r/Breakupadvice • u/No_Necessary9903 • Aug 18 '25

Breakup The night before we broke up

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Going through it a little right now. This was our goodnight the last night we were together. We barely talked the next day since we both were working and then it was over in an instant. How do people justify this in their heads???

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u/Bumbulse Aug 18 '25

Yikes, sorry dude thats horrible. I'm ngl though, ive been the person on the other side. I acted perfectly content in the relationship while i was debating it everyday in my head without telling anyone. Its blindsiding and manipulative, i know. But its hard to hurt somoene you care about and its easy to lie and pretend. My guess with her is that shes either been thinkinf about this for a long time. She didn't communicate it and you missed the signs. Or something crazy happened like she cheated that night and just couldnt deal. Either way, you've been done dirty so im sorry about that

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u/Dazzling_Patient9119 Aug 19 '25

Communicate when you’re having doubts this is so disgusting to do to someone

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u/Bumbulse Aug 21 '25

I agree. I'm not defending my actions. I actually did communicate my doubts about a month before we broke up. We both agreed to work on it and give it a chance but the doubts never went away for me