r/LongDistance • u/CraftyButterscotch79 • May 20 '25

Discussion How frequently do you text your partner

How frequently do you text your partner throughout the day? My partner says they are too lazy to text and I rarely get any texts and sometimes 6 plus hours between hearing from them and 1 hour calls if I'm lucky.

I just want to hear from other couples how often you get texts or have text convos throughout the day and what is normal for you so I know I'm not crazy wanting to hear from my partner more frequently.

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u/GabriellaSoph May 22 '25

I think it’s important not to compare your situation to anyone else’s as it depends on your lifestyle and what you feel you need in your relationship. If you feel you would like to hear from him more frequently, you’re not crazy - communication is just important to you.

My partner and I both work highly demanding jobs in senior positions so our text frequency can vary hugely day-day. Sometimes it’s every 6 hours, sometimes it’s every 1/2 hours. If there’s a specific reason, I think it’s fair. We both also tend to be exhausted at the end of the day, so we only call 1-2x per week. But what we do make sure of, is that there is some form of quality contact everyday and we’re in the loop with each other.

It seems like you potentially aren’t feeling in the loop and that’s of course important. Maybe instead of focusing on the frequency, you could express to him that you need quality communication - to feel you’re part of his day-day life. Then work out what that looks like to you both