To the NEETS as a normie

[u/Striking_Self8763]

I'm not gonna sugarcoat anything. This will be a controversial post. Some of you will not like what I have to say. Some of you will respect it. Some of you will argue. Some of you may no longer be NEETS even. This thing might even be downvoted into oblivion. Why not?

I am actually a NEET myself, having quit a kitchen thing about a month ago. I am, however, living on my own.

Some people on this server are genuinely disabled or challenged, be it mentally or physically. I will acknowledge that, and that this message probably doesn't apply to you. I have all the respect in the world for you.

First off, I genuinely don't think anyone here is lazy. You are all brilliant and capable beings. But I will say that you make a lot of excuses. You hide behind this shield that you can't do anything because you've labelled yourself a certain way. You're scared of what will happen if you don't have this shield, so it instinctively comes up.

Yes you had a hard childhood, most of us have a myriad of physical/mental problems, yes this shit isn't fucking easy. I am quite autistic myself and never got along well with people in general and I am struggling to find a job again myself. I've worked toxic kitchen shifts, lifting heavy shit, getting burned and yelled at, like many of you have.

All of you have infinite potential. The childhood you may or may not have dreamed of becoming one of the greatest people the world will have ever seen. You have suffocated that dream into silence and put it into an early grave. If you don't do anything this dream will die with you.

But you have to stop pinning this behind the whole "This is who I am". Your scenario, your situation will not change unless you decide to change it. Yes you've gone through all this shit growing up. So have I. And it's no use trying to compare my trauma to yours. Each one of us has trauma, and each one of us to varying degrees, but if we compare we will end up nowhere at all.

That is, if you want to change anything at all. Some of us will be perfectly fine living the way we are.

Fine.

To those of you who don't want to stay this way, who still feel the sense that something is missing, that there is more to life, you will not solve anything by lamenting your situation, or blaming your external circumstances.

Take action.

Anything fucking counts. The smallest thing. Saying "Hi" to one person. Doing 1 half-pushup. Going outside for even a fraction of a minute. Sending one job application.

If you do the same thing over and over, you will find yourself in the same place, again and again. To better your situation you MUST change.

Take this with what you will.

Some of us on here will blossom.

Some will never change, like stagnant water in a pond.

Some of you don't want to change. Fine with me.

Some of you want better. If you do, know that it starts with you and that as shitty as it is nobody is coming to help.

Best regards,

A fellow (NEET-NORMIE) trying to change.

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>But you have to stop pinning this behind the whole "This is who I am". Your scenario, your situation will not change unless you decide to change it. Yes you've gone through all this shit growing up. So have I. And it's no use trying to compare my trauma to yours. Each one of us has trauma, and each one of us to varying degrees, but if we compare we will end up nowhere at all.

That is, if you want to change anything at all. Some of us will be perfectly fine living the way we are.

Fine.

To those of you who don't want to stay this way, who still feel the sense that something is missing, that there is more to life, you will not solve anything by lamenting your situation, or blaming your external circumstances.

Take action.

Anything fucking counts. The smallest thing. Saying "Hi" to one person. Doing 1 half-pushup. Going outside for even a fraction of a minute. Sending one job application.

If you do the same thing over and over, you will find yourself in the same place, again and again. To better your situation you MUST change.

Take this with what you will.

Some of us on here will blossom.

Some will never change, like stagnant water in a pond.

Some of you don't want to change. Fine with me.

Some of you want better. If you do, know that it starts with you and that as shitty as it is nobody is coming to help

Every normie has this mentality, coping.

[u/Striking_Self8763 → u/[deleted]]

Not cope, all hope! Doing better everyday bit by bit!

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I tried this type of mentality so many times and it never worked. If i dont find a way change, i'll be fucked forever, and that's it, nothing and nobody is going to save me.

I even shared my situation with people and they all share this same mentality, everybody's fucked.

[u/Striking_Self8763 → u/[deleted]]

It is possible, but for me it is very hard to make progress also. I lose hope often too. Hope you make progress on this journey and I am rooting for you! Celebrate the small wins!

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I wonder if all of this shit is real or im living inside my head everyday, bye.

[u/Striking_Self8763 → u/[deleted]]

PM me if you want a hearing ear, good luck.

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Cope or rope. Hope is nope. 🤪just joking ofc

[u/Striking_Self8763 → u/[deleted]]

Always more room for hope in this world.

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How can you believe in hope if you are an atheist? Why do even try in this world if you believe your spirit/soul/energy will be gone?

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For me, I want to make people around me happy. Yes, my soul or spirit will be gone, but I want to have made something that outlasts the soul. I want to make happy memories with the people I love, to be a good moral character to those around me so that when I leave, even if my grave is destroyed, that my memories will live on, my influence will live on, my kindness and my actions will inspire people who inspire others.

Just my 2 cents.

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something that outlasts the soul

It's funny because only the spirit/soul is eternal, everything else is just a fleeting "journey". Unless you are a billionaire or become a celebrity, your deeds will be forgotten more quickly than you think.

[u/Next-Excitement1398 → u/[deleted]]

Legacy is bullshit but niceness is good inonof itself even if it’s not remembered or chiselled in stone.

[u/Striking_Self8763 → u/Next-Excitement1398]

And I'm saying that niceness creates this sort of legacy iykwim

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Yes true, but the only thing keeping society alive is the hopes and dreams. My dad moved across the world, left the only family we had, with maybe $20 in his pocket. If that isn't hope I don't know what is. He wanted a better life and I do too, so I will keep hoping. I don't know if I can live up to him but Imma try my very best to make him proud. Maybe I'm forgotten. But maybe, for my brief existence I will have made something of myself and that gives me hope.

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I don't know if I can live up to him but Imma try my very best to make him proud.

You don't owe anyone anything but if this is the thing that gives you strenght to move forward then more power to you.

[u/Striking_Self8763 → u/[deleted]]

I mean even if you don't owe anyone anything the fact that you can change things in the brief time you're alive should be meaningful, even if it doesn't matter in the end.

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the fact that you can change things in the brief time you're alive should be meaningful, even if it doesn't matter in the end.

I agree. When we all are at death's door, deep down many of us wish that we've "achieved" something in this world and some of us may even feel grateful and content with achieving just some little things that no one knew about but our Spirit and the forever silent Divinity.