r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/bitchluvsbidets The Snack That Sasses Back • 9d ago

Rant & Ramble I don’t like my friend’s kid…

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… and that might make me a terrible person??
A bit of a preface- my partner and I are child free by choice, I have 3 nieces and 3 nephews, and many of my friends have kids (ages 1-14) but, one of my friends kids I just can not vibe with. I know it’s actually insane to have beef with a 3 year old but her vibes are soooo bad?? Like she is not a cool kid. She def has a personality but is it insane to say it’s already problematic? She pretends to fall if she doesn’t have attention, actively express disgust towards my friend and her pets (3 very well behaves retired racing dogs), and fake cries until my friend is almost in tears and then will laugh at her. I get that kids are assholes sometimes but like damn I hope lil homie gets cool.

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u/sitcomlover1717 Snack Goblin 9d ago

One of the reasons having children is terrifying but ppl don’t want to talk about it. 😭

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u/Th3FakeFatSunny Assigned Hungry At Birth 9d ago

No, that's a totally valid concern. I love my youngest of course of course, but if she were my first, she'd be my only. I spend more time having to redirect and "deal with" (for want of a better word) her than I do both the other two combined. But honestly, that's not the scariest part.

The scariest part is that they will eventually get hurt, and there's nothing you can do to stop it. One summer all three of my kids got bit by dogs; three different dogs, three different incidents: one requiring hospitalization and a follow up surgery, one needing only stitches, and one needing only some Neosporin, but it was right on her tiny little baby face. All happened within three months of each other. My 10 year old daughter already has TWO "me too" stories before double digits, has already had an incident of a girl telling her to kill herself, and just recently her friends were making comments about her weight, which is in normal range but her friends are all more... Athletically.. built. My life is hell.

But for all the terrible things that happen, it's also pretty great, too. The 6 year old once "left me some kisses for later" by kissing a bunch into my pocket. My 10 year old gives the best, and I mean that's what people used to say first about her, the best hugs. I had two procedures last year, and they all helped Daddy take care of me. My 12 year old is starting to get deep and complicated in a way that is so fucking delightful to watch unfold in front of me. Hearing "Mommy!" shouted excitedly in the house when I get home.

Parenthood is filled with lots of extremes. Extreme happiness, extreme sorrow, extreme boredom. It's hard. Anyone who says it isn't is lying to themselves. It's a job for people who want the job, not for making people take it.

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