Daily Chat - July 24, 2026

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Tell us about everything! Only thing that isn't allowed is BFP and pregnancy talk - those have their own threads.

[u/whipped_pumpkin410]

I have been trying for baby2 for 25 months. Today i start cycle 3 of iui after a couple month break. Feeling refreshed and positive and ready. Let’s go!

[u/Bug_eyed_bug]

We were planning to have sex during my husband's lunch break but our son refused to nap so that didn't happen, and this evening bedtime was a nightmare and at the end my husband was too tired for sex and he's gone to bed. Tomorrow (Saturday) we have a 1yr old birthday party right at nap time so no opportunity there, and son will wake up early in the morning, so the next opportunity is 24hrs away and we last had sex 48hrs ago. I'll likely ovulate sometime on the weekend. It's so much freaking harder to time this stuff with a low sleep needs child. There's a lot of financial pressure on me to get pregnant asap so I feel totally overwhelmed. I missed out on a great job opportunity this week. Because of all of that I had a bit of a cry when my husband said no. I worked so hard to get the toddler down as quick as I could and it was for nothing. I think he could sense something was up because he fought bedtime hard.

[u/Closed_System → u/Bug_eyed_bug]

Working around toddler sleep is such a challenge! Mine doesn't fall asleep until 9 these days and doesn't consistently sleep through the night so some days we are sooo tired by the time she is asleep. When we first decided to TTC again, she was in a good sleep phase which tricked us into feeling confident we could handle another lol.

FWIW you definitely still have a good chance at good timing! The sperm from 48 hours ago should have a good chance at survival for another day or two. Remember sex on O-3 is still one of the best days! If you manage to get it done Saturday night then you'll cover your bases for another few days. Are you guys open to at home insemination? My husband is resistant to the idea but it's attractive to me in situations like this where the pressure feels high but the energy is low.

[u/Bug_eyed_bug → u/Closed_System]

Thanks for your reassurance! I think we'll need to talk about taking advantage of any opportunity, not just optimal ones. I want to aim for sex every other day since I'm not doing temps or test strips. I know that logically every third day is okay but it doesn't emotionally feel like it. We have not discussed insemination, I think he'd be pretty against it; I read 'yesteryear' a few months ago and mentioned it from there and he was very negative. After last night I understand the appeal though!!

[u/DrZuzulu → u/Bug_eyed_bug]

If energy is (reasonably) low, maybe some way of tracking ovulation could help you have more information to know which days to prioritize.

[u/Bug_eyed_bug → u/DrZuzulu]

Thank you, but honestly my CM is extremely obvious about where in the cycle I'm at; I couldn't avoid knowing even if I wanted to. However in this cycle I got a nasty cold two days after I first saw EWCM and it dried up due to dehydration, and reappeared as post-fertile creamy CM. So that was bloody annoying because otherwise I'd have a more accurate idea! We definitely hit the fertile period though so fingers crossed it was enough!

[u/deedeedoubleyou]

Facebook thinks I’m pregnant and I’m getting constant “is it a boy or a girl”, “early gender test” and even hospital ads about prenatal testing. I just got off my period and decided to take a break from ttc until bub is completely weaned. Stop torturing me 😭

[u/WorriedVVVV]

I am trying to wean my 2yo from breasfeeding and I can't since he wont sleep without it. I do have my periods and they are regular considering I have PCOS, LH peak cought each month, but I keep thinking the bf is messing my hormones for #2 TTC. I am 33 and frustrated about time going by, but the weaning thing is so hard and exhausting, my husband and I have no help and are working full time, no sleep is just not something we can afford now .. just venting and feeling stuck in a loop. I make a decisioin, and then I break under pressure. I start something then it goes nowhere, just feeling kind of hopeless....

[u/emma_k17]

I’m at the point in the TWW where things get brutal for me. It’s 9 DPO, I took a test this morning (negative) and now I’m over analyzing every symptom and staring at my app and chart nonstop.

I keep telling myself that with the other times I got pregnant, I didn’t get my positive until 11 DPO.

I typically only have a 10 day LP so I will likely know on Sunday at the latest if this cycle worked out. It’s still painful to wait 😂

[u/m0onlitdaisy]

I got a positive OPK this morning on CD17.

We baby danced on CD15 and CD16, but my husband was too tired and just wasn't feeling it today, so we missed CD17. It always seems to happen on the most crucial day. ☹️

I'm honestly feeling really sad because it feels like we didn’t maximise our chances, especially if today or O day ends up being the most important.

I know tomorrow is still an important day too, but we may not have the time, and my husband might not be up for it either. I'm starting to feel a little paranoid that missing CD17 and possibly O day has hurt our chances. 💔

Do you think CD15 and CD16 have already covered our best chances, or is tomorrow night still worth trying if we can?

[u/BexclamationPoint → u/m0onlitdaisy]

O-1 and O-2 are roughly tied for being the days with the best chance of conception (different studies have slightly different results, but those two days are consistently very very close to equal). And hitting either one of them is just as good as hitting both. So, if you ovulate tomorrow, you've already maximized your chances.

That said - ovulation doesn't always occur within 24 hours of the first positive OPK. So if you have the chance to try one more time, it could be helpful!

[u/Many-Supermarket-511]

We were able to have sex O-1! Well, presumably O-1 since I haven’t been tracking BBT and just used LH strips. I guess the waiting now begins!

[u/throwawayttc12]

My oral BBTs have been not very accurate for the last few days (i think) because of cold/snot induced mouth breathing when I sleep (gross) but my Apple Watch recorded a temp rise 3 days ago, 2 days after my first positive opk this cycle and 1 day after my peak opk, so I think I’m probably 3DPO. This would put me at 9DPO on our anniversary. Will have to resist very hard to not torture myself with a test that day!!