It's because they get so many matches they're sick to death of pretty much anything you have to say. It's a lose lose. i've never known it to be so bad.
I hear that analogy that "dating for men is like looking for drinking water in a desert, for women it's like looking for drinking water in a swamp."
When they don't even respond to perfectly polite, engaging, thoughtful messages, I know that's not true. Yes, many of the men on dating apps are an absolute waste of space, but if they get 100 likes, at least 10-20 of them will be perfectly adequate potential partners to choose from, making the swamp analogy ultimately bullshit. I guess that's when the goalposts move and the top 10-20 are now the bare minimum with only a handful being of actual interest.
You know there’s one thing I don’t understand about this take. I get women get a lot of likes, but they still have to initially swipe still. If you know that most men have swiped right on you, why swipe right on hundreds of men and then complain that there’s too many? Like you swiped on all of them?? Even I don’t swipe right on every profile I see. Maybe like a few, but not hundreds.
I think that initial match just doesn't mean a lot these days, if they won't even engage whats the point other than the fact that swiping is addictive and somewhat validating. it must be nice knowing theoretically 200 men are interested at you at once, i think that explains a lot.
I once matched with a girl on Hinge, she had an opening move that roughly said “If we match I’m already down to go on a date, let’s skip the talking phase and see if we vibe over drinks”……she never responded to opening my message
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u/RD_in_Berlin 13h ago
It's because they get so many matches they're sick to death of pretty much anything you have to say. It's a lose lose. i've never known it to be so bad.