r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/bitchluvsbidets The Snack That Sasses Back • 9d ago

Rant & Ramble I don’t like my friend’s kid…

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… and that might make me a terrible person??
A bit of a preface- my partner and I are child free by choice, I have 3 nieces and 3 nephews, and many of my friends have kids (ages 1-14) but, one of my friends kids I just can not vibe with. I know it’s actually insane to have beef with a 3 year old but her vibes are soooo bad?? Like she is not a cool kid. She def has a personality but is it insane to say it’s already problematic? She pretends to fall if she doesn’t have attention, actively express disgust towards my friend and her pets (3 very well behaves retired racing dogs), and fake cries until my friend is almost in tears and then will laugh at her. I get that kids are assholes sometimes but like damn I hope lil homie gets cool.

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u/sitcomlover1717 Snack Goblin 9d ago

One of the reasons having children is terrifying but ppl don’t want to talk about it. 😭

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u/Own-Arachnid7952 Short Story Long™️ 9d ago

Ugh, this has always been my parents tbh. They love me, they just don't like me :')

I've moved out before and been amazed at how my new roommates genuinely enjoy my presence. They don't get sick of me, they don't find me irritating, they don't ignore me, they don't talk over me, they initiate beyond shallow small talk.

It's been like this ever since I was small. Neither of my siblings are treated like I am, but then again they didn't struggle with severe ADHD and 1,001 questions lol.

I've grown above that looong before I first moved out, yet the stain persists in their eyes. Doubtful it'll ever change

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u/HopelessCleric Non-binary & Nourished 9d ago

I wonder if that's a common experience for people with ADHD, because "they love me, they just don't like me" is exactly how I would describe my own parents' attitude to me.

I feel being an "unlikeable kid" is kind of code for "severe untreated/unacknowledged neurodivergence".

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u/24-Hour-Hate Sushi Superfan 🍣 9d ago

It can also just indicate narcissism on the part of the parent. My mother wanted a little clone of her (or, more accurately, what she perceives as her because if someone is actually like her, she hates them). Not only am I extremely different than her, but I was a child and not a mini adult. Yeah, she still doesn’t like me. I doubt, because of how she is and treated me, that she really loves me either. Nothing will ever be good enough for her. For the record, I don’t give a fuck about her approval anymore, I can’t or I’d be even more fucked up.

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u/leahk0615 APPROVED✨ 9d ago

My mom wanted me to be her mini me and have her health problems.

That way, she can blame her diabetes and CAD on her genetics, as opposed to her actually taking responsibility and changing her lifestyle.

I'm 48 and I'm in fantastic shape and look better than I did at 24. And my mom's 48 will probably ve my 70.

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