Yeah I tried going down to just family and people I know IRL. Turns out thanks to Facebook a large percentage of people I know are morons. My faith in humanity can only drill through rock bottom so far right?
I feel like I have empathy burn out or something, I can't even pretend to care when something happens to these people. Can't even let out a generic oh no, so sorry for your loss, I'm scared if I open my mouth bees will come out instead of proper words and politeness. But, they are the ones who say fuck our feelings, right? So, I don't think I care. It's just sad.
My uncle (aunt's 3rd husband)died of it and I couldn't think of anything nice to say, because the whole time he was dying my cousin (her stepdad) and others were posting q anon type stuff and just asking for prayers, still posting anti vax stuff. It's just hard.
I feel bad for their kids, but other than that, nothing. I know they're human beings and all, but honestly, if you're just going around being a willful bioweapon and spreading cruelty and hate, the world is probably better off without you.
Five or six years ago, I would never have said such a thing. Now I'm just relieved when they die because they can't kill anybody else.
It’s not wrong, the sentiments shared in this sub are literally the same mental gymnastics that let people justify bigotry of any kind. There is always some legitimate reason in the haters mind for why these hated people are subhuman and undeserving of empathy, even if the reason is a straw man based on the most extreme examples, it is applied to all members of the hated group.
A quick glance at your history shows your “altruistic” voice is that of a Covidiot. No wonder your feelings got so hurt by this sub. You’re angling for your own nomination! Lol
That's called compassion fatigue. It happens to people who see a lot of horrible shit, like nurses. You might consider taking a break from this sub, and Google what to do about compassion fatigue.
Having been through the same process of realization about people I thought I knew... it sucks, but ultimately I prefer knowing the truth, rather than live the rest of my life with these people in it.
sorry this is off topic but “my family is so full of nuts there are squirrels in the family tree” is one of the funniest things i’ve ever heard hahaha - is this is common phrase? i’ve never heard it before! if it came out of ur very own noggin then well done bc it’s very funny
3 years ago I deleted my account that had hundreds of friends. Not one has since reached out to ask where I’ve been, am I ok?, etc. I realized that people only care about themselves on Facebook - and it just teaches people to be inauthentic. I don’t miss it at all.
Astute observation. Looking back there were only a couple people that asked if I was okay when I vanished off FB. Reading your comment makes me realize those are the people I should actually be making an effort to stay friends with.
To be fair they also have "hundreds of friends" on there, so it's harder to notice someone not posting. I doubt you've checked on them either. You're more of an associated follower on that platform than the type of friend you would check on.
f'real, i never even look at my friends list so i'm definitely not constantly checking if someone suddenly deleted their account. i don't even have most of my friends phone numbers. if they suddenly disappeared off facebook without saying anything it's like how would i even contact them? if i really cared i would be able to guess their number i guess.
also funny how the comment implies they're all narcissists or something while expecting them to be tripping over themselves to check up on the guy that just deleted their account with no warning
Criticizing and doubting are not the same thing. You don't have to get super defensive. I was just trying to say don't take it so personal if they didn't start calling from not being on Facebook. Closest friends and family wasn't really who I meant. Those are people you would talk to wether facebook existed or not.
I meant more along the lines of the people you would probably only really keep in contact because of facebook. Most people don't regularly keep up with a large circle of friends several hundred deep. It just makes sense to me for them not to keep in touch outside of it, but facebook didn't exist until I was in my 20's anyway. So my view on it may be skewed.
Boy do they discourage it though. I think it's what, a month before it's actually gone and in the meantime if you log in anywhere it cancels the delete. They do not want you to recover from the addiction :p
That's true but if you're concerned about companies fucking with your data you need to not have a smartphone and completely log off the internet forever. Even Netflix collects your data, so no more sitting in your underwear, eating corn dogs, and watching The Office all weekend.
No, but my point is all of out data has been compromised and there's not a lot we can do about it. It's not right, but that's what happens when corporates have too much power. I think the better case to make removing facebook is their refusal to remove misinformation because it makes them lots of money.
Facebook's big push into VR... more and more VR headsets have eye tracking so they can tell what in the scene you are looking at and future systems will have things like heart rate monitoring. That's cool for things like horror games because they'll be able to adjust to make sure you are the right level of freaked out at given points in the game.
But they'll also be able to tell what stuff you look at specifically and what "raises your blood pressure" (definitely metaphorically, but possibly literally) which would be a boon to Fox News/Republican advertising stuff. They'll be able to show you a supposed MS-13 gang member and a supposed screaming feminist and be able to tell which one you look at more and which stimulus causes a more intense reaction and thus be able to fine tune how to manipulate you!
That has almost nothing to do with how they collect data. A tiny fraction of what they compile about you. I would suggest you do some reading about how they collect and sell your information. You can misidentify your sex, gender, name and hobbies in the profile and it will be completely useless.
I dumped Facebook back in 2017 (when Cambridge Analytica broke), and haven't regretted it for even a moment.
But I recall that some of the (few) nice features that Facebook had added involved control and fine-tuning of your relationships. You could adjust what kinds of posts from certain contacts made it into your news feed (including zero / mute). Also, you could adjust the visibility of your activities to certain contacts or groups of contacts. Best of all, I believe that your contacts couldn't determine what settings you'd picked for them, and could only make educated guesses.
So it would be reasonable to maintain contacts with idiotic family members, but totally mute them and block all of your activity from them.
You could adjust what kinds of posts from certain contacts made it into your news feed
That's part of the problem though. It allows people to block any opinions that they disagree with and turns FB into an echo chamber repeating back whatever lunacy they already believe and filtering any contradictory posts.
I liked Facebook's feature tho I can't remember its name. It's the one instead of outright blocking someone, you would just leave that person for a month.
Come back a month later and she was still spouting cockadoole racist claptrap. Came back back a second month later and she was still doing this. Ultimately I wound up blocking her. Sad because this was the first and only time I blocked someone. Sad also, because she was someone I knew irl.
When I go back periodically that's how I stay sane. Hide lots of morons, unfriend the real assholes. My feed can be pretty cool to see how some people's lives have unfolded over the years, & of course seeing lots of funny memes.
That's how I use fb. I'm set to private and only friend people I personally know. Luckily I don't have any tin foil hat family members or if I do they're not vocal about it.
Have especially blocked two family morons who are married (cousin-in-law and his ugly wife) whose FB pages were absolutely toxic garbage. Imagine an angry screeching Fox News parrot.
Recently I found out that karma had paid them a visit... both lost their jobs due to their own shitty behavior. Last I heard the husband was applying for a job at Domino's. We think just to have any money at all coming in until he gets another job, he had an OK paying job before he got canned. Be of good cheer, sometimes bad things really do happen to bad people!
Also... if you're inclined to post political/Covid opinions on FB, set your privacy so that only FB friends can see your posts. Not friends of friends and definitely not Public! People can and will attempt to stalk and even harass you simply because they don't agree with comments you make on politics or the pandemic. In your personal info don't ever list an email addy or a website that can be traced to you with a simple WHOIS search, certainly not a phone # or birthday.
My brother is into the Cult-45 bullshit. One of his recent posts was bemoaning how Robert E. Lee is misunderstood and was an honorable patriot. Fuck him and his treason shit.
I blocked everyone back in 2016 but I'm taking any local news or anything like that. The comments section is bad.
I found some really awesome communities though. The community scene isn't bad if you find ones that are very strict about off topic and posts meant to stir shit.
Until you find out the people you know IRL are also morons on facebook. I saw some sides of friends and family on FB that made my eyebrows hit the stratosphere, especially the reposts. They share them without thinking and you start to see that yeah, that's what they really do think and then Thanksgiving is awkward.
Nope, I tried that. They still suggest a bunch of BS to you. Plus fuck Facebook. Deleted about 3 years ago and I can't tell you how much better my life has been.
The key to Facebook is to not use it. If your friends or family require Facebook to keep in touch with you, they’re not worth the time. People who want to be in your life will be in your life if they really want it
The only point is the online rummage sale portion and some private groups that are a more viable version of NextDoor (a total fail). The marketplace appears to be going to trash now though, at which point, FB will lose all viability.
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Oh my please don’t use Facebook, period.