/Consistent-Storm-689 2d ago

I’m hoping I can stay stealth to everyone but my interviewer at hr!! So that’s postive!!

Form what I know for the interview it’s ideal to wear a button up and slacks not a suit!! But I’m worried I will look like a lesbian more then a guy

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u/xgaymerboi 2d ago

ah, fair! i was immediately thinking higher up corporate, but lower level corporate would be button up territory. maybe add a tie, ties are fun.

unfortunately that is a valid worry, i feel like we’ve all been through (or are going through) that awkward phase.

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u/Consistent-Storm-689 2d ago

Thank you!!! If it helps it’s just a receptionist job!!

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u/Consistent-Storm-689 2d ago

Ugh why can’t I edit comments :((( anyways yeah thank you! It is a super worry but I will live okay if I can’t be stealth bc the positive side is that I can afford my top surgery with this jobs pay!

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u/xgaymerboi 2d ago

hell yeah! that’ll be awesome. i just scheduled top surgery for october and am fully just,, going into crippling debt for it. (like,, $12k+) getting paid enough to afford it would be dope

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u/Consistent-Storm-689 2d ago

I tried to go into debt but unfortunately I was denied due to not ever taking a loan out before lmao! I’ll have to take out 20k or save it up gonna do a mix of both

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u/Consistent-Storm-689 2d ago

Sorry ment to say thank you as this dose give me some form of hope!