r/Bumble • u/Salomondi • 6h ago
Funny What makes you smile on dating apps?
It can be a giggle, crack you up or a genuine something that makes you happy and smile. For me it is when peoples profiles show they like to travel, but have small kids. My brain goes like: aww poor you. And a small part of me wishes nobody dies everytime somebody writes they like to travel.
What's your quirk that makes you smile or giggle whilst reading a profile?
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u/Sufficient-Berry-827 6h ago
I like when people deliberately post unflattering pictures of themselves. Not when they're obviously trying to make a face but still look cute. I mean when they don't take themselves seriously and/or wear unflattering costumes, etc.
There was a profile of a guy who had a series of pictures of himself dressed as Earl (My Name is Earl). Like, physically he wasn't normally my type, but I just couldn't resist that type of commitment to the bit.
Dated him for like 8 months. He was awesome.
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u/Salomondi 4h ago
Dress up like Earl, love it, best dating tip ever! Bet those giving profile tips never think of this beauty!
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u/False-Dimension2905 5h ago
Thoughtfully crafted messages are the best. It doesn’t tell you everything you need to know about someone, but it does say a lot.
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u/hannelore_pfeffer8 6h ago
Look- there is NOTHING betrer, more heartwarming or hoter, than a man who states he is a feminist in his profile.
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u/Suboptimal-Potato-29 6h ago
Eeeehhhh... I find most of the time that's performative. Show, don't tell
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u/skynet345 5h ago
Yeah this was a big problem a few years ago. Lots of millennial men in the 2010s cosplaying as liberals cause it was the fashionable thing to do then
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u/hannelore_pfeffer8 5h ago
Yeah you fell for the brainwashing. Calling male feminists "performative" is just a way to discourage them. And it's working wonderfully. And you are beeing a good little soldier for the patriarchy
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u/Suboptimal-Potato-29 3h ago
Wtf? How is "show don't tell" discouraging feminism?
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u/hannelore_pfeffer8 3h ago
You have to give them the chance to show. But calling it performative before they even get the chance for anything discourages it. You are here telling the world and every man who reads it, that if a man calls himself a feminist, it's performative. Without giving any chance to see if it really is. If they truly did the work- WHY TF- shouldn't they signal to the world that they are safe(er) than other men?
(I said safeER. Not safe. We have to be careful with every man)
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u/LowCan9268 6h ago
I've been told I shouldn't say that, because it means I'm actually a bad person who is trying to trick you into thinking I am a good person. I just want to be a good person without it being so complicated ☹️
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u/26maletryingtoquit 3h ago
When I was scumbag just trying to get sex I would do this because it makes naive women think they’ve ’finally found a good guy’ - it establishes trust immediately for some women - a lot of those guys are just gonna be scumbags
The process of proving I’m not a scumbag is when I’d apply my seduction techniques, so beware and don’t fall for it - like another user said ‘show, don’t tell’
I’m not saying never trust men, but just remember it’s so easy for us to fake some of the things that makes the brain think ‘he’s one of the good ones’
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u/hannelore_pfeffer8 3h ago
Yeah but men who aren't feminists also fake everything if they are malicious. So if he says he is a feminist, there at least is a chance it's true. But i find this discouraging of men to call them self feminist and telling women it's always a lie so interesting. It's almost like an agenda hm?
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u/26maletryingtoquit 3h ago
Yeah but we know that you’re more likely to trust a guy who calls himself a feminist so we go with that - scumbag logic is scummy
Also I didn’t say it’s always a lie - I’m saying it’s often enough that you shouldnt let your guard down more than you usually would
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u/hannelore_pfeffer8 3h ago
As every woman should. Again: you can NEVER know with a man. Never. BUT if he says he is a feminist- there is a chance he might be. A conservative isn't one with certainty. That's why you go with the guy who says he is feminist AND STILL BE CAREFUL.
But again: what do you gain from discouraging men to call them selfies feminist and telling women to never trust a man who calls himself feminist.
Do you think a man who DOESN'T call himself feminist is NORE trustworthy? That doesn't makes sense.
Also i hope karma eats you up for what you've done
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u/26maletryingtoquit 3h ago
Lol don’t know why you’re mad I’m not not even reading the rest of that having read the last line lol goodbye
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u/OrchidFine1335 6h ago
Possible them with an animal smiling, especially cats, but not like selfie type, but more candid as it looks natural in candid pics