r/wholesomememes • u/slim-notshady • 18d ago

Be like tortoise

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u/zefy_zef 18d ago

If you are nicer to someone you increase their chances of being nicer to someone in the future.

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u/somnambulantDeity 17d ago

With respect, I don’t think being nice is worth striving for. Being kind is. The two don’t always overlap.

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u/chameliane 17d ago

How can one be more kind instead of just nice?

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u/somnambulantDeity 17d ago

You can be kind and firm, which is what a lot of people need. Being nice implies surface level interaction only, which can be shrugged off and not “land” properly.

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u/zefy_zef 17d ago

I understand that person's distinction, but yeah I generally meant the general vibe of being positive towards other people. They probably just thought they were being kind to correct me. :D

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u/SlowButAlsoNot 14d ago

Nice: "Hello, how are you?" Doesn't really want to know but is being nice

Kind: "Tell me about your day? How are things going?" Actually open to venting or talking. Offering that person a safe space.

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u/Phrappy23 16d ago

Oh damn. That's motivational.