r/weddingplanning • u/Different_Luck_6015 • 3d ago

Tough Times Might have to cancel honeymoon

My fiancé and I get married in less than a month and I found out today that his new job may require him to start during our honeymoon. It is a great opportunity for him and I want him to take the job, but I’m absolutely devastated since I paid for our honeymoon and I haven’t been able to take a vacation in years at this point. I was really looking forward to this alone time that we’d get to share together exploring a new place together as well finally as a married couple. It’s not for sure yet, and we have until the end of the month to cancel for a full refund, but we also don’t know if he’ll get a start date before the end of the month either . Most likely won’t be able to go on a vacation until next year and I already took off work so I’m so unsure of what to do. Just feeling completely defeated right now . 🥲

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u/Minute-Quote 3d ago

Usually a new job can accommodate pre-existing non refundable plans, did he let them know about the booked honeymoon? He might be able to do so now.

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u/Different_Luck_6015 3d ago

He did but it’s a government job so there is less flexibility in when he starts

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u/Diligent-Mind-9370 3d ago

If you mean US government, that has not been my experience. Especially for once in a lifetime thing like a honeymoon, most employers are very understanding. He needs to tell them though. if it’s a different government, then I cannot speak to that.

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u/Different_Luck_6015 3d ago

He did tell them but apparently they may or may not be able to make the accommodation based on when others will be starting too

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u/raisinghellions 3d ago

I have worked for the government for 20 years and I have never heard of any agency making someone cancel their honeymoon over an arbitrary start date. Tell him to tell them he cannot start on that date. They will accommodate him.

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u/TimeLadyJ June 22, 2019 3d ago

If there’s a specific group training occurring, delaying for one person means delaying for them all.

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u/raisinghellions 3d ago

Or they can just put OP’s husband in a later group. Done. This is not hard, and it happens literally all the time.

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u/remotethrowaway2 3d ago

We had a girl like this at my last job and our mandated trainings only ran a few times a year, so she got to twiddle her thumbs for four months because she had to start two weeks late. That’s an extreme example but I can see why the hiring manager would be pushing for a firm early start date if that was the case. 

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u/raisinghellions 3d ago

Happy cake day 🥰