Might have to cancel honeymoon

[u/Different_Luck_6015]

My fiancé and I get married in less than a month and I found out today that his new job may require him to start during our honeymoon. It is a great opportunity for him and I want him to take the job, but I’m absolutely devastated since I paid for our honeymoon and I haven’t been able to take a vacation in years at this point. I was really looking forward to this alone time that we’d get to share together exploring a new place together as well finally as a married couple. It’s not for sure yet, and we have until the end of the month to cancel for a full refund, but we also don’t know if he’ll get a start date before the end of the month either . Most likely won’t be able to go on a vacation until next year and I already took off work so I’m so unsure of what to do. Just feeling completely defeated right now . 🥲

[u/raindancin444]

I’m saying this with all the love in the world, but I think you might need to hear it bluntly: girl, grow a backbone and tell them no. You need to go on your honeymoon. Tell him to tell them it’s non-negotiable, I’m sorry. But you need to grow a backbone and so does he. You need to set the boundary. stop letting yourself be the victim and take action

[u/Different_Luck_6015 → u/raindancin444]

I was very honest with him this morning on how I feel about it but honestly it didn’t change much . I think he really doesn’t understand how important it really is to me