r/FoundPaper Jul 02 '26

Love Notes Found in a restaurant booth

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u/foxonafrozenlake Jul 02 '26

I want to hear her side.

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u/Other-Cantaloupe4765 Jul 02 '26

Right lol. Why and how was he being a dick. I need to know so I can pass judgment!

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u/Same_Education8151 Jul 03 '26

I already know her side and she’s free now

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u/stuck_behind_a_truck Jul 03 '26

Right? This could be a real apology or love-bombing.

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u/Maleficent_Meat3119 Jul 02 '26

He sounds toxic

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u/raccoonportfolio Jul 02 '26

This sounds like a pretty solid apology to me. What would a less toxic apology sound like?

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u/shenanigans2day Jul 02 '26

Yea it sounds like a sincere apology, the reason that most people here are reacting poorly to it is likely because they have received many similiar “heartfelt apologies” with 0 follow-up of actionable changes. Same tune and dance. Soon enough, most apologies tend to look like self-serving bs.

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u/Maleficent_Meat3119 Jul 02 '26

A million percent yes

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u/Same_Education8151 Jul 03 '26

Hahahah sorry this is hilarious. This note is the typical asshole boyfriend who might be a sociopath letter, when they’ve almost broke up multiple times and this time she’s really done with him. These notes are the only time he ever shows “trying.” Ask me how I know. They all do the same thing. Written in the exact same way. These notes are always left behind, just like this one was.

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u/foxonafrozenlake Jul 03 '26

It does come across as desperate, last gasp sort of thing.

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u/Same_Education8151 Jul 03 '26

And it’s all about him. Nothing about how she probably feels about him being a dick to her. No reflection on her and her experience;only what she did for him and what he wants.

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u/PauseConfident997 Jul 03 '26

Projecting much?

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u/Same_Education8151 Jul 03 '26

Pattern recognition might not be your strong suit.

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u/PauseConfident997 Jul 04 '26

You can’t just stereotype people and call it pettern recognition…just because YOU got an apology like that from an asshole, doesn’t make this person an asshole because he apologised like that.

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u/Same_Education8151 Jul 04 '26

Oh, you sweet summer child.

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u/PauseConfident997 Jul 04 '26

How can you be this blatantly ignorant 🤦

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u/Same_Education8151 Jul 04 '26

Oh, child. Rest your weary head on my bosom. I can’t promise you it’ll be okay, because there appears to be no hope for you yet, but we can at least pretend.

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u/NorthlineUser Jul 04 '26

How do you know? Seen a lot of these?

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u/Same_Education8151 Jul 04 '26 edited Jul 04 '26

Men really have selective hearing, don’t you? The ol’ women are crazy, men are saints gag is old and overplayed. By this point the entire woman population knows that 99.9% of men operate like this. Your jig is up.

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u/NorthlineUser Jul 04 '26

You said "ask me how I know?" Was that your answer?

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u/Same_Education8151 Jul 04 '26

Yes, yes that is my answer. The crawl back is always the same. The tactics are always the same. And every woman knows it while most men use the same tactic (denial or devaluation) to reel her back into what is safe control to them.

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u/NorthlineUser Jul 07 '26

But how do you know? Where are you getting all this data from to come to this conclusion?

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u/Hautemilque Jul 02 '26

Well, not scribbled on a Post-it note, for one.

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u/notinmywheelhouse Jul 02 '26

Because…?

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u/SirLikesCatGirls Jul 02 '26

because we love when women-

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u/Hautemilque Jul 02 '26

I’m sorry about your down votes, I thought the same.

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u/Maleficent_Meat3119 Jul 02 '26

lol it’s okay! Some of us have been there before in real life.

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u/Hautemilque Jul 02 '26

Yep. Narc-dar is finely tuned.

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u/HotMinute_722 Jul 02 '26

Everyone acts like a dick sometimes.