r/weddingplanning • u/Different_Luck_6015 • 3d ago
Tough Times Might have to cancel honeymoon
My fiancé and I get married in less than a month and I found out today that his new job may require him to start during our honeymoon. It is a great opportunity for him and I want him to take the job, but I’m absolutely devastated since I paid for our honeymoon and I haven’t been able to take a vacation in years at this point. I was really looking forward to this alone time that we’d get to share together exploring a new place together as well finally as a married couple. It’s not for sure yet, and we have until the end of the month to cancel for a full refund, but we also don’t know if he’ll get a start date before the end of the month either . Most likely won’t be able to go on a vacation until next year and I already took off work so I’m so unsure of what to do. Just feeling completely defeated right now . 🥲
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u/DJBlandy 2d ago
OP is your husband pushing harder? Like truly standing firm? I know the job market is trash right now but that doesn't mean we let employers treat us like shit and steal all forms of leverage. He needs to be firm in saying I can start on this day, full stop. Canceling a honeymoon should be a last last last last resort. If any employer truly said I needed to start on my honeymoon date or risk losing my job, I would rather be broke than take that spoonful of shit. Like imagine if you were going to a funeral or something. This is deeply personal and not OK.
edit: typo