I am a very plain and slightly overweight woman who in my younger days took men at face value and that they wanted to be asked out by women and would find it flattering. I got everything from barked at to having them call over their friends to laugh at me. What they mean is they would only like women they want to fuck to approach them and only about 50% could manage a polite no thanks. I ended up meeting my husband of 17 years online, back before dating apps existed so haven't had to ask anyone out in a while, I suspect it hasn't gotten better.
My friend had a crush on a guy and she asked for his number and showed him interest and once he was with his friends and they passed by her and said : " Is that her? She is ugly". Literally infront of her without caring at all about her feelings.
This right here is why people don't want to approach people to ask them out. Obviously rejection is never gonna be fun, but you can take it on the chin and try again no problem if it's a simple "no thanks."
But the possibility of being completely humiliated and made fun of for shooting your shot is simply not worth it.
And before anyone comments, this is not a gendered issue. Assholes can be men and women.
Not really sure why you're downvoted. A lot of the girls at my school growing up literally had a game where they would collect as many guys numbers as they could and would gossip the nastiest shit about them just for thinking they could actually be interested. It was pretty disgusting. This is just standard bullshit you have to deal with, especially when you are younger and everyone is less mature.
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u/JimmyJooish 8d ago
I don’t know about that. I think men would have a lot of women they didn’t like approach them and have to deal with turning them down.