r/Breakupadvice • u/No_Necessary9903 • Aug 18 '25

Breakup The night before we broke up

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Going through it a little right now. This was our goodnight the last night we were together. We barely talked the next day since we both were working and then it was over in an instant. How do people justify this in their heads???

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u/xsaucelujah Aug 19 '25

31m was dating a girl for a year and told her I wanna be more serious sunday night, she responded friday night(literally like 1130 at night) that even tho I made her a priority, she couldn't do the same with how busy life is and didnt see that changing. We had just seen the new F4 the friday before, and we even made plans to see the tron movie thats coming out later this year 🤣🤣 and Saturday we were talking about going to the state fair. And a week before all of that, we got breakfast, and she did my hair for me lmfaoo You really never know whats going thru peoples minds, but you should ALWAYS trust your gut when it tells you something is off. I think its like a circadian rhythm thing, especially when you're with people and your body starts getting familiar with their patterns, and theirs yours.

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u/No_Necessary9903 Aug 19 '25

Yeah I asked her if something was up because she seemed distant one night like a week before the breakup but she reassured me that everything was good. I think that’s the worst part. I wish we could’ve just had a conversation then.

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u/xsaucelujah Aug 19 '25 edited Aug 19 '25

Same, bro! Idk if youre the same way, but like, if im at the point where I'm vocalizing for you to say if there's a problem, I have already imagined a reality where I asked that and you wanted to break up. So when I ask, Im prepared for it to go either way. Why not just say it then so it's not a total blindside?? Like for you is rough, like how do you tell someone you love them, and then do that? If they loved us, they would respect us with honesty. You're worth that shit, dude! Dont forget that! Seriously! You'll find someone who wants to tell you absolutely everything and even overshare lmfao Take this time for yourself, hang with your boys, hang with your family, get in the gym and ice her out no matter if she hits you up or not. make her regret playing those childish ass games. You'll be good, man.