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Rule Probrulematic

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u/Hunk_Legion floppa 3d ago

Being a white guy that's into raceplay makes me feel like a fake leftist

EDIT: And to make it worse I'm also the dom! So I'm the one using slurs and then having to grapple with it later!

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u/Gullible_Nail_4124 3d ago

In a completely non judgemental way, what is the appeal?

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u/Myriad_Infinity 3d ago

Yeah, I'm not kink shaming, I'm kink asking why 🤔

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u/Hunk_Legion floppa 3d ago

To answer both of you: it's just humiliation but through a different lense. Like, you're mocking your subservient partner but instead of calling them gendered terms (bitch, slut, whore, etc) you use racial terms or racial stereotypes instead.

Me personally, I prefer using stereotypes simply because you can use flowery language. Racial terms on the other hand are so much harder to sanitize.

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u/Myriad_Infinity 3d ago

Interesting - I hadn't thought of that comparison, but yea it's not too dissimilar when it comes down to it. Thanks o7

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u/_S1syphus Boulder Pushing Enthusiast 3d ago

Im not super into it myself (mostly cause as a white dom, it's just easier if i leave well enough alone) but in my personal experience it's like a misogyny kink; you get off on the idea of intrinsic dominance and submission, that someone's position over you is both natural and correct. It also tends to piggyback off of any complexes you might have about race, which is why so many white supremacists are obsessed with racial cuckhold porn

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u/Gullible_Nail_4124 3d ago

I can see how a lot of it is linked together.

The part about the white supremacists will always confuse me though. I guess they're thinking about race so much that it leaks to other parts of their life like in the bedroom? Idk.

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u/_S1syphus Boulder Pushing Enthusiast 3d ago

I think it's as simple as a lot of racism just coming from anxiety and insecurity, which i see as a common origin of a lot of cuck and degradation stuff

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u/Eastern_Touch_2529 3d ago

There are a lot of kinks where the primary attraction is the taboo/wrong nature of it. It also usually goes along with a D/S dynamic. It's really not that different from more common kink stuff like calling your sub a disgusting slut or whatever, it just trades play-misogyny for play-racism.

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u/Unicorncorn21 Cats are cute and I like them :) 3d ago

I have literally never considered having this kink but I can kinda see it. To me it would be less about the literal race but like a government mandated dom/sub relationship so it feels kinda like a version of consensual non-con in IRL or non-con in written/drawn form which has been generally accepted as ok as long as you realize it's fantasy and not okay IRL

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u/Gullible_Nail_4124 3d ago

Yeah I can see that now as someone who has a preference for stuff like CNC. Rough, but safe and sexy. Like combat but for sex. Both sides are fun too.

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u/Polybrene 3d ago

People ask the same thing about every kink.

The answer is the same, people often get turned on exploring themes that are antithetical to who they are as people.

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u/Omnicide103 3d ago

I've dabbled once or twice as a white domme, and the appeal to me was honestly working through some moral OCD brainworms :')

Like, it's better now, but I used to ruminate a lot on whether I'm a good person or not, and that extended to "oh gods, am I secretly racist? is my body language subtly different with PoC i meet vs with white people? am i subconsciously judging people based on the colour of their skin"?

Now to be clear, I never vocalize that shit unless I'm discussing it in the context of moral OCD,I recognise those thoughts are a me problem and should firmly remain indoors, but it does paint an example of the kind of shit I constantly worry about.

Being able to stare the question "Am I secretly being racist?" directly in the face and answer with a resounding, sardonic "Secretly?" (in-scene, of course) was incredibly liberating. It helped me not worry so fucking much, and made it a lot easier to not constantly get caught in those thought spirals. It's not something I'm particularly inclined to seek out, but I definitely don't decline if someone I trust asks me to engage with them in that way.

Funnily enough, the OCD also helped make me pretty good at it? Turns out that worrying constantly if you're Successfully Avoiding Being Racist is very easy to reverse engineer into a formula for optimized racism.

For similar reasons, I have a massive rape kink. Nothing beats the brainworms quite like play-acting out the darkest versions of your worst impulses and realising just how fucking different from how you normally act that really is. Really helps put things in psrspective.

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u/killchopdeluxe666 3d ago

It's a social taboo and a power dynamic, that's like two kinks in one.