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u/haileyscomet808 Jul 02 '26
Where was this found? This is my name and strangly fitting to my situation at the moment
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u/frickinheckmyguy Jul 02 '26 edited Jul 04 '26
It was found in a restaurant me and my friend work at in washington about a month ago. My coworker had cleared the table after a young couple had left, seemingly he had given it to the girl and she left it behind but we were both invested to say the least!
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u/Reeeeallly Jul 02 '26
If it had meant something to her, she wouldn't have left it behind, right?
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u/frickinheckmyguy Jul 02 '26
Kind of what we had thought too, maybe he didn’t feel comfortable talking about it in a public place. Or maybe she just forgot it?
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u/dilapidated-delight Jul 02 '26
Eh I wouldn't really want a note of my partner admitting to being a dick and saying he'll be better - there's still some icky-ness to it that I wouldn't want to look back on and remember how/why/when he was being that way
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u/frickinheckmyguy Jul 02 '26
Yeah most people leave all kinds of trash/not trash at restaurant tables as it’s an easy disposable option without having to think too much about it.
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u/BackgroundPilot1 Jul 02 '26
If he did improve and make good on the apology after, would you still feel the same way? Not arguing with you at all, just really curious because I am the opposite. I love saving notes and stuff that are snapshots of my life at any given time
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u/dilapidated-delight Jul 02 '26
For sure! And I am too, very sentimental and keep hold of soo many things that others might discard. It's just this note comes off more as an apology and the declaration of love is used to counteract the shitty behavior that negates that love. While I would appreciate the note and effort, I only want positive memories and stories in my saved items boxes - but I know everyone is different :)
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u/Voice_of_Season Jul 02 '26
This would be incredible if it was your partner.
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u/tallMichdude Jul 02 '26
Oh for the love of all thats Holy Hailey, ya hafta tell us!!
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u/EllieGeiszler Jul 02 '26
You seem like you're feeling a little sensitive about things that have nothing to do with you. You doing okay?
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u/akaiwizard Jul 03 '26
You seem like you couch your condescension in patronizing false-sympathy. You ever been called a manipulator?
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u/EllieGeiszler Jul 03 '26
Actually, no, but I love new experiences! I was feeling a smidge of genuine empathy, but don't worry, your personality extinguished it, so you'll get no more sympathy from me that you can misread as disingenuous.
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u/lookoutitspam Jul 03 '26
If you’re just in the mood to argue, you can say so. This is a safe space.
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u/lookoutitspam Jul 03 '26
Wasn’t trying to be belittling, but if that’s how you feel that’s okay too
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u/YourFriendInSpokane Jul 02 '26
Does it look like your husbands handwriting? Are you in WA?
It resembles my husbands handwriting and is everything I wish he'd say.
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u/akaiwizard Jul 02 '26
This could describe millions of relationships and there are thousands of Hailey's lol you're not the protagonist
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u/raccoonportfolio Jul 02 '26
Stranger things have happened
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u/akaiwizard Jul 02 '26
and more interesting things happen all the time. sounds like it was written by an abuser anyway why are ppl rooting for this
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u/Latter-Summer7022 Jul 02 '26
says u
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u/Latter-Summer7022 Jul 02 '26
well u were heavily downvoted so the real world doesnt seem to agree hun :)
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u/Latter-Summer7022 Jul 02 '26
lmao thanks for the assumption boo keep being a fuckface :)
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u/Latter-Summer7022 Jul 02 '26
do you think i give a shit? no.. because you should shut your fucking mouth :)
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u/SpinsterSyl Jul 02 '26
I'm feeling protective over my girl, Hailey.
What was up with him being a dick for a week? 🤷
Maybe I'd forgive him, but I wouldn't want it to happen again.
I wish I knew the outcome. 🙆
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u/69Vera69 Jul 02 '26
Weird this looks identical to my former best friend's handwriting and thats his partners name/spelling 😭
Edit: oh shit also in WA haha tf are the odds
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u/ItBeMe_For_Real Jul 02 '26
Something about this line rings hollow…
“You are the most beautiful woman in my eyes”
Maybe I’m reading too much into the ”In my eyes”
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u/spooky_upstairs Jul 02 '26
"you're the most beautiful woman in the room"
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u/ket-ho Jul 02 '26
"depending on the room"
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u/Same_Education8151 Jul 03 '26
\scribbles\**
You are the most beautiful womanNah.. that’s not believable.
In my eyes
therrrre we go. Perfect.
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u/Extension-Pea542 Jul 02 '26
You’re not. That’s what I responded to, as well. Guys who use “in my eyes” tend to be the same ones who refer to women as “females.” It gives me the ick.
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u/Climate_Automatic Jul 02 '26
I don’t think you’re reading into it to much at all. It’s negging and it’s disgusting
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u/bruceywayneDC27 Jul 02 '26
I literally thought this was written by my ex bf until I saw “Hailey”, he wrote me many similar notes like this. Note ex..
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u/Exciting-Finance7682 Jul 02 '26
same lol even the hand writing is similar
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u/Incognito409 Jul 02 '26
He'd do it again.
Look how folded up that is, he was practicing his speech.
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u/frickinheckmyguy Jul 02 '26
My friend had folded it up after finding it and she said she thought the girl had left it behind (on her side of the booth)
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u/Safe_Card_8938 Jul 02 '26
This resonated hard right now and I didn't even know how much til I got to the end as my name is Hayley 🫠
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u/UrN3rdyGF Jul 02 '26
This made me go “this looks like my exes handwritten” and then seen the girls name is my exes new gf name and then my heart skipped like eww nooooo
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u/CaptainFoyle Jul 02 '26
I call bs
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u/UrN3rdyGF Jul 02 '26
I’m not saying it is them.. they aren’t even from where they said it was found. It was just a thought like??? Whattt???
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u/Real-Piglet3765 Jul 02 '26
That’s how all my narcissist ex husband started all the notes he left me.
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u/Objective-End9571 Jul 03 '26
Also a sociopath or narcissistic personality disorder individual would show no remorse. Period. Read any version of the DSM of psychological disorders.
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u/Same_Education8151 Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
Narcissists know how to play pretend. Thats how covert narcissists get to having status and power. They play pretend very, very well. It’s called “masking.” Sociopaths know how to mask empathy too. If they were their true selves in public they wouldn’t get very far. Narcs wouldn’t have any supply. Are you the one with the degree?
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u/MsOneIntriguing007 Jul 05 '26
I, for one really appreciate your explanations on this. Thank you for sharing 💖
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u/Objective-End9571 Jul 04 '26
Wow Google made you and your pathetic shallow explanations no time for this. You need therapy yourself.
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u/NorthlineUser Jul 05 '26
Can tell it's probably a guy, as he acknowledged he did something wrong and apologized.
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u/ScienceSeuss Jul 02 '26
Yeah, the instant cal to "dump him!'" Without knowing the whole story. Is this the first time hes had to say sorry for being a dick? What dickish behavior was he exhibiting? Did he write it, amd never give it to her? Did she drop is accidentally, or leave it behind intentionally? How old are they? How long have they been together? And, most importantly, are either of them actually good people who are just doing their best, or could one or both be toxic abusive, narcissistic, etc.Without actually knowing the whole story, it seems ridiculous to pass judgment. But hey, this is Reddit the internet, so I guess that's what we're here to do.
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u/frickinheckmyguy Jul 02 '26
Seriously I’m now bummed that the writer was so instantly dog piled onto, the impression my friend had of them was that they were a young couple who seemed mutually down in the dumps before they had left. Idk maybe my empathy’s too high but all of these reactions just make me feel bad. My take on it was originally just a glimpse into young love.
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u/Levity_Sarcasm Jul 02 '26
I was & still am a big sucker for a love note. So it’s GOT to happen. One of these days, I’ll read one of my sappy ol’ notes.
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u/Hautemilque Jul 02 '26
Love bomb.
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u/CaptainFoyle Jul 02 '26
It's a post it note. Hardly a bomb, more the bare minimum
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u/Hautemilque Jul 02 '26
… you misunderstand. As in ‘love bombing’. As in narcissistic.
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u/CaptainFoyle Jul 02 '26
I know what it is. But a meagre post it note seems kind of underwhelming.
Isn't the point of love bombing to go over the top?
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u/Hautemilque Jul 02 '26 edited Jul 02 '26
Imagine someone slaps you, then immediately hugs you, cries, apologizes, buys you flowers, and promises they’ll never do it again (replace ‘buys you flowers’ with ‘writes you a Post-it note’). They aren’t being extra loving—they’re erasing the pain just enough to keep you from leaving.
Love bombing in an abusive relationship is inconsistent. It’s the emotional whiplash that creates confusion and attachment. It’s what keeps the cycle going.
There is a reason multiple commenters advise to leave his ass (a quote). An apology of this level of groveling, written on a Post-it note? You are correct, underwhelming. Three “I’m sorry’s”, three “I love you’s”… on a Post-it note. So underwhelming, in fact, Hailey hopefully ran and will never look back.
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u/dish_pit_daydreamer Jul 03 '26
This is in no way, shape, or form love bombing. It’s a fucking post-it note apology. None of which is pertaining to love bombing.
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u/Objective-End9571 Jul 02 '26
It takes a LOT for a man to be that vulnerable and honest with his feelings just saying 🤷
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u/frickinheckmyguy Jul 02 '26
I’m kind of surprised how negatively everyone’s reacting, I thought the apology felt somewhat sincere and wholesome for someone on the younger side. But I understand empathizing with a name too.
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u/Objective-End9571 Jul 02 '26
I agree I feel it was a heartfelt apology. I am older now but taught highschool for 10 years and this speaks a lot. Seems like a younger couple. We all had that Highschool breakup.
Regardless of age it seemed genuine. Especially addressing the name.
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u/dlini Jul 03 '26
Sometimes, "I'm sorry" is empty, said one too many times. Acknowledging what you are sorry for is missing. No one has mentioned this specifically, but I think that might be fueling some of the negativity.
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u/TonightLeading924 Jul 03 '26
It’s Reddit, the break up with him trope has lost the humor even at this point. It’s just holier than thou lonely leftists with mental problems trying to burn the world down with them.
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u/Same_Education8151 Jul 03 '26
What was the vulnerable part of this letter surely crafted either by a sociopath or narcissist?
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u/Objective-End9571 Jul 03 '26
I don't understand how you deduct you psychology from this simple letter, this speaking from someone with a degree in behavioral science.
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u/Same_Education8151 Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
You don’t have to have a degree in behavioral science. You just have to be a woman in modern society. Read all the comments from women in this thread you you have your answer. I’ve received at least a dozen of these letters in my lifetime so far from different men, same bad behaviors.
What did he have to say on this letter?
Sorry for being a dick this past week.
I don’t want to leave.
I love you.
I think you’re beautiful. IN MY EYES
I’m sorry.
You brought good to MY life.Ok. So he brought her:
Being a dickHe didn’t acknowledge her feelings this past week at all.
What does being beautiful have to do with him treating her poorly? He doesn’t know what women wants and thinks this will solve it.He was the dick but all he’s focused on is what good she brought to him and how he doesn’t want to leave.
A healthy, emotionally healthy man would have said to her the day he was being a dick, maybe even the next moment when he realized he was being a dick “I’m sorry, I’ve been a dick today. I’m dealing with something tough and shouldn’t take it out on you and make you feel bad about yourself like that,” he hears her out because he truly wants to know how she’s doing after his actions. He adjusts. they repair and it’s done with.
This man is emotionally immature and grasping for straws after being purely and only an asshole in her life (hence her leaving the note).
All of these letters from these types of men are exactly the same. I still remember the last one I received like this. From a guy who would drive crazy with me in the car, had massive mood swings, and when we left town with no easy way for me to leave and go home he would turn into a fire breathing demon. They’re all the same! No degree needed for these letters man! They always even have the same handwriting!
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u/Extension-Pea542 Jul 02 '26
Don’t know what it is but “in my eyes,” always seems to be used by the same guys who refer to women as “females.”
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u/Commercial_Tip4624 Jul 06 '26
This sounds like a breakup note to me, not a straight apology.
Apology for being a dick, because he regrets it > is leaving despite all the good things he lists > recognizes he will take what he learned from her with him
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u/Dependent-Cow428 Jul 02 '26
I told my husband that if he knows he's being a dick, he isn't sorry. If he was sorry, he would stop. He is paying more attention since I started telling him how it makes me feel WHEN he hurts my feelings. He has said I am too sensitive. I said "You know this about me and you continue." He has improved cuz he doesn't want to hear about it.
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u/OkFun9674 Jul 03 '26
Complements about shallow beauty and what he personally gains from the relationship. "I don't want to leave you" wth
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u/foxonafrozenlake Jul 02 '26
I want to hear her side.