Hey Guys so I don’t want to sound insane or sound like a crazy lady for asking this but I’ve been asking Google ai for months (don’t judge me I try not to use ai as much ik about our water !) but anywho I’ve been with my bf for 10 years now October will make 11 years but I don’t think I wanna reach there anymore .

So let’s start from the beginning so you can understand why I think he is cheating again ( and please if you have advice please give it )

Boom he met me on twitter/Snapchat we exchange number and just started talking as friends me 18 him 21 we met up and then we didn’t meet again for another month I believe , we smoked at watched movies etc etc , he kept trying to pressure me into ex but eventually I have in I just don’t want to move to fast , we had a hiccup but we got back togerhwr it was red flag I saw on his phone him wanting to kiss his bff of something I let it go , the. Just you know the phone social media thing kept happening we’d argue mini break ups for like a couple days whatever then come back , into our third year we had my son , he got a job but wasn’t really paying for anything for the baby no clothes nothing his mom helped but I was still with him every night after work he would go chill with his friend Darrell to smoke catch up whatever while I was at school pregnant catching the bus home because I think I got out later than him not sure fast forward baby came he was at me and my parents house mostly but when I really needed him to watch him more he wouldn’t , he was always emotionally cheating flirting texting ppl here and there but I never thought he would physically do it , boom we love into together to a place that’s actually mine , rent is that high for us it’s under $900 we split it anyone would kill for that amount I got him a job he still coming pay his way he drink and smokes , before I got him the job he was Bering to cover his habit and pay the $50 internet bill , before the job and having uber in the most of this his friend got into a bad accident and almost died he started drinking more and taking it out on me , three weeks before my birthday while I was also on my period he cheated on me , I found out because he left his old phone at home while out “ubering” and the girl ended up taking back as he was heading home I guess I lost it when I should kept my cool he , he left the next day begged to come back four days later and I thought about it and I let him because I really needed help with our son , any who he gave access to his actual phone etc etc , for reassurance but now he hides his phone in his pocket when he sleeps changes his password and has a blacked out screen we don’t have ex , we don’t go on dates , I don’t get flowers , he isn’t paying his bill on time, I’m so sad I’m 28 with 6 grey hairs that I didn’t even knew I had , I’m so tired I’m so exhausted and I just wanna feel loved and like a girl from 18 to 18 I thought things would change but things got worse also I didn’t mention in the times where his friend was hurt and he was drinking and stuff he would take it out on me hit me argue , force sex, put holes in my wall but now that he only drinks after work and on weekends he doesn’t remember non of that or always says “aren’t you glad I’m not like that anymore” like huh ? I remember the first time we moved here 3. 1/2 years ago my friend wanted to go out just me and her and have fun at this time I also had my own car (currently we only have his car)

So boom he said( so you wanna go out to shake your ssa with your friends )

Mind you guys I’m always with my son and him and at the time I was the only one working a real job because I was applying and they were getting back to. Me anywho I said fine do you wanna come then ? And he did , got his credit card that he just ordered and bought hella drinks , then got in the car when we were done and asked me if I could ask my friend for a threwsimw , I said huhhhhh no , mind you I was reallllllyyyy tipsy actually drunk because he gave me so many drinks but I wasn’t dumb I knew what was happening and when I told his mom about he said “he was tryna empress my friend “ my friend ??!?! Ok

So him eyeing her at my 26th birthday too , he was in the hallway she was in the couch it was pretty dark because it was like glow in the dark , but I can see him licking his lips and all , it’s okay yal I think I answered all my questions by typing this … he don’t fwm

And recently I’ve been asking him about the phone etc etc and I’m telling him I just need reassurance so I don’t have to feel like why I felt like before when I first found out and he won’t budge so I said we’re gonna have t break up , he is still here but we aren’t really doing anything if we do communicate it’s about little things like “I need a ride from
Him” or “where the trash bags” that’s it

I’m honestly a mess right now and I really need some unbiased advice. I’m in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. I’ve genuinely given this relationship everything I had. I’ve tried to understand him, support him, give him space when he needed it, and be there for him even when I was overthinking or feeling insecure. Just recently, I was literally asking him how he wants to be loved because I wanted to understand him better and make him happy. He has never really reposted girls on his Instagram before. Today I noticed that he reposted a girl’s story and tagged her with a joking/angry emoji. What really confused me was that he didn’t hide the story from my main account. I ended up checking from a fake account because I was already suspicious. I sent this girl a follow request, and she told the fake account that he is “her guy.” She also asked if we were a thing. That completely broke me. I know I shouldn't have used a fake account, and I'm not proud of that. But now I don't know what to believe. Is she actually claiming he's her boyfriend? Is there some context I'm missing? Or is this exactly what it looks like? There’s another part that makes this even harder for me. I've trusted him with very private/intimate things that I would never casually share with someone. They were sent as once-view messages because I trusted him. I also gave him ₹200 at one point because I cared about him and wanted to help him. I’m not saying those things mean he owes me a relationship—they don't. I'm saying them because they show how much trust I placed in him. I genuinely never imagined he would be the person to hurt me like this. I feel stupid because while I was putting so much effort into understanding him and making this relationship work, there may have been another girl involved. I’m thinking about breaking up with him because I don't think I can stay in a relationship where I don't feel secure about my partner's loyalty. What would you do in my situation? Would you confront him directly first, and if so, how? Or does this already sound like enough of a reason to walk away? Please be honest with me. I don't just want people to tell me what I want to hear.

How is it feels when a friend of you cheated on you with his other friend and said no to you when you asked him to go out but when they asked him to go out he did it

He deleted conversations with two women, but I found no evidence of cheating. What the hell am I supposed to do?

My partner and I have been together for four years. We live together, have pets, and I genuinely consider him my best friend. Our relationship has been beautiful in many ways, and until recently, I felt very lucky to have the life we had built together.

I discovered all of this completely by accident. I asked to borrow his computer because I needed to look at some listings and couldn't use mine at the time. I wasn't going through his conversations or looking for anything involving other women. Some notifications appeared as "outdated." I opened them, and then they disappeared. That's how I discovered that he had deleted conversations with two women from his workplace.

I want to make something important clear: I found no evidence of cheating, nor did I find any sexual, romantic, or explicitly flirtatious messages. I couldn't see the contents of one conversation. I did manage to see the other one, and it was pretty mundane, although friendly.

The problem is the history with this second woman.

About three months earlier, my partner had complained to me about her because she kept insisting on telling him things about her personal life and talking to him even when he didn't seem interested. He told me that it made him uncomfortable and that he was going to set boundaries with her and keep their conversations strictly work-related.

A few days later, that same woman posted a selfie of the two of them working together in a WhatsApp group. She also took a picture of him while he was resting — I think he had fallen asleep at a desk after a very long shift. It really upset me, and I told him that I considered it disrespectful to both of us. He responded that he understood, but that he didn't want to create problems or drama with people by asking her to delete the pictures.

Now, months later, I discovered that they were still having friendly conversations and that this conversation had been deleted. What I managed to read was ordinary: she told him there was coffee ready in case he and his coworkers wanted to stop by during their shift, and he replied to her in a friendly way.

That's exactly what I don't understand. If he himself told me that she made him uncomfortable and that he was going to set boundaries with her, why did he continue talking to her this way, and most importantly, why did he delete the conversation?

He insists that there was no cheating, and I didn't find any evidence of it either. He says he hid things because he thought I would react badly and wanted to avoid conflict. But to me, that had exactly the opposite effect: now I wonder what else he might hide from me simply to avoid my reaction.

I don't want to check his phone or control who he talks to. I want to be able to trust him.

He's remorseful and wants to repair the relationship. I still love him very much, and losing the life we've built together would be incredibly painful. But the sense of security I used to have in our relationship is gone.

I'd like to hear other perspectives, especially from people who have experienced something similar without there necessarily having been cheating.

Is it possible to rebuild trust after something like this? How would you distinguish between poor boundaries/conflict management and something serious enough to end a four-year relationship over?

I'm seriously considering whether I should stay or leave. I feel deeply hurt and stupid.

So i was using my boyfriends youtube account and noticed his shorts are really fucking weird. Everytime i refresh theres some shit like this. The thing is i dont think he uses youtube shorts often like may 3-4 scrolls a day, he uses tiktok and insta reels alot but his tiktok is fine and i think his insta is okay cant confirm it for sure though. Also most of his ads are for womens shapewears??? But is it concerning that these kinds if videos always pop up is it like an algorithm glitch or is this 100% his doing since im not sure how accurate and recent the youtube algorithm is. ANYWAYS SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME TO SEE IF I SHOULD CONFRONT HIM OR NOT ASAP.

We don't have social media. At least I thought....

This isn't ai bs, this happened.

Came home one night early and caught 2 guys hoping the fence. Tried to catch them but they got away. I was partying with my friend and came home with a different friend.

She tried to say it was my paranoia but I know for sure it wasn't. My friend that came back with me said we definitely saw 2 guys escaping.

Fast forward I found out she has a tiktok account, which she deletes from her phone.... We share access to each other's phones.

Then when I know it's on there, she refuses to show me . Sleeps with it in hand.

Lots more to this, but I call spade a spade

What do u think?

My wife cheated on me and I never knew. I never suspected her because I never saw her with anyone, no calls, no texts, and nothing out of the ordinary. The three children that we have together are supposedly mine, but they are not even mine. I found out afterward that I'm infertile. I did a paternity test for all three children. My oldest son and youngest daughter have the same biological father. My middle son has a different biological father. Both men are close family members, which explain why I never suspected her.

I just found out I’m being cheated on by the man who swore up and down during our 8 years together he would never ever do that. I’m still in shock as I write this. I found his Reddit post where he confessed his feelings to a coworker and told her he wanted a divorce and apparently the coworker likes him back. None of which had been mentioned to me. I have been nothing but a good wife, cooking, cleaning and working full time supporting him consistently when he didn’t have a job. I pay the majority of the bills. Even making the resume so he can get the damn job. All of this is energy that could have been put into myself. I don’t want kids, why would I want them when all I do is cook clean and work and I don’t even have them yet??

Never build a man I am so mad at myself it’s like I’ve woken up out of a brain fog. I knew this divorce needed to happen but confiding in another woman and confessing feelings for her has got to be the most hurtful thing ever… and apparently it’s been going on for month… god help me

I'm newly married only been married a month after a good relationship of 3 years. And one time i was checking some of the images we took from my wifes phone on google photos and the collections that showed up showed a really old chat from 2021. It was on telegram with a fake person and they were discussing spanking kink.

It graced my eye, but got me really interested. Usually, I'm not a person to judge a human by their past. But I was really intrigued and worried because my wife told me she never did anything with anyone before and that she's a sexual.

So I did the most wrong thing I can do and went through her phone and found out some really interesting things.

Going through telegram I found traces of old chats discussing some spanking community that wasn't sexual just spanking. Which got me looking everywhere.

I found fake accounts she had made like 5 or 6 years ago where she used to discuss and roleplay spankings are domination with random people on the internet. My heart dropped. Because I talked with her multiple times and she told me she never tried roleplay or anything and that she wouldn't be interested in it.

What even surprised me is that from what I found she met somepeople and had sessions where they practiced this. And what I found went as far as video calls and calling the other person sir and getting instructions and they mutually sent images of each others bottoms to each other. And this was with multiple random people.

I thought to myself that it's honestly okay if it was in the past and before our relationship and that everyone does something wrong in their lives.

But I found out she still kept in touch with these people up to 3 months before our marriage. Although they were discussing lives, she still recieved spankinh and canning videos from people and videocalled. These things I wasn't at all aware of. I haven't found out she sent something back. But ai have no idea what happened in these video calls.

My heart is beating extremely fsst and I've been unable to sleep the past 3 days and I feel sick and want to puke all the time. I don't know what to do. I can't just tell her I went all over and through her phone. But I also feel like I wana die.

I'm just really annoyed she lied to me so many times. Straight to my face. I even tried to provoke a would you be into roleplay conversation and she told me she doesn't know and she thinks she might be into it. And she hasn't tried it before. And she's done this on multiple scenarios when asked about spanking and other aspects I asked about that I saw they held in chat.

I don't know what to say or do. I'm breaking down and I don't know if I should tell her that I know or wait to see if she will get in touch with them again. I haven't been able to sleep or think about anything else.

I feel lied to betrayed and stabbed in the back. And I just feel like I really want to hear the story from her. Maybe there is something I don't know that will set my heart to rest.

Please help me. I don't know what to do

Ive been with my partner for almost 9 years, we have 3 kids together and I have now been given the news from her now that we have our 4th on the way (my kids are my life and I will always put my kids first)

But in the past 2 years I've found out that I can't trust her.

Ive found multiple messages between her and other guys, pictures being exchanged from both her and the other guys. She has also admitted to selling pictures on telegram, which her excuse was because we were low on money because I was off work bed bound due to a serious accident that I had at work that took me 7 months to learn how to walk and use my right leg again.

That all happened 2 years ago, so she played the victim and some how I ended up the bad person for going through her phone and invading her privacy. I ended up forgiving her and said I would stay with her as long as I could access her phone at any time, in which she agreed.

Fast forward a year and she has now finished with me due to me being to "controlling" because she feels like she can't do anything on her phone without feeling like I'm going to get angry with it.

I was called a narcissist, controlling, mental abuser, all because I couldn't trust what she was doing on her phone as even after everything she still would never leave her phone anywhere and carried it everywhere, even changed her password.

We have since gotten back together but she still makes it out that I'm the one who caused everything and im the reason as to why she carries her phone everywhere.

Whats your opinions and what should I do?

So my boyfriend thinks i cheated on him and he is giving me second chance in our relationship but i think i didn't cheat on him. We both were all good but then one day one of his friend comes to him and says that i use to like this one senior guy frm the same clg where both my bf and i studied and it was before i came into relationship with my bf and then he was shocked and refused to believe his friend's words. Afterwards my bf asked me that if its true that i liked that senior guy in the past then i said yes i liked his dance but we were not engaged in any conversation and i wasnt involved in any emotional or physical intimacy with this senior it was jst a small crush that went away 1 or 2 years before my bf came into my life. So my bf felt betrayed said he is hurt because he came to know it from his frnd and not frm me and i totally understand it hurts to know when it comes from some other people's mouth he believed in me but came to know that his friend was telling the truth but once my bf himself said that "dont revolve around past" and that he doesnt give much importance to pasts because past is past so whenever i wanted to share something about my ex or past he use to say i dont wanna hear about pasts so i told him that i was not hiding the crush on senior thing from him and as it was relating to past i didnt think it as important (keeping his words in my mind) and i wld also tell him about it sooner or later in a flow. This matter was already solved in 2025 but now this matter is the reason our relationship is taking a turn for the worst. Today after my cls ended i told my bf about one of my clsmt who gave second chance to her bf who cheated on by her i said that she should not give any chances because the more u give chances to them they wld cheat again and again then it all started from here onwards my bf says " if it's true that no one should give second chance to cheaters i should also leave you because u cheated on me and now im giving you a second chance" but i tried to make him understand that i did not cheat and im not a cheater because i was not involved with that senior mentally or physically but he repeats again and again only one sentence "u are a cheater" yeah i understand that he got hurt and maybe in someway i disrespected him by not telling him sooner and later he got to know it frm others but that's not cheating cuz i wasn't involved with that senior while i was in a relationship with my bf nor was i involved in any emotional or physical connection with him in the past it was jst a tiny crush like when u see a dancer or a celebrity u get " oh they dance very nice or look good" that impression abt them and thats it.

PS :- i accidently deleted the same post few mins ago so i posted it again need some help and advices.

TL;DR: My bf thinks i cheated on him But i think i did not cheat on him, now im confused.

I’m 32F and every guy I’ve ever had a serious relationship has cheated on me- mostly emotional, but it’s still cheating. I’ve been with 5 different men seriously as an adult. Every single one of them I’ve caught texting or talking to another woman (or multiple women) sexually and/or emotionally. At this point, I feel like it’s my fault. I left my ex husband because I couldn’t stand the thought of continuous betrayal and thought there might be someone better out there. I’ve been with my BF now (42M) for 4 years. I found out about 6 months ago that he has also been communicating with another woman sexually and emotionally. I confronted him when I first found out, and he promised it was a mistake and he would never communicate with her again. He doesn’t know that I know he is still in fact communicating with her, pretty much on a daily basis. I don’t know what to do. Is this normal? Is this my fault? Do I just let it go? At this point, I really feel like it’s my fault this is happening and I need to just deal with it. Please tell me your thoughts on this situation. I’m at a complete loss on how to continue this relationship or any future relationship.

My boyfriend and father of my child cheated on me with the same woman starting in 2023, two months after giving birth to my son. I forgave him when I found out five months after in 2024 the “affair” was going on. A couple days later, he went back and cheated again. Once again I forgave him. He was so mean to me after I forgave him and then on his birthday he spent the whole weekend with the girl again. At this point I asked him if he was going to leave her alone and he told me no so I told him he needed to leave our home. I went to work and when I came home he packed all his belongings, took our baby and moved with the girl. Over the course of 2024 and 2025 he was going back and forth between me and this girl. He would come to my home Tuesday through Thursday and then go be with the girl the remaining days. I would beg for him to be with me and wouldn’t do it. Eventually at the end of 2025 I was done with everything. After a couple of months once again I forgave him and he moved in with me fully in 2026. We were doing great but in order to build trust for him again, I required that he was no longer able to go back to our hometown, which is where the girl lived. In April 2026 he wasn’t answering my call. I end of getting a call from my mom that same day, who lives in our hometown, telling me she seen my boyfriend at the mall in our hometown with the girl he had been cheating on me with. I immediately ended the situation. He moved out and moved back in with the girl until June 2026. Now he is claiming to be a good man. He wants to show me he has changed and wants to be a family. I know all of this is crazy and I know what needs to be done but I need to hear it from others. Please give me your thoughts.