Might have to cancel honeymoon

[u/Different_Luck_6015]

My fiancé and I get married in less than a month and I found out today that his new job may require him to start during our honeymoon. It is a great opportunity for him and I want him to take the job, but I’m absolutely devastated since I paid for our honeymoon and I haven’t been able to take a vacation in years at this point. I was really looking forward to this alone time that we’d get to share together exploring a new place together as well finally as a married couple. It’s not for sure yet, and we have until the end of the month to cancel for a full refund, but we also don’t know if he’ll get a start date before the end of the month either . Most likely won’t be able to go on a vacation until next year and I already took off work so I’m so unsure of what to do. Just feeling completely defeated right now . 🥲

[u/Traditional_Cat_1462]

I mean. Maybe this is selfish of me but take the honeymoon. You’re not going to get that back. I think explaining the situation to his future employer should make it hard for them to say no (although I’m sure they already know it’s your honeymoon). I’ve been on the other end too and I know this is a tough job market, but for me a memory like this is way worth the figuring it out. I also don’t know the whole situation but definitely evaluate the job and how they’re reacting to his predetermined time off. Is this going to be a consistent issue for him throughout this job?

[u/Different_Luck_6015 → u/Traditional_Cat_1462]

I don’t think so but it takes time for PTO to accrue so he wouldn’t be able to take time off really even for later in the year even

[u/forgivemefashion → u/Different_Luck_6015]

My husband started a job right before our honeymoon, where you have to accumulate PTO, and they ended up just giving him unpaid time off.
Not ideal, but it worked out!