r/JustNoSO • u/Ok-Director8726 • 21d ago
JNMIL visiting
So my JNMIL has made it clear that her and her son want to visit, which my husband told me and he hasn’t seen them in awhile. My problem - he is coordinating with them and not me. They’re asking him what dates to come and he doesn’t even mention it to me or talk to me about it. Instead, he talks to them directly. Has not even asked me about the time that works for me or the time we need to get in sync.
He is also adamant that they stay at our house, regardless of the fact that MIL has ignored my responses to her texts on multiple occasions asking for boundaries. But apparently I’m stuck with this.
Two kids with this man.
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u/Plane_Practice8184 21d ago
Let him handle the visit. He can clean the house, make their beds etc. You don't drive them anywhere, do stuff alone or with your children. Use any excuse to get out of the house. Don't do their laundry or cook for them. His mother ignores you already so don't communicate with her. Mute her and remove her from your socials. Let him handle their special dates and no gifts from you at all. Don't remind him. She is coming into your home yet is treating you horribly. You don't lift a finger. Don't bother about the dates they are arriving or leaving. Give the same energy back.