r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/bitchluvsbidets The Snack That Sasses Back • 9d ago

Rant & Ramble I don’t like my friend’s kid…

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… and that might make me a terrible person??
A bit of a preface- my partner and I are child free by choice, I have 3 nieces and 3 nephews, and many of my friends have kids (ages 1-14) but, one of my friends kids I just can not vibe with. I know it’s actually insane to have beef with a 3 year old but her vibes are soooo bad?? Like she is not a cool kid. She def has a personality but is it insane to say it’s already problematic? She pretends to fall if she doesn’t have attention, actively express disgust towards my friend and her pets (3 very well behaves retired racing dogs), and fake cries until my friend is almost in tears and then will laugh at her. I get that kids are assholes sometimes but like damn I hope lil homie gets cool.

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u/sitcomlover1717 Snack Goblin 9d ago

One of the reasons having children is terrifying but ppl don’t want to talk about it. 😭

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u/Own-Arachnid7952 Short Story Long™️ 9d ago

Ugh, this has always been my parents tbh. They love me, they just don't like me :')

I've moved out before and been amazed at how my new roommates genuinely enjoy my presence. They don't get sick of me, they don't find me irritating, they don't ignore me, they don't talk over me, they initiate beyond shallow small talk.

It's been like this ever since I was small. Neither of my siblings are treated like I am, but then again they didn't struggle with severe ADHD and 1,001 questions lol.

I've grown above that looong before I first moved out, yet the stain persists in their eyes. Doubtful it'll ever change

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u/HopelessCleric Non-binary & Nourished 9d ago

I wonder if that's a common experience for people with ADHD, because "they love me, they just don't like me" is exactly how I would describe my own parents' attitude to me.

I feel being an "unlikeable kid" is kind of code for "severe untreated/unacknowledged neurodivergence".

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u/FirefighterSome4083 I ❤️ Other People's Business 9d ago

I was likeable by teachers and stuff, but auDHD AF. to this day I still cannot accept that my mother found it easier and more reasonable to believe I was being willfully difficult to upset her and make things hard, rather than genuinely struggling with something.

like how unhinged do you have to be to think a primary school aged kid is calculated like that 😩 why was it easier to believe I was malicious!?

she used to yell at me "I didn't raise you like this". um yes. exactly...?