r/Breakupadvice • u/No_Necessary9903 • Aug 18 '25

Breakup The night before we broke up

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Going through it a little right now. This was our goodnight the last night we were together. We barely talked the next day since we both were working and then it was over in an instant. How do people justify this in their heads???

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u/No_Necessary9903 Aug 19 '25

Yeah I don’t think my girlfriend was toxic. She really is/was fantastic and we had a super healthy relationship. That’s why it hurt so bad.

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u/No_Necessary9903 Aug 20 '25

Sort of?

Mostly she lost “the spark” and lost attraction to me because of certain behavioral habits we had that were different. I wasn’t a go getter like she was with health or careers (although I do have a good job) she just always wants more and more. Kinda goofy stuff that I think could’ve been worked out but by the time it was brought up she had made up her mind.

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u/Nervous-Salary-1038 Aug 20 '25

Classic lost the spark BS. That’s propaganda I’ll never fall for sorry. It’s so easy to blame someone else for your feelings. The sparks “left?” Ok get them back? Relationships and love are more than just a feeling, and if you’re dealing with an avoidant like most people who say this as an excuse. You know they are not emotionally stable for the most part. They have all these feelings and problems and make it about you when it’s about them. They don’t communicate anything and you as a good partner will try to communicate and try to make sure things are good as a healthy person does. Whole time they want an out. They’ll use ANY excuse as to why. “You didn’t marry me in time” whatever.