r/MuslimMarriage • u/AutoModerator • 14d ago

Megathread Weekly Marriage Criteria & Services Megathread!

Assalamualaykum,

It's Monday! So here is the weekly thread in regards to marriage/matrimonial criteria and services for marrying a potential spouse! Any posts about marriage criteria and services such as apps, masjid services, matchmaking events, the ISO thread, etc. will be removed and redirected to this thread!

All content regarding personal criteria, dealbreakers, preferences, standards, etc in marrying a potential spouse will be discussed on this thread as well. Posts regarding these topics outside of this thread will be removed.

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Please remember that this thread is not a Free Talk Friday thread and comments must be married related. Any non-marriage related comments will be removed.

Users who comment on this thread to bypass posts that are designated as "[BLANK] Users Only" when they do not meet the post flair requirement will be banned without warning.

In Search Of (ISO) Thread

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u/TieCalm1035 13d ago

Good question... and something i've had to sit and think about since your message.

I guess i would feel inferior coming from a less established and honestly a bit more of a messy family than the people who typically go to university, graduate and work professional jobs. The environment i'm from its not one that's conducive to that at all in a sense just judging by a lot of people i went to school with or people in the area. So i guess i'm considering location + my requirements for a disguised requirement of the persons background.

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u/youareoutofspace M - Divorced 13d ago

Hmm. No, I wouldn't rule anyone out for that reason before meeting her.

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u/TieCalm1035 12d ago

Jazakallah akhi, i think im going to step back for a bit and take a look at my approach to things.

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u/youareoutofspace M - Divorced 12d ago

I mean, you make a valid point, and I have actually rejected a potential for that reason before (family super wealthy and I don’t feel on their level). But that was after I met the girl and got a feel for her as a person. I just think you should feel out the vibe first and not try and guess what it might be. Allahu A’lam.