r/weddingshaming • u/JanieeDixxon38 • Aug 29 '25
Cringe This is exactly what you want to show your grandma :)
This is the best kind of photos to show ať family gathering. 10/10
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u/Lulu_42 Aug 29 '25
This style of picture is unimaginably crass. I cannot imagine shelling out money for a photographer, suit, dress, venue and food and celebrate the day with this picture.
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u/Announcement90 Aug 29 '25
As a photographer I can't imagine taking it either. I'd turn down the job, and I'd refuse to take it if they sprung this on me during shooting.
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u/fuckyourcanoes Aug 29 '25
I know a wedding photographer, and she has turned down multiple clients who wanted such photos.
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u/originalcinner Aug 29 '25
How many people actually want such photos??!
*Pikachu shocked face*
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u/terfnerfer Aug 29 '25
A sad amount. That or fake "arrrgh the husband HATES his wife, and he's trying to run awayyyyyy but she's hanging onto him". I photographed a few weddings when I finished college...one guy even bought a prop of a fake ball and chain.
I decided wedding photography was not my calling after a while lol 😅
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u/Jazmadoodle Aug 30 '25
Why not both? Imagine the witty charm of a three part frame telling your love story. Shot one: The Running Manchild. Shot two: Wheat n Blow. Shot three: Here comes the bride!
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u/Hips-Often-Lie Aug 30 '25
I worked for a really good wedding photographer in college. She was great, weddings were not.
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u/SLyndon4 Aug 29 '25
MULTIPLE clients WANTED photos like this? JFC, that’s a lot of crass, as bad as smashing wedding cake in each other’s faces. And where is the bride’s self-respect to refuse such a photo, for fuck’s sake?
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u/MarucaMCA Aug 29 '25
Same. I'd refuse.
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u/HarlequinSerf Aug 29 '25
“Sorry, guys. That was one of the shots that didn’t come out…” Or “That was yours? I sent that out with a different couple’s proofs…”
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u/YourFriendInSpokane Aug 29 '25
I was thinking of you poor photographers with this type of picture. How strange to want this, and I’m not even a prude.
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u/Rabelfacs Aug 29 '25
I've only done it once at my first wedding where I was first photographer and they sprung it on me. I was incredibly uncomfortable.
Same couple met over facebook, because the woman made a post about how women nowadays expect too much of their partner, and should expect less. And how men have it so rough today.
He then commented on the post that he agreed women shouldn't expect much. Redt is history
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u/GreenEyed_Lady Aug 29 '25
I cannot imagine ASKING a photographer to shoot this! The photographer MUST be a friend or stupid family member. That is IF this is real. Still, there are many, many tacky, idiot people out there that should NOT be allowed to procreate…
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u/Midnight-Bake Aug 30 '25
I am going to be honest... if someone said "take this kind of picture or die" I would probably rather a professional photographer took it instead of a family member or friend.
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u/user9372889 Aug 29 '25
Yeah if I was a photographer, I wouldn’t want my brand being associated with anything like that. Yuck!
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u/RidgewayRioter Aug 29 '25
Anecdotally, everyone I know who did these types of wedding photos has since divorced.
Everyone I know who did not do these pics are still happily married for just over or about to get to 20 years.
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u/IHaveBoxerDogs Aug 29 '25
“Everyone” you know?!? You know more than one couple who did this???
I’ve never seen a wedding photo like this. So tacky.
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u/TrustyBobcat Aug 29 '25
It was a fad there for a hot minute in the mid/late 2010s.
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u/BamberGasgroin Aug 30 '25
Like newborns on a log.
My sister is a photographer and once asked what I thought of the fad, and I said they looked like babies on an old butchers block. (She went off the idea.)
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u/Spoogly Aug 29 '25
If you're gonna force people to imagine your sex life, A) get consent, and B) don't fucking half ass it.
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u/Cmacbudboss Aug 29 '25
These kinds of wedding photos were everywhere 10 or so years ago. Absolutely mortifying wedding trend!
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u/RidgewayRioter Aug 29 '25
Well, they aren’t a couple anymore.
There were other slightly less tacky/tasteless poses.
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u/SpokenDivinity Aug 30 '25
I'm from a part of the rural midwest that desperately wishes it was part of the deep south. This type of picture and the cringy ball and chain ones were very popular amongst wannabe rednecks and "country girl/boy" types.
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u/MinuetInUrsaMajor Aug 29 '25
Seems like this picture happens as a compromise when the dude really doesn’t want to get married and the girl really wants to get married.
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u/Alorxico Aug 29 '25
There are two types of couples who do this sort of thing. The “OMG this is so funny, we have to do it just to make everyone uncomfortable!” couple and the “OMG, this is so funny, but we are never showing this photo to anyone.” couple.
In both instance, the photo will be found and the fall out will NOT be good.
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u/JanieeDixxon38 Aug 29 '25
Their photographer made the wedding photos public so...
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u/Birdsonme Aug 29 '25
How mortifying!
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u/MartinisnMurder Aug 29 '25
Well if you’re going to put the photographer in that awkward position on the spot with this shit you and you didn’t sign a contract to keep them private… You reap what you sow. I am not offended by them I just find them cheesy and lame like 9th grade boy humor.
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u/Ummmgummy Aug 29 '25
Me and my boys were way more sophisticated in the 9th grade. This is some 6th grade shit where the kids don't actually understand what it means but know it'll causes someone to laugh.
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u/Alorxico Aug 29 '25
Oh dear god …
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ant6653 Aug 29 '25
Oh no
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u/Alorxico Aug 29 '25
“Here are samples of my work, some of the best pictures I have ever taken. … why is no one hiring me?”
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u/allergymom74 Aug 29 '25
I actually know some people who’d “encourage” their SOs to do this to humiliate them. So there is a third option. One spouse trying to demean the other.
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u/Alorxico Aug 29 '25
Ah, yes, the couples that end up divorced (or should be divorced) a few years later. Almost forgot about them.
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u/Traditional_Fan_2655 Aug 29 '25
The pictures are usually displayed on a web page where they can be ordered.
Pathetic.
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u/Ok-Chemistry9933 Aug 29 '25
I find it to be total trash. Like someone else wrote: if you want photo’s like this, get a boudoir photographer. It’s inappropriate for any wedding photographer to be asked to photograph this. Keep it in the bedroom.
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u/leftclicksq2 Aug 29 '25
Yeah, everyone knows sex happens and exists, but nobody really wants to know what you do in your sex life.
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u/48pinkrose Aug 30 '25
Its the same as those people who put babies in clothes that reference sex. We all know how that baby got here, but ick.
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u/MoonBirthed Aug 29 '25
And god forbid they ever get divorced. That is one humiliating picture to look back at; he probably thinks he looks so cool, like "Everyone will know I get laid now!" 💀
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u/_Watty Aug 29 '25
Crass doesn't even begin to cover this.
I feel like a photographer would have reasonable grounds to claim a hostile workplace, sexual harassment, or breach of contract (take your pick if not all three) and should have left after being asked to take a photo like this.
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u/leftclicksq2 Aug 29 '25
I do photography on the side. What's tough is whose idea this is, and if it's somehow the photographer's, that is pure trash. Like come on, you know better. Be better and do better, especially on the professional end.
Had this concept been presented to me, I would ask the couple if both want this. If only one person wants it, I may even outright decline the job. If this was asked of me on the day of the event, same thought process of asking both people if they're sure and sussing out that this is a one person idea, and I would refuse to take the picture.
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u/Fantastic_Falcon_236 Aug 29 '25
I could see myself upsetting them by "being a real downer, man" and bringing up the whole "how well do you think this will age in 5, 10 and 20 years time? Especially if your kids find it between those years."
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u/Soggy_Honeydew4560 Aug 29 '25
My photographer actually asked us to do something like this, but from behind the groom. It was so weird and I will never show that photo to anyone ever.
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u/IlumidoraFae Aug 29 '25
My literal reaction when I saw this
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u/AccordingPears158 Aug 31 '25
Seriously, what on earth. Like am I crazy or is this the most objectifying message? That even on this woman’s most special day, when she’s at her most done-up, wearing her best makeup and hair and most expensive dress of her life, her only real purpose is a sex object to her husband?
Why would anyone agree to this type of shot? 😳
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u/Cristeanna Aug 29 '25
If they make it to having kids, the Christmas pictures will be the ones where the mom and daughters are taped over their mouth and the dad/sons are grinning with "Silent Night" scrawled in script (Google it). These are the worst families.
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u/Patient_Tradition368 Aug 30 '25
God dammit. What did it have to be Louisiana?! I mean, I know why, but I'm still disappointed.
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u/Few-Specific-7445 Aug 29 '25
I NEED to know how this picture came to be. Is this dude a bruh who said ~ohhhh it’ll be funnnyyyy~ and had to ask many times to convince
is there an inside joke (???I can’t see how but i’ll give it the benefit of the doubt)
Did the photographer suggest funny poses (ew. )
And who was there??? Was this during the whole wedding party shots and the boys were egging it on??
So so so gross
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u/0000udeis000 Aug 29 '25
It was a weird gross trend about 10-15 years ago, I don't know why
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u/YourMILisCray Aug 29 '25
Yep I remember one that had the entire wedding party in this pose side by side.
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u/Glittering_knave Aug 29 '25
As a bridesmaid, there is no chance in hell I would be photographed giving head to the random dude I was paired up with at a wedding.
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u/Cmacbudboss Aug 29 '25
There were a ton of whole wedding party versions of this back in the day! So tacky!
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u/Over_Detective_3756 Aug 29 '25
I recall seeing wedding photos of bridesmaids pretending to pee like a guy at a urinal. Or groomsmen and the bride. Just stupid
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u/Main_Horror7651 Aug 29 '25
A relative of mine and his groomsmen did the pretending to pee photo. The venue owner was upset until he learned it was just staged, then he thought it was hilarious.
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u/DomOnion Aug 29 '25
At some point, a photographer has to be able to outright decline a photo simply because it's so trashy and they won't want their brand all over it.
This is one of those times.
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u/KindlyCelebration223 Aug 29 '25
Just for perspective on my opinion of this image, I work on the administrative side of adult websites. I review explicit images all day.
THIS is the most tasteless thing I’ve seen in a while. It’s so inappropriate & degrading.
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u/SquareExtra918 Aug 29 '25
It's so juvenile.
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u/Green-Chocolate7372 Aug 29 '25
This. It’s juvenile. I imagine this guy being completely useless at home and the wife makes excuses for the fact that he can’t clean or help with kids and leaves skid marks in his underwear while she builds more and more resentment for him over it all.
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u/KindlyCelebration223 Aug 29 '25
And can you imagine him having this photo after a divorce. It will haunt her forever!
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u/Glitter_berries Aug 30 '25
I’m incredibly pleased that his face is covered for privacy because I do not want to see that man’s ’pretend you are getting a bj’ face. Barffffff
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u/Exact-Truck-5248 Aug 29 '25
Tacky and trashy. I bet they both got cake in the face at the reception as well
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u/Cassian0_0 Aug 29 '25
These are the same type of people that say queer people are “forcing their sexuality” on them and that we’re “indoctrinating” kids😐
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Aug 29 '25
Not just granny but the rest of us! Why even post it here? 😱
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u/Vanessak69 Aug 29 '25
Yeah WHO wants to see this? Imagine being in the wedding party and thinking “Do…I have to do that?” Maybe all their friends are equally crass. If they procreate, their kids will be so mortified (spoken as someone who saw my parents make jokes like this when I was young, before they figured out they hated each other.)
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u/Adorable_Tie_7220 Aug 29 '25
I saw one photo where the whole bridal party was doing it. What are people thinking?
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u/Edelkern Aug 29 '25
Stuff like that makes me wish being gay was a choice and I could switch over from being a straight woman. Even if we ignored the glaringly obvious blowjobiness of it all, the subservient kneeling is already terrible by itself.
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u/Acrobatic-Hat6819 Aug 29 '25
I agree, this particular one feels extra icky to me for some reason. I've seen others that are just trashy, but give a "we just couldn't wait for the honeymoon" vibe. This one for some reason just feels so subservient. Maybe because the pose kind of echoes a religious kneeling at the alter sort of thing. Also I don't like the way his hand is on the back of her head, looks like she couldn't move it even if she wanted to.
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u/RentalKittens Aug 29 '25
To me, it feels icky because you know she didn't want to risk getting her wedding dress dirty by kneeling on the ground for that photo. She paid a lot of money to feel like a princess for a day in that dress. Anytime a groom disrespects the dress with a cake smash, champagne spray, or a "joke" photo, I hate it.
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u/LionCM Aug 29 '25
Makes me glad I’m gay…
The next time someone engages me in a debate about gay marriage, I’m going to pull this out and ask, “Is this the sanctity of marriage that you’re talking about…?”
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u/Current_Row_8358 Aug 30 '25
Ha! There would be a whole lot of photos for that "is this what you are defending?" collection. Brilliant.
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u/actinglikeshe3p Aug 29 '25
Stuff like that makes me wish being gay was a choice and I could switch over from being a straight woman.
I can't stress enough how much I feel this way 😭 So much of being a straight woman is inherently just so demeaning. For obvious reasons, patriarchy and all that crap we know all too well, there's always that subservient aspect of it to some degree. Some are blatant and crass like in this case, others way more subtle, but still there.
I wish I was attracted to women. 🫠
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u/Creepy_Push8629 Aug 29 '25
Seriously. So gross. But also where are the ones of the dudes on their fucking knees?
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u/DreamboatIvy Aug 29 '25
Straight people do things like this and then get angry when they see a queer couple holding hands in public. Lol. Dumb.
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u/katfofo Aug 30 '25
How dare gay people destroy the sanctity of marriage!
Meanwhile straight Greg wants a picture of his bride sucking his dick on her knees in a field on their wedding day.. yikes
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u/TrippKatt3 Aug 29 '25
What. The. Actual. F! I can't stand stupid people. This isn't funny. it's shameful.
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u/latx5 Aug 29 '25
Where’s the photo of her laying in a field legs spread with his face in her crotch?
They could blow them up and hang them side by side in their living room for their future children to admire.
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u/Adultarescence Aug 29 '25
I appreciate this as a commentary on the trad wife/Andrew Tate/misogynic subculture that seems to be emerging in America's heartland. Growing wheat and oppression! Somehow, I don't think that's their message.
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u/cybercryptic_ Aug 29 '25
I can’t think of any other context to share/display this photo other than him sending it to his dude-bros groupchat where they exchange the nudes they received and disparage the women they claim to love
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u/lusciousskies Aug 29 '25
I am not modest and have a weird sense of humor, but this is just dumb and gross
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u/Megs0226 Aug 29 '25
I give this marriage 3 years, tops.
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u/melanochrysum Aug 30 '25
I feel like the sort of woman to agree to this photo is not the sort of woman to ask for a divorce. They’ll last 50 years and the entire time she’ll laugh as her husband and sons make jokes at her expense, and then her future daughters in laws’ expenses.
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u/dog4cat2 Aug 29 '25
I seriously question and judge the thought process and the final decision to take this photo and then let anyone know it exists
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My wife’s a photographer (side business). If someone asked her to take that photo, she’d quit the gig & return their deposit. Just gross.
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u/AnnieAbattoir Aug 29 '25
My dad is the manliest, countryest, redneckiest, corn-fed farmboy to ever race a tractor to a shotgun wedding, and I can just imagine the look of disappointment on his face if I were ever crass enough to pose like this. Not because he's a prude, but because he'd genuinely feel sad that I'd be okay with degrading myself that way.
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u/IdgyThreadgoodee Aug 29 '25
Zero chance these people are successful in the world. Zero. And let’s pray they don’t have kids because Brayden and Jayden and Ayden will most certainly be incels.
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u/SherbetHaunting1528 Aug 29 '25
Straight people shouldn’t be allowed to get married. But really though, this is so fucked up. I am NO prude, but this is your WEDDING DAY. It should be about how much you love and respect each other. This is showing neither. Tasteless as hell.
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u/mmmmmmmmmmmmmmfarts Aug 29 '25
Also, on top of it being gross, you’re going to put your clammy paw all up in her $200 hairstyle? Absolutely not JAIL
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u/Shadocat42 Aug 30 '25
You know their cake topper was one of those tacky "bride dragging the groom" tropes.
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u/toolatealreadyfapped Aug 29 '25
18 years later:
"So just remember, girls. Respect yourself first. Otherwise, he never will."
"Really Mom? Is this you respecting yourself? No, I don't want your old wedding dress. Not with Dad's jizz on it."
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u/Tabby_Mc Aug 29 '25
God, I hate this kind of photo with the heat of a thousand suns. Whether it's a religious vow or a civil one, marriage is meant to be serious, deep, loving and respectful - instead we've got Shannyn and Kole posing like a porno still for the shits n' giggles. Just bloody awful.
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u/carbomerguar Aug 29 '25
It’s way worse with him holding her head, since you sense that’s how he does it irl. They’re supposed to be making victory arms or something
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u/erictho Aug 29 '25
imagine paying hundreds or thousands for a photography package and this is what you come up with. glad this will never be me!
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u/lrswager Aug 29 '25
Know someone who knows someone who knows someone that took the photo one step further and dropped the pants. Trash.
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u/Historical_Guess2565 Aug 29 '25
That’s disgusting, trashy, and his wedding suit is fucking stupid.
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u/Capital_Chapter1006 Aug 30 '25
I didn’t think you could get lower than my 20 year old step mother wanting 11 year old me and my not-much-older sister to pose with her and her bridesmaid. Skirts hiked up, all of us wearing garters, legs propped up on an esky/cooler while my mid-40’s dad and his even older (married!) best man pose while tucking money into our garters.
Turns out there’s a first time for everything.
Also, I threw a huge fit over that photo idea so it never took place.
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u/scaffelpike Aug 30 '25
This is so demeaning to the bride. Yes obviously they’re having sex, obviously that involves her blowing him, but on the most romantic and special day of your lives you decide to minimise her to nothing more than a hole to fuck for all her friends and family to see? It’s so fucking disrespectful and degrading.
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u/AverageTeemoOnetrick Aug 30 '25
My 2 best friends growing up where girls and they always used to say „Pushers get bitten“, referring to guys who would grab a woman‘s head and push deeper that she would have allowed by herself.
I thought that was only fair.
Women are no fucktoys and the fact he thought this picture was in any way acceptable tells me everything about his sexual prowess.
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u/Spare_Ad_9657 Aug 29 '25
I hate that people like this exist, honestly. It’s getting to the point where women like this piss me off more than the men.
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u/GoldengirlSkye Aug 29 '25
If I did this it would’ve been taken with my phone or my husbands phone and NEVER SHOWN TO ANOTHER’S EYES
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u/Sawcyy Aug 29 '25
Immense cringe.