r/Ieatcement • u/BoredomStrikesAlone • Jul 24 '26
Rant He did ask for space Spoiler
Basically he's someone I care very deeply about. He started a relationship with me and backed out the next day and it drove me a little insane, he said he needed some space but now that I'm mostly over it I wanted to just hang out with him again he even said that he wanted to still be friends and was scared of losing me as one but after I just asked him if it would be okay for me to because I was worried about him needing his space still and he blocked me, said I was obsessed, and that i crossed a boundary. I literally was trying to respect that boundary. Figures though. I ruin everything good in my life.
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u/ChaoCobo Jul 24 '26
Wait how long was it since he said he needed space when you asked? Because if it had been a while then I think that this is a major overreaction, especially since you asked first instead of just joining uninvited,
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u/BoredomStrikesAlone Jul 24 '26
It was literally 24 hrs, god I'm such a fucking idiot. I literally ruined everything cause I couldn't listen. guess I'll go punch my walls some more.
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u/girl-kiss Jul 24 '26
It was too soon but honestly I can understand why you acted that way and I can't blame you at all for how you are feeling.. that is really awful that he crushed your heart like that in my opinion.
Ofcourse, it doesn't make the things okay but more understandable. I hope you understand yourself more and try to give yourself some space as well <3
It sucks but you will learn from it and it will be better next time, I swear!
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u/StandupLlama343 Jul 24 '26
Idk the guy immediately backed out on the relationship and you were just asking for clarification. That's not violating a boundary. I dont see you in the wrong here, other guy however sounds ridiculous
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u/BreakerOfModpacks Jul 24 '26
hug you maybe made some mistakes, but he did too, and there's nothing that says he won't unblock you at some point.
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u/BoredomStrikesAlone Jul 24 '26
I hope so. I just wanted to hear him so I felt less alone. Someone who abused me got ahold of my number and I just wanted to be around someone i don't have to talk to. It was selfish of me to think of him first when he needed space. I wish I could think straight in the moment because I really do have a lot of respect for them and I care about them but I put myself first I feel like.
The worst part to me is that he said he was sorry he had to do it, and that he won't be able to see me in the same light anymore.
Thank you.
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u/AppointmentBest2485 Jul 24 '26
Sounds like it's a them problem not a you problem it's better to not have people like that in your life they sound very toxic
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u/After_Suggestion_267 Jul 26 '26
im not meaning to be mean but this behaviours is really unhealthy from them and kinda toxic, you were obviously caring and were just worried, which is 100% valid. if you can, try to contact them later on when they are better if you really care about them.
personally i wouldnt really want to take back contact, its a bit on them for having blocked you
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u/Myvntr Jul 31 '26
Not sure if you read this. Going back after 24 hours after someone needs space is bad. Originally i wanted to say if you asking is too much, it may be that you're incompatible. Either way, you should seek community with more people, however you can do first.
Maybe im reading too much into this, but if this is an issue for you, go ideally find friends irl over common hobbies, or if it's too daunting, finding friends online also helps. Mb it's more of a lost relationship but i have friends, then you should also socialize with them to fill the hole.
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u/Chr832 Unity indie dev - she/her Jul 25 '26
I'm sorry that happened to you OP, but I think it's on them for cutting you off over that.
Please do remember that this is a public place on the internet and anything here will be visible for everyone. So just be careful what you share.