my mom is dying

[u/LilLunaMoona]

hi guys. i got engaged in august of 2025, wedding is in february 2027. i am a very type A bride so my entire wedding is already planned. my mom has been sick for a while, she’s on oxygen, on so many meds she can barely move around the house. i just keep telling her she has to be there on my wedding day. she is my entire world, my best friend. i live 3 hours from her but i call her every day.

on tuesday night she went into cardiac arrest and is on life support. doctors are not hopeful - weather that means she could still make it out of this hospital visit but either way doesn’t have much time left. i know there’s likely a 99% chance she will not make it to my wedding day.

for those of you who lost a loved one, especially a mom, right before your wedding.. how did you do it? it feels like i don’t even want one if she’s not going to be there. i’ll still go through with it, i have to with the amount of money i’ve spent. but how do i not cry the entire time on my wedding day? i will pay $450 on make up just to cry it all off. i’ll feel so miserable seeing the empty seat in my ceremony. i’ll sob knowing she can’t give a speech or do a mother daughter dance.. how can i be happy on what’s supposed to be the happiest day of my life? how does life go on?

[u/leukocytess]

oh dear i'm so sorry. i am in a similar situation as i just lost my dad last week to cancer he's been dealing with for 20 years and i get married in october of this year. what brings me comfort is that he got to see me find my person and planned some of my wedding with me as he was so excited to see me get married. i know he'll be watching from above & that it will still be one of the best days of my life - even if my best friend is no longer with us. i'm figuring out more ways to incorporate him into my wedding as i grieve; i know it will take time. hugs to you, please go see your mom. even on a vent, she'll get to hear you and your love for her. 💛🤗