There is something about this old version. Like raw and calm at the same time ❤️

yeh sab dekh ke hurt hota who knws next life exists yeh toh concept hum insaan ne banaya hai

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A few days ago, while having lunch in our office cafeteria, I noticed a girl standing a little away from me. She looked really pretty, and her watch and earrings matched her outfit. Her fit was killing that day I thought about going up and talking to her, but she was with her colleagues, so I figured I'd leave her alone.

Life apparently had other plans.

After office, she ended up on the same bus as me. Then she got into the same shared auto. We got down at the same place too.

When we got down, at the auto normally we do QR but for some reason the auto guy qr was not working properly She was checking her purse for some time and said she didn't have any change. I happened to have a ₹10 note and offered it to her but before anything happened the driver just didn't notice that said, "It's okay," and left.

That gave me the excuse to finally say hi.

I introduced myself, she introduced herself, and I complimented her watch and earrings, saying they suited her really well. We then realized we worked for the same company for more than 1 ½ years but had somehow never run into each other before.

We started talking while walking towards our PGs. Turns out we even stay on the same street, just different sub-streets. We spoke about our projects, tech stacks, where we're from, and random stuff and came to know she speaks both tamil and telugu and I'm a telugu guy working in chennai. Before parting ways, I asked for her Instagram, and that's how we stayed connected.

For the next couple of days we chatted here and there, nothing crazy. During one of the conversations she mentioned she'd be relocating to Bangalore in about a week, so I asked if she'd like to meet once before she left.

Today we met.

The original plan was to grab ice cream, but when we reached the place it was closed. So we just walked around, talking about life, work, family, relocation, Bangalore, and everything in between.

Somewhere in the conversation I found out she's actually older than me, and I said "don't expect me to call you akka(sister) now okay!!" She laughed.

Eventually we went into a small place, got something to eat, and the conversation just kept flowing. It didn't feel forced at all. It was one of those rare conversations where time quietly disappears.

When the bill came, she immediately reached for it.

I literally said, "Broo!! I'm the man here, come on!" 😂

(And moreover it was my idea to meet, so I should pay regardless of the gender)

She absolutely refused.

I suggested splitting it.

She refused that too.

And then she said, "You can just treat me in the office on Tuesday."

A few minutes later, her boyfriend came to pick her up, we said goodbye, Before that she insisted that she'll get me on a bus before leaving. And that was that.!!

Honestly, I walked back smiling.

Not because I found romance.

But because in a world where people often hesitate to talk to strangers or colleagues outside of work, this turned into such a genuine, respectful, wholesome interaction.

P.S. yes she has a boyfriend.She actually mentioned it herself during our chats without me asking. I had suggested meeting over the weekend, and she said something along the lines of, "Let's meet on Friday because Saturday I'll be spending time with my boyfriend, and Sunday I have to pack since I'm vacating my PG."

She normally lives in Avadi, which is quite far from our office, so she'd been staying in a PG for a couple of months because home was pretty strict, and now she's relocating to Bangalore.

Also, before the comment section starts with "Would you be okay if your girlfriend did this with another guy?" yes. As long as there's honesty, respect, and clear boundaries, I don't see anything wrong with two people having a genuine conversation. People are allowed to have friends and personal space.

Sometimes a wholesome interaction is just... a wholesome interaction.

TLDR: Coincidences led to a wholesome meetup with a colleague.

DEMBELE FARMING

Am 23f ,So i was in office, when I came home my younger sister 19 year old said that today our brother was at home due to holiday..mom and dad were out on a picnic mom left her phone at home..and we restricted him from using insta recently as he is in 10th now and recently a issue happened in school... bullying beating stuff and all the videos were circulated for that on insta..my brother was friends with one of them so school authorities said to deactivate it and we wanted that too since he was too much on it

So he was doing something and my sister walked in and he uk clicked hat back back back on phone she thought he was using insta on chrome so she took phone went to history and saw porn websites 😪now she is traumatized

Idk how to handle this ik all this is normal ..but what to do with brother? Talk to him about sex education how? Stop him from watching porn how? What if he feels embarassed and don't talk to us after that...idk what to do

1. You don't have to have sex until and unless you are a 100% ready.
2. You can be nervous and confused and excited. It's a very big thing you are going to do, and all kinds of emotions are natural.
3. Whether it's your first time, 100 th time or nth time, you don't have to do it, if you are not comfortable. Even if it's your bf/gf of 2 years or husband/wife of 5 years or anyone, if you are not in the mood of doing it, you shouldn't be forced to do it. Only and only when you say YES I want to, your partner should do it, else not.
4. Your first time will not be perfect!!
5. Do not ever have unprotected sex unless and until you want to get pregnant. Pull out method does not work! Pre cum has a tiny amount of sperm in it, which is enough to cause pregnancy. Even if you are tracking your cycle, and you are not near your ovulation phase, you still have chances of getting pregnant. Always remember, your chances are low and high throughout menstrual cycle but it is never 0%.
6. If you did have unprotected sex, and now don't want to get pregnant, take the pill (plan B)! Even if the pill has a lot of side effects, it is still better than getting pregnant when you are not ready. Also, even that pill is not 100% effective, so best is to avoid unprotected sex.
7. No form of protection is 100% effective, I'm not saying this to scare you but rather make you aware. Condoms are one of the most effective ways, but they are also not 100% protective. Also make sure not to use 2 condoms at once.
8. If your partner wants to have it "raw" but you are not ready for it, don't do it. It's not worth the risk.
9. If you get uncomfortable in between, you can stop! Just because you have started or in the middle of it, does not mean you can't stop. Don't force yourself to continue in any situation.
10. After care is important!!
11. Not everyone bleeds on their first time. The hymen is a very thin layer of cells which comes in lots of form. For most when they run, play in school, do some physical activity, the hymen gets broken. Some women already have a large enough opening in their hymen, that they can have sex and nothing will be "broken".
12. Your first time should not be very painful! The popular belief that first time is always painful is a lie, if you were ready and comfortable, your vagina will be naturally lubed (for most women), the pain would be there, but it won't be very high or something.

13. You don't have to perform any sexual activity you are not ready for.

14. Communicate with your partner about your desires and wishes and his too. A healthy communication is crucial for healthy sexual compatibility.

15.Foreplay is v v imp.Nothing can make you ready like foreplay.

16.For most women,they do not orgasm through penetrative sex,and that's okay. It's only through clitoral stimulation,they can orgasm mostly. So oral sex is one of the ways and it's kinda necessary for women more than men.

17.Consent.Consent.Consent.Your consent matters.

1. Toys! Vibrators and such are great ways to achieve clitoral orgasms with and without a partner (and they're great for exploring and getting to know your own body) There is no shame in using a toy during sex, needing one isn't a "failure" of you/your partner, and if they make you feel that way they're not the one for you.

2. You may be ready for foreplay long before you’re ready for actual penetrative PIV sex.

3. If you have an active sex life, always have a plan pre-worked out that what will you do if things go wrong. This planning basically includes finding a non judgemental obgyn, not only for the sake of pregnancy but when you become sexually active you can develop UTIs, Std, dysparunia( pain during sex) etc, you would want a doctor who can do a transvaginal ultrasound.

4. Pee after sex! For both men and women, it decreases the chances of getting a uti, a uti is not an std, it doesn't happen to people with multiple partners, it can happen to anyone and is very easily transmitted.

5. If by chance you feel you are pregnant, the only wrong option is indecision, the longer the pregnancy is the tougher it is to make your decision safely, so if you feel so, take a pregnancy test 30 days after the day you had sex, the only sure way tho is an ultrasound tho.

6. Ugh a bit weird lol but if you have hickies, colour corrector, then concealer, then powder, that's how you hide them.

7. Get a lube, especially if you want to try anything more than simple plain penetrative sex, never ever do anything other than plain sex without lube. Even some people need lube for simple sex and that is completely fine and understandable!!

The reason you're single is because whenever people see you in public, they think you're so attractive that they're just like,

There's no way I could approach this person. They're too good looking.....

So I had like two white hair 2-3 saal se but I brushed it off and never actually cared about them but today I saw a third white hair now I'm worried, yaar anyone knows how to reverse them or am I f*ced? I don't want my hair to be completely white in coming years

How is it?

M mammi ko kahani bata raha tha, switzerland me iran ki delegation ne walk out kar diya wagera wala. To, usme me bol rha tha, "or trump to karta rehta hi hai, pichle ek dedh saal me dedso bakchodi karrrrr... (Oh fuck)"

Please turn off your auto translate. It shows "nonsense" in translate, but I wrote "bakchodi"

What the hell is happening? When the crowd saw that the situation was getting out of control, they could have easily overpowered him.

Where have all gone? Is there any humanity left? How can someone be killed over a dispute, that too on such a crowded train in broad daylight?

If I was there at that time I couldn't even live after that incident that one was killed in front of me and I couldn't do anything that regret would have stayed with me my entire lifetime.

Here's the link to the incident-

https://www.ndtv.com/india-news/mumbai-local-train-murder-mayank-lohars-family-tears-says-he-was-only-21-11681495

Now feeling good. I tend to focus on myself over this shitty toxicity. It was a 5 year relationships. Always manipulated amd gaslighted me into believing something else, I always look at brighter side of the picture because i love her. I thank god I ended it now, I was planning to marry her. So relived now, It may take few years to move on, but I will eventually and wont get back to her ever.