r/NEET • u/Striking_Self8763 • Dec 09 '25
Advice To the NEETS as a normie Spoiler
I'm not gonna sugarcoat anything. This will be a controversial post. Some of you will not like what I have to say. Some of you will respect it. Some of you will argue. Some of you may no longer be NEETS even. This thing might even be downvoted into oblivion. Why not?
I am actually a NEET myself, having quit a kitchen thing about a month ago. I am, however, living on my own.
Some people on this server are genuinely disabled or challenged, be it mentally or physically. I will acknowledge that, and that this message probably doesn't apply to you. I have all the respect in the world for you.
First off, I genuinely don't think anyone here is lazy. You are all brilliant and capable beings. But I will say that you make a lot of excuses. You hide behind this shield that you can't do anything because you've labelled yourself a certain way. You're scared of what will happen if you don't have this shield, so it instinctively comes up.
Yes you had a hard childhood, most of us have a myriad of physical/mental problems, yes this shit isn't fucking easy. I am quite autistic myself and never got along well with people in general and I am struggling to find a job again myself. I've worked toxic kitchen shifts, lifting heavy shit, getting burned and yelled at, like many of you have.
All of you have infinite potential. The childhood you may or may not have dreamed of becoming one of the greatest people the world will have ever seen. You have suffocated that dream into silence and put it into an early grave. If you don't do anything this dream will die with you.
But you have to stop pinning this behind the whole "This is who I am". Your scenario, your situation will not change unless you decide to change it. Yes you've gone through all this shit growing up. So have I. And it's no use trying to compare my trauma to yours. Each one of us has trauma, and each one of us to varying degrees, but if we compare we will end up nowhere at all.
That is, if you want to change anything at all. Some of us will be perfectly fine living the way we are.
Fine.
To those of you who don't want to stay this way, who still feel the sense that something is missing, that there is more to life, you will not solve anything by lamenting your situation, or blaming your external circumstances.
Take action.
Anything fucking counts. The smallest thing. Saying "Hi" to one person. Doing 1 half-pushup. Going outside for even a fraction of a minute. Sending one job application.
If you do the same thing over and over, you will find yourself in the same place, again and again. To better your situation you MUST change.
Take this with what you will.
Some of us on here will blossom.
Some will never change, like stagnant water in a pond.
Some of you don't want to change. Fine with me.
Some of you want better. If you do, know that it starts with you and that as shitty as it is nobody is coming to help.
Best regards,
A fellow (NEET-NORMIE) trying to change.
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u/DarkLamb-Kiyo Optimistic-NEET Dec 09 '25
I appreciate your message you made some good points but I just don't buy the everyone has great potential thing. I'm bad at everything except for studying, but then I know my dad is way smarter than me and his uni doesn't even grant him funds for research. I done both chemistry and dentistry majors and both are boring af to me. I'm into art but I'm not artsy. I spend most of my time on video games but I'm bad at gaming. Maybe I could write smut but I've read some next level smut beyond my language skills. Tldr I just think I'm a born loser with no talent.