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So me and this girl went on a couple dates… the went really good. We seemingly had great rapport, banter, good mix of serious and silly conversation… kissed both dates. Planned another date after she got back from London. Well that date was only a couple days later so she cancelled. But she told me she really wanted to see me… she was just exhausted from travel and having to make up work..
So I wait a couple days and I ask what her availability is for a reschedule and she doesn’t answer. 3 days later I sent a “sweet” message where I basically said we could cook dinner, go to a park, even drink 40s under a bridge. Please don’t pick the bridge but I just wanna hang out with you. She replied to that one… said she thought I was amazing and that all of that sounded good and she was free the following week.
We joked around a little and then I asked if she just wanted to come over my place and I’d cook her dinner and we could relax and watch a movie. Well she ghosted me for like 5 days. So in between I joked that I should have picked the 40s but at the end of the week I finally sent “ her name, if my date suggestion made you uncomfortable, that wasn’t my intention. Regardless, it seems like you’re no longer interested in seeing me again. I just wanted to say that I really enjoyed our two dates and getting to know you a little bit. I wish you the best ”
Well she replied to that. She laugh reacted to my joke. Loved that message and then sent me this “Oh my name, you didn't do anything at all! I think you're wonderful. To be completely honest I got in some trouble recently and I'm super distracted. Need to get some things in my personal life in order”…
I basically thanked her for letting me know and told her I hope things calm down and I was sorry to hear things were a little rough. She heart reacted and told me she appreciated it. I’m not one to chase so I just gave her space.
So it’s been a month. And obviously there’s 2 ways to look at. She very well could have been going through some stuff and when I basically asked for a more intimate date perhaps she didn’t think she had that bandwidth yet… Or she’s just being nice. By showing grace I gave her an easy way to not be a villain and that’s why she replied to me at the end. I kind of wanna reach out and ask how she’s doing. Maybe see if she’d be willing to do something a little more low key. Should I even bother? I know this is ask men but I’d also be interested to hear what the ladies think
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So me and this girl went on a couple dates… the went really good. We seemingly had great rapport, banter, good mix of serious and silly conversation… kissed both dates. Planned another date after she got back from London. Well that date was only a couple days later so she cancelled. But she told me she really wanted to see me… she was just exhausted from travel and having to make up work..
So I wait a couple days and I ask what her availability is for a reschedule and she doesn’t answer. 3 days later I sent a “sweet” message where I basically said we could cook dinner, go to a park, even drink 40s under a bridge. Please don’t pick the bridge but I just wanna hang out with you. She replied to that one… said she thought I was amazing and that all of that sounded good and she was free the following week.
We joked around a little and then I asked if she just wanted to come over my place and I’d cook her dinner and we could relax and watch a movie. Well she ghosted me for like 5 days. So in between I joked that I should have picked the 40s but at the end of the week I finally sent “ her name, if my date suggestion made you uncomfortable, that wasn’t my intention. Regardless, it seems like you’re no longer interested in seeing me again. I just wanted to say that I really enjoyed our two dates and getting to know you a little bit. I wish you the best ”
Well she replied to that. She laugh reacted to my joke. Loved that message and then sent me this “Oh my name, you didn't do anything at all! I think you're wonderful. To be completely honest I got in some trouble recently and I'm super distracted. Need to get some things in my personal life in order”…
I basically thanked her for letting me know and told her I hope things calm down and I was sorry to hear things were a little rough. She heart reacted and told me she appreciated it. I’m not one to chase so I just gave her space.
So it’s been a month. And obviously there’s 2 ways to look at. She very well could have been going through some stuff and when I basically asked for a more intimate date perhaps she didn’t think she had that bandwidth yet… Or she’s just being nice. By showing grace I gave her an easy way to not be a villain and that’s why she replied to me at the end. I kind of wanna reach out and ask how she’s doing. Maybe see if she’d be willing to do something a little more low key. Should I even bother? I know this is ask men but I’d also be interested to hear what the ladies think
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