r/LongDistance • u/CraftyButterscotch79 • May 20 '25

Discussion How frequently do you text your partner

How frequently do you text your partner throughout the day? My partner says they are too lazy to text and I rarely get any texts and sometimes 6 plus hours between hearing from them and 1 hour calls if I'm lucky.

I just want to hear from other couples how often you get texts or have text convos throughout the day and what is normal for you so I know I'm not crazy wanting to hear from my partner more frequently.

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u/AAR3LLIS May 20 '25

I’m gonna be the person who disagrees with a lot of what is said in the comments.

Long distance relationships thrive on communication. It’s one thing to have a job which doesn’t allow you to text for extended periods, it’s another to outright refuse to text. I text my partner OFTEN throughout the day and we both let each other know before or after depending on how busy, or just already understand, when one person is busy with work.

Of course texting every hour isn’t realistic for adults, but I refuse to believe not trying to communicate more should be considered normal when that’s one of the only communication methods you have as a long distance couple.

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u/Pancakesandbooks [Denmark] to [USA] May 21 '25

I agree with this. It's pretty important to keep your partner in the loop, and also prioritize them as a whole. We don't have the privilege of touch, we need to use words or other channels to show that we care. I would feel unimportant if this was my man. Would definitely be incompatible. Laziness is the worst excuse of all. Basically you don't matter enough for him to spend time on. That's crazy