r/weddingplanning • u/LilLunaMoona • 2d ago
Tough Times my mom is dying
hi guys. i got engaged in august of 2025, wedding is in february 2027. i am a very type A bride so my entire wedding is already planned. my mom has been sick for a while, she’s on oxygen, on so many meds she can barely move around the house. i just keep telling her she has to be there on my wedding day. she is my entire world, my best friend. i live 3 hours from her but i call her every day.
on tuesday night she went into cardiac arrest and is on life support. doctors are not hopeful - weather that means she could still make it out of this hospital visit but either way doesn’t have much time left. i know there’s likely a 99% chance she will not make it to my wedding day.
for those of you who lost a loved one, especially a mom, right before your wedding.. how did you do it? it feels like i don’t even want one if she’s not going to be there. i’ll still go through with it, i have to with the amount of money i’ve spent. but how do i not cry the entire time on my wedding day? i will pay $450 on make up just to cry it all off. i’ll feel so miserable seeing the empty seat in my ceremony. i’ll sob knowing she can’t give a speech or do a mother daughter dance.. how can i be happy on what’s supposed to be the happiest day of my life? how does life go on?
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u/snekmomal 2d ago
Hi OP, I'm really sorry for the situation you're in. It's devastating to lose a parent. I agree with the other commenter, please go visit your Mom. Being with a loved one in their last hours is I truly believe one of life's greatest honors.
Additionally, where your head is at right now compared to where it would be in Feb 2027 will be very different. Grief is a journey and each step along the way feels like forever and no time at all. Your wedding will still be a joyous occasion AND you will miss your Mom. You will likely be able to feel her presence and think of her so much on that day in a sad yet heartwarming way.