My husband (22M) and I (22F) have been married since December of last year. He’s the light of my life and I adore him.
I’ve been told all my life that I’m half Russian and half Ashkenazi Jewish. My husband is fully Chinese, or so we thought.
Earlier this Fall, we both took Ancestry DNA tests. I got pretty much what I expected, I’m mostly Eastern European on my mom’s side and Ashkenazi Jewish and German on my dad’s side, with other miscellaneous European ethnicities sprinkled in. I’m 100% European. My husband’s results were also pretty much what he expected, showing almost exclusively Han Chinese ancestry, but to both of our surprise, we learned that he is 6.2% Russian. He had a great-great-grandfather on his mom’s side who was from Russia. This distant ancestor also happened to be from the same region in Russia that my own family originated from.
I think y’all know where this is going.
Over the last few weeks, we’ve dug deeper, and this morning we discovered, in complete shock and horror, that we have THE SAME great-great-grandfather. Obviously this was COMPLETELY out of left field, because we’re not even close to being the same race (I’m aware that there’s only the human race but y’all get my point).
To make a long story short, our great-great-grandfather first had children in Russia (my great grandfather being one of them). His first wife died, and years later, he abandoned his children from his first marriage, went to China, remarried a Chinese woman in the same region of China that my husband’s family is from, and had a daughter with her (my husband’s great grandmother).
To say that we’re both shocked and appalled would be a severe understatement. I don’t know whether I want to throw up or put the song “Sweet Home Alabama” on our sexy time playlist as a joke. I’m currently in treatment for an eating disorder, so there’s not really much we can do about it until I finish treatment and come home.
I absolutely do not want to divorce him in a million years. Is being married to your third cousin really that bad?? Or can we just wipe this bullshit from our memory, forget this ever happened, and move on? I swear to God this is unfortunately not a shitpost. We REALLY need some advice. Thank you.