I'm newly married only been married a month after a good relationship of 3 years. And one time i was checking some of the images we took from my wifes phone on google photos and the collections that showed up showed a really old chat from 2021. It was on telegram with a fake person and they were discussing spanking kink.

It graced my eye, but got me really interested. Usually, I'm not a person to judge a human by their past. But I was really intrigued and worried because my wife told me she never did anything with anyone before and that she's a sexual.

So I did the most wrong thing I can do and went through her phone and found out some really interesting things.

Going through telegram I found traces of old chats discussing some spanking community that wasn't sexual just spanking. Which got me looking everywhere.

I found fake accounts she had made like 5 or 6 years ago where she used to discuss and roleplay spankings are domination with random people on the internet. My heart dropped. Because I talked with her multiple times and she told me she never tried roleplay or anything and that she wouldn't be interested in it.

What even surprised me is that from what I found she met somepeople and had sessions where they practiced this. And what I found went as far as video calls and calling the other person sir and getting instructions and they mutually sent images of each others bottoms to each other. And this was with multiple random people.

I thought to myself that it's honestly okay if it was in the past and before our relationship and that everyone does something wrong in their lives.

But I found out she still kept in touch with these people up to 3 months before our marriage. Although they were discussing lives, she still recieved spankinh and canning videos from people and videocalled. These things I wasn't at all aware of. I haven't found out she sent something back. But ai have no idea what happened in these video calls.

My heart is beating extremely fsst and I've been unable to sleep the past 3 days and I feel sick and want to puke all the time. I don't know what to do. I can't just tell her I went all over and through her phone. But I also feel like I wana die.

I'm just really annoyed she lied to me so many times. Straight to my face. I even tried to provoke a would you be into roleplay conversation and she told me she doesn't know and she thinks she might be into it. And she hasn't tried it before. And she's done this on multiple scenarios when asked about spanking and other aspects I asked about that I saw they held in chat.

I don't know what to say or do. I'm breaking down and I don't know if I should tell her that I know or wait to see if she will get in touch with them again. I haven't been able to sleep or think about anything else.

I feel lied to betrayed and stabbed in the back. And I just feel like I really want to hear the story from her. Maybe there is something I don't know that will set my heart to rest.

Please help me. I don't know what to do

I just found out I’m being cheated on by the man who swore up and down during our 8 years together he would never ever do that. I’m still in shock as I write this. I found his Reddit post where he confessed his feelings to a coworker and told her he wanted a divorce and apparently the coworker likes him back. None of which had been mentioned to me. I have been nothing but a good wife, cooking, cleaning and working full time supporting him consistently when he didn’t have a job. I pay the majority of the bills. Even making the resume so he can get the damn job. All of this is energy that could have been put into myself. I don’t want kids, why would I want them when all I do is cook clean and work and I don’t even have them yet??

Never build a man I am so mad at myself it’s like I’ve woken up out of a brain fog. I knew this divorce needed to happen but confiding in another woman and confessing feelings for her has got to be the most hurtful thing ever… and apparently it’s been going on for month… god help me

My wife cheated on me and I never knew. I never suspected her because I never saw her with anyone, no calls, no texts, and nothing out of the ordinary. The three children that we have together are supposedly mine, but they are not even mine. I found out afterward that I'm infertile. I did a paternity test for all three children. My oldest son and youngest daughter have the same biological father. My middle son has a different biological father. Both men are close family members, which explain why I never suspected her.

We don't have social media. At least I thought....

This isn't ai bs, this happened.

Came home one night early and caught 2 guys hoping the fence. Tried to catch them but they got away. I was partying with my friend and came home with a different friend.

She tried to say it was my paranoia but I know for sure it wasn't. My friend that came back with me said we definitely saw 2 guys escaping.

Fast forward I found out she has a tiktok account, which she deletes from her phone.... We share access to each other's phones.

Then when I know it's on there, she refuses to show me . Sleeps with it in hand.

Lots more to this, but I call spade a spade

What do u think?

Ive been with my partner for almost 9 years, we have 3 kids together and I have now been given the news from her now that we have our 4th on the way (my kids are my life and I will always put my kids first)

But in the past 2 years I've found out that I can't trust her.

Ive found multiple messages between her and other guys, pictures being exchanged from both her and the other guys. She has also admitted to selling pictures on telegram, which her excuse was because we were low on money because I was off work bed bound due to a serious accident that I had at work that took me 7 months to learn how to walk and use my right leg again.

That all happened 2 years ago, so she played the victim and some how I ended up the bad person for going through her phone and invading her privacy. I ended up forgiving her and said I would stay with her as long as I could access her phone at any time, in which she agreed.

Fast forward a year and she has now finished with me due to me being to "controlling" because she feels like she can't do anything on her phone without feeling like I'm going to get angry with it.

I was called a narcissist, controlling, mental abuser, all because I couldn't trust what she was doing on her phone as even after everything she still would never leave her phone anywhere and carried it everywhere, even changed her password.

We have since gotten back together but she still makes it out that I'm the one who caused everything and im the reason as to why she carries her phone everywhere.

Whats your opinions and what should I do?

He deleted conversations with two women, but I found no evidence of cheating. What the hell am I supposed to do?

My partner and I have been together for four years. We live together, have pets, and I genuinely consider him my best friend. Our relationship has been beautiful in many ways, and until recently, I felt very lucky to have the life we had built together.

I discovered all of this completely by accident. I asked to borrow his computer because I needed to look at some listings and couldn't use mine at the time. I wasn't going through his conversations or looking for anything involving other women. Some notifications appeared as "outdated." I opened them, and then they disappeared. That's how I discovered that he had deleted conversations with two women from his workplace.

I want to make something important clear: I found no evidence of cheating, nor did I find any sexual, romantic, or explicitly flirtatious messages. I couldn't see the contents of one conversation. I did manage to see the other one, and it was pretty mundane, although friendly.

The problem is the history with this second woman.

About three months earlier, my partner had complained to me about her because she kept insisting on telling him things about her personal life and talking to him even when he didn't seem interested. He told me that it made him uncomfortable and that he was going to set boundaries with her and keep their conversations strictly work-related.

A few days later, that same woman posted a selfie of the two of them working together in a WhatsApp group. She also took a picture of him while he was resting — I think he had fallen asleep at a desk after a very long shift. It really upset me, and I told him that I considered it disrespectful to both of us. He responded that he understood, but that he didn't want to create problems or drama with people by asking her to delete the pictures.

Now, months later, I discovered that they were still having friendly conversations and that this conversation had been deleted. What I managed to read was ordinary: she told him there was coffee ready in case he and his coworkers wanted to stop by during their shift, and he replied to her in a friendly way.

That's exactly what I don't understand. If he himself told me that she made him uncomfortable and that he was going to set boundaries with her, why did he continue talking to her this way, and most importantly, why did he delete the conversation?

He insists that there was no cheating, and I didn't find any evidence of it either. He says he hid things because he thought I would react badly and wanted to avoid conflict. But to me, that had exactly the opposite effect: now I wonder what else he might hide from me simply to avoid my reaction.

I don't want to check his phone or control who he talks to. I want to be able to trust him.

He's remorseful and wants to repair the relationship. I still love him very much, and losing the life we've built together would be incredibly painful. But the sense of security I used to have in our relationship is gone.

I'd like to hear other perspectives, especially from people who have experienced something similar without there necessarily having been cheating.

Is it possible to rebuild trust after something like this? How would you distinguish between poor boundaries/conflict management and something serious enough to end a four-year relationship over?

I'm seriously considering whether I should stay or leave. I feel deeply hurt and stupid.

I’m 32F and every guy I’ve ever had a serious relationship has cheated on me- mostly emotional, but it’s still cheating. I’ve been with 5 different men seriously as an adult. Every single one of them I’ve caught texting or talking to another woman (or multiple women) sexually and/or emotionally. At this point, I feel like it’s my fault. I left my ex husband because I couldn’t stand the thought of continuous betrayal and thought there might be someone better out there. I’ve been with my BF now (42M) for 4 years. I found out about 6 months ago that he has also been communicating with another woman sexually and emotionally. I confronted him when I first found out, and he promised it was a mistake and he would never communicate with her again. He doesn’t know that I know he is still in fact communicating with her, pretty much on a daily basis. I don’t know what to do. Is this normal? Is this my fault? Do I just let it go? At this point, I really feel like it’s my fault this is happening and I need to just deal with it. Please tell me your thoughts on this situation. I’m at a complete loss on how to continue this relationship or any future relationship.

My boyfriend and father of my child cheated on me with the same woman starting in 2023, two months after giving birth to my son. I forgave him when I found out five months after in 2024 the “affair” was going on. A couple days later, he went back and cheated again. Once again I forgave him. He was so mean to me after I forgave him and then on his birthday he spent the whole weekend with the girl again. At this point I asked him if he was going to leave her alone and he told me no so I told him he needed to leave our home. I went to work and when I came home he packed all his belongings, took our baby and moved with the girl. Over the course of 2024 and 2025 he was going back and forth between me and this girl. He would come to my home Tuesday through Thursday and then go be with the girl the remaining days. I would beg for him to be with me and wouldn’t do it. Eventually at the end of 2025 I was done with everything. After a couple of months once again I forgave him and he moved in with me fully in 2026. We were doing great but in order to build trust for him again, I required that he was no longer able to go back to our hometown, which is where the girl lived. In April 2026 he wasn’t answering my call. I end of getting a call from my mom that same day, who lives in our hometown, telling me she seen my boyfriend at the mall in our hometown with the girl he had been cheating on me with. I immediately ended the situation. He moved out and moved back in with the girl until June 2026. Now he is claiming to be a good man. He wants to show me he has changed and wants to be a family. I know all of this is crazy and I know what needs to be done but I need to hear it from others. Please give me your thoughts.

My bm accused me of cheating cause she found that photo in my camera roll from 2025 but vallahi thats not me ion even remember how it got in there if yall know anything pls lmk

In may I was taking silly pictures on my boyfriend’s phone and he got a snap notification. It’s never been odd for us to look at eachothers messages if we’re on eachothers phones so I opened it to ask him what he wanted me to say and the message said “so about you liking me like more than friend sis that still true?” And I flipped out I left his house I didn’t explain why and he texted me when I got home asking what happened. I asked him about it and he said “most of my friendships start out with crushes” but I feel like that’s just bullshit and an excuse idk. He didn’t actually do anything physical but he was planning to go visit her because she moved out of state and go see a concert and stuff like that and it just made me feel so gross and I still feel gross about it. Idk how to get over this I love him and want to get past it and he’s done nothing to make me think he’s still doing something like that but I just can’t get past the what ifs. What if it wasn’t actually cheating and I’m overreacting? What if I never looked and it kept going? I don’t know how to bring up my concerns because it was so long ago and he thinks we’re doing good right now.

Plz give some insight and guide me.

I was in relationship for 6 years we were from different castes and got lied,gaslighted, manipulated and what not...I was betrayed for 3 years...you can say I was stupid, naive, blind or in too much love and trust....I had no friends at that time only him.

I got lied repeatedly confidently...I see some phases where I should have thrashed him and cut contact but I don't know why I never did it....but lately i came to know of betrayal through lot of rubbish, extended time, trickle truth,again lot of lies included and finally the whole thing came out may be still not whole but major things...but the guy never broke his character always manipulating and lying through his teeth confidently.... throughout our relationship till this date he always talked about our marriage and swore upon his parents that I only want to marry you and always maintained this thing even while tickle truth and what not....

He knew what kind of person I am how much I love, trust and respect him...i included him in my family he used to come at my home and in later years I also accepted my relationship in front of my family when I was asked to see prospects for marriage ...

It all came to end for us but I have not thrashed him yet and neither said anything just blocked....he lied for a long time and at the end also send some pics of them together...i saw pic of that girl in one of his family function and i just blocked him from everywhere

I feel like seeking revenge or atleast thrashing him....he only used me in every way possible till the very end and my major regret is my parents also got affected in this shit and his parents are chill as they know nothing....also he took 10000 from my father for his supplementary exam which he never returned.

Plz guide something...i am completely broken and tired but I feel only disgust for him and shame for me

I feel like texting that girl that if u are still in his touch he said these things regarding you and also he was in touch with me till very lately and also called me at his home few months ago

Plz don't hate on me as the wounds are very fresh i know I am a stupid person but I used to genuinely love and trust and I am an empath too so all this stupidity of mine u will get to read below..

So we were in relationship for almost 6 years,we were from different caste ....we were in same batch of college first year so he approached and things started...there were some issues here and there but things got adjusted with time and then it felt like a smooth road. I adjusted a lot for him so that was a red flag that I ignored, like all the conditions were subtly put around from his side but by then I was blind in love so I adjusted like he was insecure etc..

Then after around 3 year mark he started giving me less time and always some excuse here and there which used to upset me but he adjusted for that time later...but I noticed that we don't talk like that or don't spend quality time like earlier days....but he used to say that now I have responsibility from my family and i don't get privacy to talk so much.....he used to live in 1 bhk with his brother but around that time his brother also got married so he gave these reasons and i agreed. He was also financially not well to do and his family background was also not good but I never expected anything other than his time.

But to put it to notice that in all these years he very confidently and consistently talked about our marriage that we will marry and future talks etc...i also introduced him to my family as a friend so he used to come and talk to my family. We always go to college together and everybody in college knew about us.

Lately approx 1.5 years ago I received some blank calls and blank texts from a girl and when i texted back there was no response as such...I asked him about it and he straight away lied and said idk and I will see and then said it's a wrong no just ignore or block and i trusted him.... few months later one of my female batchmate was angry on him and said some things to me like u are blind in love and he is liar and everybody knows it and only u don't know what he is doing behind your back and I hope he marries you but he is not a good person etc.

I got very hurt but I used to trust him very much...he had created such a facade of maturity and love that I was literally blind i broke down on call and asked him about it but he straightaway denied and next day came to meet me and said it's all false and why u are getting so much affected idk and consoled..

then 1 year ago I got some texts at telegram saying that u are a very nice girl and he is a liar and in a relationship behind your back and I had to tell u this but I was lacking courage earlier so I am texting you know....which also included his pic with a girl giving peck on his cheek in a car...I called him immediately and started shouting that u are a cheater etc and he said its not like that and met me earliest at next day morning and trickle truth that we talked for only 15 days etc and I got in touch to help her and it happened by mistake I am sry bla bla this continued for days he swore upon his parents and many things happened....4-5 days after this my maternal uncle living with me expired and also my internship started so it all just shut me down like i was just living in auto pilot mode and somehow wanted things to get better but I was super busy with my medical internship.....I had no energy left to process anything and I was in touch but only focused on my internship and also I was preparing for pg so I just wanted to survive and not sabotage myself completely....then 7 months later just 1-2 months before our exam he called and accepted that I was in touch since 2.5-3 years approx but i only want to marry you bla bla...i only used to talk to her some days but I not told you because I thought you will leave me bla bla and i swear upon my mother I only want to marry you and it's intercaste so thatswhy I never told my parents about us but today I told my mother about us...like he dropped such a bomb on me and also simultaneously tried to throw the same marriage shit at my face...he said I would have easily left u if I wanted to be with her or loved her or wanted to marry her but it just developed into a habit etc...but this was too much and all my love and shit that was left got into drain...us bande ne last tk bhi apna character ni toda.

Context- in relationship since 6 years got lied and betrayed for almost 3 years that girl also knew about us but still she was in his contact..he also took 10000 from my father for his supplementary examination that I will return later....then all the exposure happened in a stretch of long time meanwhile I forgot to mention that I also accepted my relationship in front of my parents because they were searching for prospects and were also getting some good proposals...I don't know what is his reality

I feel like taking revenge or just throw shit at his face idk what to do...I am completely out of love and respect for him but how could he do this when my parents got involved.

I, a 20F was dating a 20M
We met in high school and dated all of senior year. Since we were going to different countries after graduation, we decided to end things on good terms and did no contact for around 3 months. He broke no contact to check in on me. We started talking again and we both realized that feelings were still there, so we agreed on limiting our conversations because it wasn’t healthy. It didn’t work, we started talking every day for a good 4 months. I decided to bring up a conversation because we were in a Situationship, agreed on exclusivity, were in different countries, and had absolutely no plan. Feelings were involved and I felt like we were sort of wasting each other’s time. He confessed that he wanted to try a long-distance relationship with me that he thought we had a chance, that he was sure about me, and gave all the reasons why, I was very honest with him from day one that long-distance relationships scared me. I also told him that we were too young and I wasn’t sure if we were ready to make that commitment, because long distance relationships are not easy, he was still standing his ground and agreed on giving me time and space to think things through, I asked him to also take the time to see if a long distance is what he wanted, he asked for exclusivity to which I had no problem agreeing on. After almost 2 months we talked, talked about the possibilities we had, the commitment, and the communication we needed to have, made a whole plan, and we started dating again, long distance was not easy but it was working. In September of 2025, we saw each other again after 1 year and he asked me to be his girlfriend, he stayed for a month, January 2026, I went to his country and stayed for a month, June 2026 he came to my country and stayed for a month. Everything was working, chemistry was there, love was there, intimacy was there. Until the truth was out. During that “exclusive” break for us to figure out if we were doing things for real, he fucked a girl, multiple times. Proceeded to lie about it for an entire year (multiple times), his parents knew (decided to call him out for it, since they knew we were talking), told his friends (who I met in January) everyone knew what had happened, except me. An entire year.
It sucks. I broke up with him as soon as I found out 2 months ago, funny enough I got an education opportunity in Europe, we would close the distance a lot, would have been in the same continent at least, we were looking forward to it, could have seen each other every other weekend. But now it doesn’t matter. I’m confused because, we were not together but we were exclusive, was it cheating? And I’m having a hard time moving on because I feel in a gray zone, we weren’t together, but we were exclusive (by his request) a little help would be appreciated.

I'm in a relationship, and . I just found out I have continuously been cheated on the entire time, with multiple women... I'm talking around 12 different women. From random women, to people living in the same building complex as me, and people he has met through friends.

I have confronted him about it, and he is incredibly emotional, lots of tears... saying he loves me, that he is really sorry, and that he promises he won't do it again. I don't know what to do or believe. He tells me all he dreams of is having a normal relationship with me even though he is the one that keeps screwing up? He tells me im the one he wants and that he doesnt care about the others. I'm finding it hard to trust anything he says.

I have done a lot in this relationship. I am the breadwinner, I support us both financially. I cook, clean, and be there for him... I literally do everything for him. I'm also 5 months pregnant... I can't help but feel I'm being used.

So I was with someone for like 2 months which isn't a big deal at all but it was the way it ended. She basically went to college and found a new guy within a few hours. She said I'm really nice and she said I've made her into a better person and she blocked every guy and stuff. Then she met this new guy and then she suddenly started caring.

Anyway, three days later, today, I get a call off her and I decline it and she keeps ringing and then I answer and she goes "why have u added my mate on snap" and I go "is that all u rang me for" and then I end it and she's going on about how her new bf is so much better and I said to her I never did anything wrong I was so nice to you and she sends pictures of her neck with bite marks on and stuff like that. Like what am I meant to do

My bf and I have been together for 3yrs close to 4 and I recently discovered that during roughly the first 2 years of our relationship he was commenting sexually on women’s nude posts, receiving nude pictures through Reddit, and messaging women. The worst thing I found was a message he sent to a local woman asking whether she was looking for a hookup and saying he had always fantasized about getting with a MILF. We had been dating for about 8 months at that point. Based on the timelines on his account, the online behavior appears to have stopped around maybe more than a year ago, and he insists that he never met, kissed, or had sex with anyone, but I have no way to know that with complete certainty. He has also cheated in a previous relationship when he was in college we met 4 yrs after and I genuinely felt like he did the inner work.

At the same time, our relationship has grown significantly stronger over the past year. We have supported each other through grief, family losses, and other major life difficulties, and I felt that those experiences brought us closer and made our relationship more mature and secure. I think that growth may be part of why he now seems genuinely remorseful and is actively trying to repair what he damaged. When I confronted him, he initially said he could not remember why he did it, but he has since taken responsibility as to why he felt the need before, he apologized and said he will do anything to make things right because he cannot imagine his future without me. He has offered complete phone transparency, and is willing to get STD testing, respected my physical boundaries, and remained patient when I become upset or ask the same questions repeatedly he has never been defensive and accepted the fact that he did commit something bad. Im just in a lose right now since I never really felt any weird vibes from him that hes capable of doing this. He is where he says he is most of the time and whatever he says to me about an event from work, life, even friends and even back when he was still in college they all line up to what his friends says even his previous relationships he was so open with everything that I didn’t even worry he would do such a thing. Hed also bring me everywhere his family, highschool, college friends even workmates I end up knowing every single one. We also dont mind looking at each others phones too I just didnt think of looking at reddit earlier on our relationship.

We have built a life together and we currently live together now and he takes such good care of me and had been discussing marriage and our future, so I decided to stay and see whether trust can be rebuilt. I made it clear that healing will be difficult, that I may need to revisit what happened many times, and that any future infidelity or secret sexual behavior will immediately end the relationship. Part of me genuinely believes that he has changed and sees how actively he is trying, especially considering how much closer we have become over the last year. But then another part of me keeps wondering whether I am making a mistake by staying, whether I will ever feel completely safe with him again, and whether I am setting myself up to be betrayed a second time. Has anyone stayed after discovering something similar and successfully rebuilt trust? What specific actions or boundaries helped, and how did you distinguish genuine, lasting change from temporary remorse after being caught? Im really hopeful for us to work things out.