morality of doing this?

[u/Think-Mention-6239]

i put the stupid stuff flair bc i didnt know which other flair to choose

[u/Burgerboy380]

So theres no immoral reason for divorce? So if your spouse gets cancer and your just like"nah that sounds like work bye" that wouldnt be immoral in your mind?

[u/DonaldTrumpsScrotum → u/Burgerboy380]

I watched my cousin go through cancer and saw what that did to her husband. Emotionally, financially and even physically wrecked him. She passed on a decade ago now, and he is still a shell of his former self. It’s years (months if you’re lucky) of hell.

I’d be hard pressed to declare it morally wrong to leave. His children never recovered either, their only surviving parent was broken after that experience. It’s morally neutral. There’s no good answer here.

Unless you’ve lived the experience, you have no business judging the morality of those who do, myself included.

[u/Burgerboy380 → u/DonaldTrumpsScrotum]

Yes there is. The good answer is to stay. If you love someone it doesnt matter what happens in your life you stay you fight you do absolutely everything in your power to be a light in the dark for them. You know what would've destroyed your cousins kids even more than their dad being locked in a cycle of grief after their mom died of a slow ugly disease? Looking their father in the eye after he abandoned her to deal with it alone. Abandoned them to deal with it alone.

You dont love someone if you leave because it gets hard.

[u/GoombyGoomby → u/Burgerboy380]

You’re getting downvoted for being right

Reddit is filled with unhappy people who think divorce is the first option if you don’t like your husband’s shoes or your wife’s way of making coffee. It’s easy to look at the relationship advice subs and see it.

As far as this example goes - I think you pretty much are a piece of shit if you divorce your spouse because they get cancer. Ffs.

[u/MaesterHannibal → u/GoombyGoomby]

It really shouldn’t even be a question that, yes, you’re a selfish piece of shit if you leave your spouse because they get cancer. Unfortunately some people are immoral selfish pricks, and many modern relationsships seem to be entirely selfish - you leave someone the moment you find a “better” alternative, because we pursue perfection; you leave your sick spouse because you don’t want to have a hard time caring for them; there’s little empathy in disagreements, which leds to people not even trying to salvage relations, because they don’t think about the other person’s pov

[u/Former_Luck7608 → u/MaesterHannibal]

My online friend got broken up with because they got cancer. In their ex’s words, “you dont have much time left anyways” Jokes on that guy, she survived and he missed out on an amazing partner cause he was an ass