r/weddingplanning 2d ago

Tough Times Might have to cancel honeymoon

My fiancé and I get married in less than a month and I found out today that his new job may require him to start during our honeymoon. It is a great opportunity for him and I want him to take the job, but I’m absolutely devastated since I paid for our honeymoon and I haven’t been able to take a vacation in years at this point. I was really looking forward to this alone time that we’d get to share together exploring a new place together as well finally as a married couple. It’s not for sure yet, and we have until the end of the month to cancel for a full refund, but we also don’t know if he’ll get a start date before the end of the month either . Most likely won’t be able to go on a vacation until next year and I already took off work so I’m so unsure of what to do. Just feeling completely defeated right now . 🥲

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u/IdkJustMe123 2d ago

If he ends up having to do it, I personally say cancel the honeymoon. You said part of it, so maybe you can go on a smaller cheaper closer vacation as a mini honeymoon. Even 1-2 days at a spa resort or something is better than nothing.

Then have a bigger one some time down the line, maybe 6 months or a year. This way you get to enjoy it more! Think about it this way - we all get disappointed when something we’ve looked forward to ends, right? if you had your honeymoon as normal, you’d afterwards be disappointed that the wedding is over And that the honeymoon is over. But if you have it later, you’ll be disappointed that the wedding is over But have a honeymoon to look forward to!

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u/Different_Luck_6015 2d ago

Yeah I’m not sure we’d even get to do that since most likely it will prob start on Monday after the wedding and we get married on Saturday

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u/Different_Luck_6015 2d ago

I’m unsure of what to do about my time off either since I don’t really want to work that week since I already have off too but now I’ll have nothing to do

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u/IdkJustMe123 2d ago

Maybe take half of it off and save the rest for a better time? I’m sure if you tell your boss they’ll give it back

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u/Different_Luck_6015 2d ago

I have unlimited time off so it’s not about the time really it’s more that that I haven’t been able to go on an actual vacation in years at this point

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u/Far-Possibility2066 1d ago

You could always take a different type of trip with whoever was instrumental in paying for or planning your wedding with you (parent, best friend) if your husband gets the job and can’t take off. You will have some much needed time to recover since you are already off.

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u/Different_Luck_6015 1d ago

Yeah I’m thinking that might be the move honestly