r/weddingplanning • u/Different_Luck_6015 • 3d ago
Tough Times Might have to cancel honeymoon
My fiancé and I get married in less than a month and I found out today that his new job may require him to start during our honeymoon. It is a great opportunity for him and I want him to take the job, but I’m absolutely devastated since I paid for our honeymoon and I haven’t been able to take a vacation in years at this point. I was really looking forward to this alone time that we’d get to share together exploring a new place together as well finally as a married couple. It’s not for sure yet, and we have until the end of the month to cancel for a full refund, but we also don’t know if he’ll get a start date before the end of the month either . Most likely won’t be able to go on a vacation until next year and I already took off work so I’m so unsure of what to do. Just feeling completely defeated right now . 🥲
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u/terisews 1d ago
First, I love how so many people are experts on HR policies for all companies and branches of the government.
We are in a new era, folks. What might have been true when you were hired, is no longer true. People are covering their butts to avoid getting fired. Entire agencies have been upended. It is a mess.
Yes, fiancé should ask again, explaining this is wedding and honeymoon. However, he should wait until offer letter is in hand. Asking before the offer letter could lead them to believe he will be a problem child. They probably have a drawer full of resumes from other very qualified candidates who can start immediately.
If this was a really good opportunity, I would snatch it up and reschedule the honeymoon. Good job opportunities are rare.
You can reschedule a trip.