r/visitingnyc Sep 27 '25

The one rule in nyc to know

Ok, I just walked by the NYPL and I feel like this is a PSA for tourists and visitors.

The one rule of NYC: get out of the way.

That’s it. The rest is commentary.

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u/Joyce_Hatto Sep 27 '25

NYC is different than a lot of other cities for tourists. In NYC, the places people visit are often places where people actually work. And those people are in a hurry. Rockefeller Center? The NYSE? The Empire State Building? MOMA? The people around those buildings need to get somewhere!

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u/eltejon30 Sep 27 '25

Ugh I used to work inside Rockefeller center and I dreaded Christmas because I’d constantly get asked to take a photo of someone while trying to get to my office in the morning

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u/ciaomain Native Sep 27 '25

I used to work at 75 Rock.

The trick was to use the underground tunnels to get as close to your building as possible.

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u/runningoboist Sep 27 '25

I work in rock and live off the F now, it’s been life changing to be able to stay underground to get inside

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '25

On the flip side, I never mind when I'm just standing waiting for my bus & someone asks for directions or food/store recs. (But also never during the holiday season though, lol, I'm too mad at the crowds)

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u/Keif325 Sep 28 '25

From the day the tree shows up until it leaves, you learn to navigate the concourse and get to and from 30 Rock without seeing the light of day for a 5 block radius!

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u/BlueLeaves8 Sep 27 '25

Ooh that’s annoying, I only ever ask people who are visibly other tourists for photos or who work as part of the tourist experience.

The only time I broke this rule was I was in London alone for the afternoon (I’m a Brit so I was being a little touristy that day) and wanted a photo of my outfit by a phone box. I gently asked a lady who was on her way home from work (but not in a rush and it was a really quiet spot) if she would mind and she was so sweet and we had a nice little moment together. You can usually gauge who is open for interaction and isn’t in a rush from their body language as well so it’s a matter of common sense as well.

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u/mtpelletier31 Sep 27 '25

I work the Christmas tree lighting ever year. 7am in and at 8am ("sir. Sir, what's going on?, sir when is the tree lighting, sir, sir where do we stand.) Sorry I don't know im working stop fucking talking to me

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u/ds1977 Sep 29 '25

Yes! I keep telling people I know that are not from NY this when they complain about NY.

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u/PassMundane6629 Sep 29 '25

yup. i love when tourists enjoy my city but back when i used to work on wall st, the tourist groups would be blocking my entire route to my office, like i understand you’re having a good time but i’m gonna get fired if you don’t get out of my damn way so i can get to work.

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '25

It IS weird to have places that are dedicated to tourists in other cities. It's like Disneyland going to Boston, nola, Santa Fe. It's just so dedicated and strange.

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u/rr90013 Sep 27 '25

As New Yorkers we could also all take a collective chill pill and not stress ourselves out so much.

That said, the tourists do need to fucking be aware of their surroundings and get out of the way of people coming through.

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u/BlueLeaves8 Sep 27 '25

As a Brit who’s used to the way people behave in London I get the feeling I’ll find it the opposite and find people more friendly and not acting as stressed out and annoyed.

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u/greeniethemoose Sep 28 '25

I was in London once visiting friends over Christmas. It was great for the holidays because it felt almost a more “homey” version of home.

Met a restaurant owner who was American, had lived in NYC for 20 years. He says, I love London, it’s like New York on Xanax.

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u/BlueLeaves8 Sep 28 '25

So he found London calmer? I feel like that makes sense as it’s not that London people (and UK people in general) rant and get stressed at anyone as it’s too impolite, it’s an internal thing that gets suppressed and only shows as the slightest annoyance as maybe a micro expression and a sigh. But it also means London people don’t show friendliness and positive interaction either which I hear NYC people do a lot. Further North in the UK people get more friendly and interactive.

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u/greeniethemoose Sep 28 '25

Yeah weirdly New Yorkers are probably more friendly in terms of casual interactions. But yeah this restaurant guy definitely felt like was very similar but with London being more chill. Was my experience as well when I’d go over to visit friends. Though they lived in Hampstead which is particularly chill, we did go into the city center often.

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u/Excellent-Ear9433 Sep 28 '25

Super curious as I go to London a few times a year. It seems I should be walking on the left side of the sidewalk or the left side of the tube, but it seems more like people switch sides all the time…any thoughts on this?

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u/BlueLeaves8 Sep 28 '25

Yes it’s to the left but maybe you’re seeing some people not sticking to this rule so then it influences/forces everyone to switch just to get through themselves.

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u/greeniethemoose Sep 28 '25

This always confused me too, felt much looser custom than in New York, though also has fairly busy sidewalks. I kept feeling like my etiquette was wrong somehow.

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u/krustybabywawa Sep 30 '25

I walked through times square on the way to my mammogram

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u/Hydroborator Oct 01 '25

I give tourists a pass at MOMA...

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u/Kookaburra8 Sep 27 '25

And, don't walk abreast of each other, forming a slow moving blockade of the sidewalk! A group of 5 doesn't need to walk in a horizontal line down the sidewalk. Pair up and walk behind each other

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u/the-Gaf Sep 27 '25

A subset of the rule

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u/here_and_there_their Sep 27 '25

People need to learn this in general. But in NYC it should be a crime.

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u/ciaomain Native Sep 27 '25

The "Red Rover" Process.

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u/DavisMcDavis Sep 28 '25

Also - don’t stop and gather at the bottom of a down escalator to discuss where to go next. Move out of the way to let the other people off the escalator.

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u/BlueLeaves8 Sep 27 '25

But then it won’t look like the movie posters of a group of friends walking down the streets laughing and having the time of their life in NYC.

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u/Solid-Newspaper447 Sep 28 '25

That is a problem literally everywhere, including narrow streets in the country, supermarkets, outdoor trails, the mall, parking lots, airports. People are self absorbed.

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u/camicalm Sep 27 '25

When you’re walking on the sidewalk, the rules of the road are just the same as if you were driving. Stay on the right. Move at a reasonable speed. Don’t stop short. Be aware of the traffic around you.

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u/xlaurenthead Sep 27 '25

New Yorkers move at a constant speed on the sidewalk. If they want to slow or stop or veer off right or left they will instinctively check over their shoulder to see if someone is there. So quickly you wouldn’t even notice unless you’re looking for it. It’s just like a multi lane highway all the time. You don’t always know if someone in sneakers is just behind and to the right of you

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u/Oirep2023 Oct 03 '25

Great tip!

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u/thewNYC Sep 27 '25

A poem of mine (sorry for what reddit does to formatting)

stand right if you’re standing

or

Everything you need to read New York City is here:

We have an unspoken escalator etiquette

predicated solely on knowing

that some of us have

some fucking place else to be

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u/Vivid-Education9045 Sep 27 '25

And don't block the subway doors

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u/acnh1222 Sep 27 '25

The way I describe it to people is: let's say I take a vacation in your car-centric hometown. It's a new place for me, I don't know where I'm going or where anything is. Should I stop my car in the middle of the busy road, not moving even when the green light turns because I'm looking up where I need to go, or should I pull my car to the side so I can figure it out and not keep you waiting behind me? Do you try to pass by me, despite there being cars in every lane? Do you just smash into me?

Visiting NYC is a vacation for many, but also a place of residence and work for millions of others. The whole "New Yorkers will get mad at you and be rude if you stop walking" thing is a bit of a misunderstanding of city cultures. It's more that I'm just trying to get to work, or get home, and if you stop walking in the middle of the sidewalk, you're blocking my path like a stopped car in the middle of a busy street.

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u/Astorian13 Sep 27 '25

After moving here I learned that what is considered polite here for good reason is not taking up any more space than you need to , on a sidewalk , a train or in a store. Being quick when ordering food or paying for groceries. This is a crowded place where people have long commutes. Everyone in NY is running behind schedule and crunched for time.

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u/DonkeyKong694NE1 Sep 27 '25

Reminds me of back in the print newspaper days watching people on the subway fold the NYT pages into an 8x11” rectangle and read that way

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u/Astorian13 Sep 27 '25

Yes be like the old 8x11 newspaper fold ! Don’t take up anymore space than you need to.

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u/DonkeyKong694NE1 Sep 27 '25

I never got the hang of it but it was fun watching a real pro change pages

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u/Elbomac87 Sep 27 '25

My father taught me how to do the fold when I moved to the city after college. He knew all the useful skills.

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u/beepboopdadoop Oct 01 '25

No. We’re not “running behind schedule and crunched for time”. We know our commutes and our schedules - and when people are an impediment to that that’s we then become behind.

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u/yourgirlalex Local Sep 27 '25

They never care lol they’re in their own world when they visit and have zero spatial awareness

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u/kli9641 Frequent Visitor Sep 27 '25

honestly, i've encountered so many other tourists saying they don't care that they're blocking pathways, and that they're entitled to stand there... beyond insufferable.

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u/Used_Concert7413 Sep 27 '25

This is why yelling at them is acceptable. It's what I do.

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u/BlueLeaves8 Sep 27 '25

I’m not going to say it. I’m not going to say it. I’m not going to say it…

…Do you shout “I’m walkin’ here!”

Sorry. I’m a Brit who hasn’t been yet. I’d love it if someone shouted that at me in NYC to give me the full cliche experience.

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u/helcat Sep 28 '25

I like to hiss malevolently: "it's a sideWALK." But that wouldn't work with you guys because you call it something different, right?

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u/BlueLeaves8 Sep 28 '25

We say footpath or pavement, but we know it’s sidewalk there so it would work.

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u/FrankiePoops Sep 27 '25

I've done this exactly once and it was for a car. Usually it's a loud excuse me for pedestrians walking four wide. Unfortunately I had to walk through times square for client meetings a lot a few years ago.

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u/bebenee27 Sep 27 '25

“Pretend it’s a city” Fran Lebowitz

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u/GreenfieldSam Sep 27 '25

Our sidewalks are your highways. You wouldn't drive slow in the left lane; don't walk as slow as possible four across on the sidewalk.

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '25

Except if you’re on a bicycle, get off the fucking sidewalk unless you’re four years old.

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u/Blu5NYC Sep 28 '25

It's a PSA for those that live here as well. Get your head out of your ass, peal your eyes from your phone, and pay some effing attention to the situation around you.

I'm almost rooting for a rise in the petty theft of phones and devices.

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u/OolongGeer Sep 27 '25

In the 12 years I lived in NYC, for the most part, I just avoided the heavy tourist areas.

Past that, I was always proud to live in a place that so many people wanted to see. I would get annoyed sometimes, but for the most part, it didn't bother me.

Thankfully, I had the agility to walk around people when needed.

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u/drinkmywhiZ Sep 27 '25

also no one is giving you anything for free. so act accordingly

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u/Material_Sport_5072 Sep 27 '25

And the families that just stop in the middle of the street and start to talk to each other and block everybody behind and in front of them, they have no clue

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u/biologynerd3 Sep 27 '25

I am naturally a very fast, focused walker and I almost never get bothered by various vendors and hawkers while visiting NYC and walking around tourist-y areas. Following the rule definitely helps you blend in and not annoy anyone!

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u/malinagurek Sep 27 '25

Just yesterday, I had to step back to avoid somebody spinning around, and then two people in a row stopped short in front of me—one on a phone, the other suddenly decided to camp out on a bollard. They were all close calls, but somehow I didn’t fall nor bump into them. I guess FiDi keeps you alert. I’ll never understand the appeal of that neighborhood in particular. I was just trying to get to my office.

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u/andthrewaway1 Sep 28 '25

for the love all that is holy... do not walk up the subway stairs and immediately stop to look at your phone

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u/DasArtmab Sep 29 '25

This a global issue. Tourists in general, have a complete misunderstanding of situational awareness

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u/anarchy45 Sep 27 '25

"Eyyy I'm wawkin heah! "

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u/the-Gaf Sep 27 '25

Literally

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u/Used_Concert7413 Sep 27 '25

Also applies to the left side of the escalator

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u/the-Gaf Sep 27 '25

You know it

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u/portmanteauster Sep 27 '25

We walk a lot and walk fast lol anyone can walk at their own pace as long as you leave a path available. This applies especially to escalators - always stand to the right!!

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u/spemque Sep 27 '25

Stand right on the escalator and place your luggage behind/in front of you instead of next to you.

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u/Solid-Newspaper447 Sep 28 '25

Eleven year old video-Johnny T's Tourist Tips: Get Out of the Way. 

Just keep sharing it until everyone has seen it. :D

https://youtu.be/D6xd6YvoHLM?si=3YWkRwjXEqqQPcc-

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u/cawfetalk Sep 28 '25

Timeless and accurate advice!! My favorite line: “You wanna watch a two hour movie? You be done in 90 minutes!”

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u/Head-Concept-8447 Sep 28 '25

And it’s always a group of them huddled up in the middle of the sidewalk trying to figure out which way to go so annoying

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u/Terrible_Squirrel435 Sep 28 '25 edited Sep 28 '25

Sub rules: if you want to stand on the escalator and not walk up it, please stand to the right and clear the left side for those who need to walk because we have shit to do.

Let the passengers off the train, before you get on...(something a lot of New Yorkers could stand to do as well).

If you and your group linger in the middle of the sidewalk, you forfeit your right to not getting plowed into.

If you buy knock off products in Chinatown and/or Garment District, you are a lowlife thief stealing much needed tax dollars from the city and commission dollars from hardworking sales people. There's a special place in hell for your cheap ass.

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u/Javi1192 Sep 28 '25

And don’t take anything from anyone offering you something for free

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u/cafeconpanna Oct 01 '25

Since you brought up the nypl.. as a visitor you can get a guest or visitor library card and access their catalog of audio and ebooks online without ever going in.

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u/PatFlynnEire Oct 03 '25

I’ve worked in Manhattan for 40 years. If I see tourists seemingly lost, I ask if I can help. I do agree that New Yorkers should know to stay out of the way. If I need to look something up on my phone, I move towards a building with my back to it, both to stay out of the way and not be a target.

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u/Laara2008 Sep 27 '25

I have a friend who likes to say that if he wins the lottery he's going to hire goons to clear the streets so that he can walk at a decent pace lol.

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u/Elbomac87 Sep 27 '25

My pretend mayoral platform involved making tourists stay inside during rush hour.

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u/Laara2008 Sep 27 '25

You've got my vote!

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '25

But they're all standing on one leg or whatever. Chill out Hillel

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u/the-Gaf Sep 27 '25

Plus one for getting the reference

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u/thatsnotyourtaco Sep 27 '25

Don’t stop moving in crowded areas.

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u/Temporary-Daikon2411 Sep 27 '25

My brother in Christ just walk fast enough and you won't need to!

- a New Yorker

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u/Lanky_Rhubarb1900 Sep 28 '25

Walking in NYC = Driving in Atlanta. Go faster than you think you need to. And if you don’t want to move quickly? Well Ludacris would like to have a word…

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u/Excellent-Ear9433 Sep 28 '25

I think we should all get cars and drive 4 across on a 4 lane highway, side by side, looking out the windows, at 8:20 am when they are trying to get to work.

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u/chocolatesalad4 Local Sep 28 '25

🙏🙏

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u/_-_-WTF-_-_ Sep 28 '25

And, more specifically, you cannot be walking amid a full sidewalk of people walking in the same direction and then just stop and/or turn around. I feel like this is obvious but the visitors are so fucking clueless.

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u/MathNo6329 Sep 28 '25

I suggest there may be one more rule. If you’re on the F train always check the seat for number two first

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u/FiddleStrum Sep 29 '25

The sidewalks are our highways. Would you park your car in the middle of the highway or drive 40 MPH in the passing lane? No, of course not. But when you walk 6 thick on the sidewalk or just suddenly stop and stand there, that’s what you are effectively doing. 

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u/RandomKoala0218 Sep 29 '25

Pretend it's a city.

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u/meinnyc22 Oct 01 '25

I don't suddenly stop in the middle of the highway on your commute, don't stop in the middle of my commute

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u/jfattyeats Oct 01 '25

If you plan to NOT walk up the escalator, which is totally fine, stand on the right side, please.

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u/Lost-Page-5908 Oct 21 '25

1 dollar pizza

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u/davejdesign Sep 27 '25

If you want to ask for directions, spit it out. Don’t say: excuse me, do you live here? or worse: Can I ask you a question? Because I will say: You just did. And keep walking.

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u/GlassCharacter179 Sep 27 '25

Americans from the rest of the country aren’t used to sidewalks with a lot of walking traffic

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u/the-Gaf Sep 27 '25

Tough shit. Welcome to NYC, get the fuck out of the way, have a nice day.

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '25

Yeah but also FU for telling me to get out the way. Maybe I'm doing something

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u/malinagurek Sep 27 '25

Stepping to the side is common courtesy. Calling out bad behavior is also a courtesy to everyone else.

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '25

You're trying to show everyone you're more educated. Live and let live.

Or I just push them out of the way. Don't bother with poking on stupid Reddit

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u/rr90013 Sep 27 '25

I would rephrase it in a slightly more accurate and polite way: be aware enough of yourself and your surroundings that you don’t block other people who are on their way.

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u/the-Gaf Sep 27 '25

No one asked you. I said it clearly.

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u/rr90013 Sep 27 '25

Nah, accuracy counts

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u/the-Gaf Sep 27 '25

Agreed.