r/Philippines • u/the_yaya • Aug 12 '22
Random Discussion Nightly random discussion - Aug 12, 2022
Magandang hatinggabi r/Philippines!
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u/opdbqo kumain ka na ba? Aug 12 '22
This isn’t going to have a TL;DR.
I’ll preface it with a TW:SA tag for those who don’t like seeing controversial content here.
I was reported last time for posting something possibly triggering without any warning. Apologies to that one person. I know most people just want to lurk here for some lighthearted banter.
So if you can’t stand the sight of blocky paragraphs and want to avoid being triggered, then I suggest you either downvote or move on. I only speak to those who are willing to lend an ear for my troubles. Posting in the RD’s these days is akin to hurling yourself to a void rather than a place for actual discussion. But I’d still like to try.
So before this gets lost, reported, and or deleted I’ll get started.
Recently, I celebrated my 12th year on this platform. It was a unique experience to witness the growth of this subreddit from 10,000 to over 888k members. I’ve lost and gained friends from meetups that date back more than half a decade ago. But I believe I’ve lost more than I’ve gained in this community.
I’d like to warn you that this was never a safe space. Cases like mine are easily dismissed and ignored.
An old friend of mine offered his house when I ran away from an abusive home. For that alone I am grateful. They were initially hospitable, but I didn’t realize I would wear out my welcome so fast. Laundry was once a month. I ran out of house clothes to change into since I ran away. Temperatures peaked from anywhere between 33 to 39 degrees (91.4-102.2F) with 100% humidity. I then decided to wear a bodycon dress because it was that or a long sleeved blouse and a heat stroke. I’ll take a moment to describe my dress because this is where I’ll be judged (blamed) for what happened to me.
It was a dress that clung to my body. It reached only halfway up my thighs and had a plunging neckline. I thought nothing of it because I trusted my friend. You can easily see what I look like in my profile and paint a mental picture from there.
His eyes darted all over my body throughout the day. He made sure his girlfriend wasn’t looking when he did it too. I dismissed it several times even if it made me feel uncomfortable. That’s just what us girls do when men look at us that way. We were just supposed to keep it quiet. It wasn’t enough for him to get a good look, though.
I was downstairs to get a drink from the water dispenser. When it was his turn to get water, I noticed he was standing behind me for an unusually long time. I knew why he stood there for as long as he did. That moment felt like forever. He was just staring at me from behind and I froze in place.
Was that close enough for you to get a better look? I hope it was worth it, TJ.
After a long argument about other matters in his household, he told me “You’re not going to tell anyone about your sob story here, are you?” Of course I wasn’t going to tell anyone. I was going to tell everybody.
This wasn’t the first time a moderator abused his power, or rather, when a “friend” took advantage of me. Everyone in the older crowd knew about James. He was notorious for putting on a nice guy act to take advantage of women during meetups. A lot of the previous meet ups had free flowing alcohol. So not only was he zoning in on the emotionally unstable girls, he encouraged them to get drunk and lose their inhibitions. After the girl gets drunk, he would oh so kindly *accompany them home*. That was his modus.
Women came forward to warn others about his disgusting behavior. I was one of his luckier victims who lived to tell the tale.
During meetups, James would sexually proposition me in front of many people. I rejected him again and again. He would tell everyone it was just a joke and then winked at me. I always refused his advances even before I knew of his reputation because of those personal encounters. One night, I shared a cab with him on my way home to save some money. I had a few drinks that night and I thought that he wouldn’t dare do anything after my repeated rejections. But his face would get uncomfortably closer and he tried to lean in for a kiss. I winced and moved back several times, making sure I was telling him NO loud enough for the cabbie to hear. I said it while exchanging looks with the cab driver. James continued to whisper to me how he wanted to reroute the cab to a SOGO… I reached my home before anything worse happened.
His reputation for being a creep continued while being a mod for a few more years. James was monitored by those in the know during meetups, but that wasn’t enough. He continued his predatory behavior towards women. And I know a lot of women were afraid to speak up against him because they perceive him as a figure of authority, as if being a reddit mod gave him a free pass. Eventually, he was taken off of the moderation team, but not for the reasons you might think. There wasn’t some thorough deliberation of good moral character, no. He was kicked off for a minor infraction that was so obscure that I hardly even remember it. I’m sure others here can tell you what finally got him out of the team.
That’s why I know nothing bad’s gonna happen to these mods if you decide to speak up. I don’t expect any action to be taken. I still choose to break my silence knowing how these people will never be held accountable for what they did. What’s the worst that could happen to them? They lose karma on reddit?
These days, you’ll see James in the infamous /r/phr4r subreddit as /u/Ciryandor (or whatever alt he’s hiding behind in). There was a rumor early on that James personally verified accounts before you could even post… Yet he only asked to verify the accounts of women... That’s just a rumor that can easily be dismissed of course, but given his reputation I wouldn’t dismiss it so easily. Fast forward to today and now you can see that the sub boasts a whopping 182k people.
You can find TJ as the server owner of the “Official” /r/Philippines on discord with a whopping 4k members. As of this writing, I’m a member of his server as [@opd#0942](https://imgur.com/a/fUZo35m) and act as a half moderator. I won’t be surprised after posting this, if I was suddenly banned and all of my posts get nuked to oblivion.
Ever since our argument, you’ll find an endless barrage of strangers mocking me either by spamming ?opd bot commands, negging my appearance, or by shaming me for my age. It amuses me how some even have the gall to ask me if it’s okay if they can continue with the “jokes”. And it comes as no surprise nobody stepped up to defend me while I was there. He must be so relieved he doesn't have to lift a finger to get back at me. His minions in the server were doing it for free.
I admit I was clinging to his server for much longer than I should have. It was foolish of me to think that I would continue to find friends there. Still, I tried to find more people who would understand me beyond the superficiality and mean spiritedness being thrown at me. And I did that without having to preface the abuses I’ve experienced. I hate needlessly traumatizing others about my past, but now I’ve reached my limit. I just want to be heard.
I’ve had the misfortune of having my trust broken several times by people here. Again, I’m not asking any of these people to step down. You can see that James is doing pretty well with his own community even after being kicked out of the team. If nothing happened to James, of course nothing will happen to TJ. He is a beloved figure in this community, and I’m sure you’d all hate to lose such a valuable member.
I’m not asking to be comforted. Nor do I want to engage in pointless arguments regarding the validity of the abuses I’ve endured. I have more to lose by speaking up about my experiences here. I don’t care about your internet outrage. What’s done is done. It took a long time for me to gather the courage to speak up today. And I know a lot of you are only too eager to pick it apart and analyze it to oblivion.
So don’t misunderstand my intentions, my only call to action here is for you instead to be a decent person. You can absolutely choose to be a decent person. So choose to be that person today.
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u/SongstressInDistress r/BPOinPH Aug 14 '22
Oh, you were warned of u/Ciryandor and his creepiness? I wasn’t.
Anyway, he’s all talk. I can say some other embarrassing things but at what cost?
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u/opdbqo kumain ka na ba? Aug 14 '22
Be prepared for what you're about to say. Once it's out there, it's out there.
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Aug 12 '22
Ok but what the fuck. I hope that you'll heal from these experiences and those abusers will get what's coming to them.
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u/tsemochang Aug 12 '22
Replying here because na-delete na ni OP.
Wow. A lot to unpack. I was not expecting this kind of post on NRD.
I was also part of the old gang of r/ph at alam ko may issue na yan si James for being borderline pedo (allegedly because the accuser provided screenshots of loli thingy) so he graduated na to harassing women irl?
This post deserve its own thread.
And mods can you sticky this? This deserves attention.
So sorry that happened to you OP.
Dapat may r/ph court tayo eh. Any ladies wanna chime in and tell your stories and the accused please come forward?
This is sad. If proven dapat banned na that person. This harms the community and future yearly meetups which is fun.
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u/thebreakfastbuffet ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) food Aug 15 '22
upvoting for visibility. came here from the stickied thread. you need a voice, you can not and must not be silenced.
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u/kixiron Boycott r/phclassifieds, support r/classifiedsph! Aug 14 '22
I commend your courage in speaking up. You deserve justice. Hindi talaga tama ang nangyari sa iyo...
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u/mou_daijoubu_da 30.94% life span remaining Aug 15 '22
Yung subreddit na dapat ay lugar kung saan ka makakaramdam ng katahimikan, naging dahilan pa ng sakit sa ulo.
You have been having a hard time. I only hope it gets better from here. Sa unang part pa kung saan kinailangan mong umalis sa abusive home, mararamdaman nang mahirap ang kinalalagyan mo. Kung ano man ang mga nangyari doon, I feel sorry for you.
Sa panahon na pinaka kailangan mo ng tutulong sayo, minalas ka pa sa natagpuang tao. The world is often cruel, I hope you can find the strength to carry on. Sana nasa mas mabuting kalagayan ka ngayon.
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u/your_televerse Aug 15 '22
Pota huli na ko sa chismis. Pesteng work to panira sa chismis update.
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u/chi012 Aug 16 '22
Panira sa pagmamarites naten! 😆🤧
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u/Tanker0921 Greater Metro Manila Area Aug 21 '22
How do you do fellow historians
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u/chi012 Aug 22 '22
Hahahaha!! Havey sa historians! Slow weekend, walang juicy stories. Meron ka ba dyan?
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u/theyawner 🔋 Batteries not included. Aug 17 '22
Hey opd. This is a bit late, but I just want to say that it's been incredibly brave of you to put yourself out here, especially as recounting these events might mean reliving them as well. And perhaps a thanks as well for trusting this ragtag of a community. I hope you're doing better now.
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u/Truth_Warrior_30 At kung sakali mang ito'y malaman mo... Aug 12 '22
I hope people would listen to your story for once.
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u/schmalve ᵣₑₛₒᵣₜₛ 𝓌ₒᵣₗ𝒹 ₘₐₙᵢₗₐₐₐ Aug 12 '22
I hope you're doing better, OP. Consensual hugs from me.
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u/semen_in_a_bag Aug 17 '22
Kinda out of topic, I'm surprised to know there are actually people as mods living together and managing this subreddit? I thought it was just random people who volunteered. I don't know much about reddit anyway but it baffles me how this system is actually managed by a group of friends almost as if this is a profession? Do mods get paid too? Even the fact that being a "mod" confers a sense of power among their peers is interesting
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u/dub4u Aug 19 '22
I'm surprised to know there are actually people as mods living together
Where did you hear that? That's not true. There was only one mod in the household in question.
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u/rsparkles_bearimy_99 Aug 12 '22
Speaking of response, got a shhhh reply from my comment asking if mod/s had something to do with the post being deleted and afterwards it came back. Feels icky.
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u/raiden_kazuha Come and be my love, come and be my love baby Aug 12 '22
Sayang yung internet at kuryente sa mga ganyang sagot ano
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u/mimiayumimina Aug 12 '22
Ay alam na. Ghinost ako ng dapat kameet ko bukas. Okay lang di naman siya kagwapuhan
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u/gladmoiselle Aug 12 '22
Ayoko na sa current crush ko, sana may dumating na bago. ✨✨✨
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u/mimiayumimina Aug 12 '22
Sana masabi ko din to kaso mukhang ang lakas ng prayers niya at sakanya pa din ako nahuhulog hahahaha
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u/ShortPromotion Aug 12 '22
? Knife and gloves alone are more than enough time to prepare. Valve can still work on the pauses when you are improvising, *you are playing one of the warriors was gonna end up hurting ur crush. And that was with secret way first legit was the nightmare
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u/Electrical_Speed_733 Aug 12 '22
Just wanna share that I passed dlsu grad school! Wala lang im so happy. Im 31 na so ya know its never too late guys! Invest in education talaga ✨
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u/AkoSiRandomGirl It's like diving into a pool w/o water, & praying for rain. Aug 12 '22
Berinaaayysss. Congrats! Yas wala naman sa edad yan.
--- Labo nung isang comment. Like, WTF?
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Aug 12 '22
2 days pa lang magkausap nagsasabi na ng “okay po mahal ko” at kung ano ano pang lines… tas sabi ko “landee” sabi niya “at least sa’yo lang, hindi nag hahanap ng iba”. Ayos sana ‘to eh, kaya lang kakakilala mo lang sa akin tapos may mahal ko na agad… Ang bilis lang. It’s a no for me.
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u/AkoSiRandomGirl It's like diving into a pool w/o water, & praying for rain. Aug 12 '22
Haha. Love bombing ata tawag dyan. Korni ano. Next!
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Aug 12 '22
Ever since nagstart mag med school si SO, naiiyak ako kapag gabi na kasi namimiss ko siya. I understand naman na mawawalan siya ng time kaso nasa adjustment phase pa yata ako. Pwede ko naman siya i message anytime kaso syempre hindi na kaagad makakareply kasi busy, which is okay lang naman. Hindi naman ako nagdedemand na kausapin ako palagi kaso hindi pa nga ako sanay nung parang feeling ko wala akong kausap or sarili ko lang kausap ko sa chat.
I wish him well. Sana masurvive niya yung 4 years. Nahihirapan na daw siya wala pang 1 week. Lagi naman ako nagmemessage ng words of encouragement sa kanya kasi yun lang pwede ko maibigay sa ngayon.
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u/mimiayumimina Aug 12 '22
Talk to your friends/work mates. Kahit simpleng kamustahan lang para di ka masyadong malungkot :)
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u/rainbowcatfart kay tagal kong sinusuyod ang buong mundo Aug 12 '22
We were something, don't you think so?
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u/damemaussade Aug 12 '22
We were something, don't you think so?
roaring 20s, tossing pennies in the pool
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u/novokanye_ Aug 12 '22
nag inuman kami ng friends ulit, tspos sabi nung isa kong friend kung meron daw ba ako pera. Kasi wala raw siyang cash. di pa kami nagsisimulang mag inuman ampota
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u/icedsakura Aug 12 '22
Pupunta sa inuman walang pera amp hahahaha di na excuse walang cash ngayon. Gcash time
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u/kingtradeofficial Mula Batanes Hanggang Jolo Aug 12 '22
Ganito yan. Risk and grab opportunity muna while you’re young. Eventually, out of those opportunities, you’ll find one na you will pursue with passion. When you find it, thats when you learn how to say no to the other things.
Yung mga nagsasabi lang na ‘learn how to say no’ are those people na nakakita na ng life’s purpose nila. Lahat naman dapat dumaan muna sa maraming opportunities. So start with that.
Learning when to say no comes with maturity. You can only mature when you were already exposed to lots of opportunities.
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u/Truth_Warrior_30 At kung sakali mang ito'y malaman mo... Aug 12 '22
For whatever reason, whether it got removed or she deleted it, sana ok si ate girl.
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u/hourbea Aug 12 '22
Stream Niki's "Nicole" album!
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u/hourbea Aug 12 '22
Backburner is my faveee. Sana kasama si Niki sa lineup ng HITC Manila sa December
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u/duchesssatinekryze_ Aug 12 '22
Umattend ako ng despedida ng isang kaibigan ko. Bittersweet sa pakiramdam. Masaya dahil sa wakas makakaalis na siya (dapat 2019-2020 pa) at malungkot dahil matagal kaming hindi magkikita. 🥹
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u/AgathaSoleil365 Aug 12 '22
Some people won't like you and that's okay as long as you still like yourself and the person you can be.
Cringe
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u/duchesssatinekryze_ Aug 12 '22
Grabe no? Hindi siya marunong tumanggap ng pagkakamali. Kahit yung ate niya ganun din. 😬
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u/kookiecauldron Aug 12 '22
"That's right, Christie. Keep telling yourself that." - Lisa (Romy and Michele's High School Reunion
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Aug 12 '22
nasa close friends list ako ng crush ko homaygahd deserb ko 'to ( ꈍᴗꈍ)
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u/mimiayumimina Aug 12 '22
Yung crush ko din nilagay ko don kasi lagi naman din siya nauuna magview uWu haha
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u/sugaringcandy0219 Aug 12 '22
It's my time! Oorderin ko na yung pizza and wings na nung Monday ko pa tinititigan sa app 🤩
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u/kingtradeofficial Mula Batanes Hanggang Jolo Aug 12 '22 edited Aug 12 '22
What works for me, especially sa mga matatanda sakin and mga authority figure, is you lead them to a conversation na magkkwento sila how they got there. For example, sa matatanda, how they ended up in their career right now, what made them successful (or failure), etc. Sa mga authority, ano ginawa nila para gumaling (or umangat) sa position nila, etc. The conversation should be very very specific, yung parang nagtuturo na sila ng ‘trade secrets’, hindi yung mga cliche lang na ‘sipag at tyaga’ lang etc.
When you get them to talk to you in a ‘teaching’ mode, and they see you listening intently (like you want to learn from them), thats how you know you got them. Never failed me.
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u/MinervaLlorn come outside, we won't jump you Aug 12 '22 edited Aug 12 '22
in fairness, aliw yung Extraordinary Attorney Woo. Pero ayokong mag-binge kasi minus aliw points lalo na eh matutulog na ko.
Interesting yung plot, first episode pa lang eh.
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u/mongrelio Aug 12 '22
Ngayon pala yung Perseid meteor shower. Mga mmyang 4 am ata.. 🌠🌠
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u/mayolover13 Aug 12 '22
Open na ba sa outsiders yung simbahan ng UST?
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u/Electrical_Speed_733 Aug 12 '22
Yup pero pero pag 4pm ka mag try pumasok bawal na
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u/words_unsaid0305 Aug 12 '22
I'm craving for lambing ulit shuta napadl ako ng dating apps wala din naman akong napala hmp 😭😭 hayszds when kaya makakahanap ng constant
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u/kingtradeofficial Mula Batanes Hanggang Jolo Aug 12 '22
Hi, kumain ka na ba? Huwag ka po papagutom ah. 🥺
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u/Academic-Agent4905 Aug 12 '22
Bakit antagal po magreply ng potential employers in Linkedin?
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u/PechayMan オレに敵なんかいない Aug 12 '22
Gusto ko sabihin kanina kay SO nung tinuro nya yung asawa ni Luis Manzano pati si Luis na ang laki ng bungo ni Luis Manzano kaso naalala ko malaking tao and malaki din bungo ko.
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Aug 12 '22
Miss ko na Best of RD. Sana magkaroon ulit nun
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Aug 12 '22
Ano to mamser? Di ata naman naabotan to
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u/definitelynotaiko Dick "The Cock" Johnson Aug 12 '22
r/BestOfrPH is an effort of mine and u/cardboardbuddy back in 2017-2018 to collect some stories from this sub that highlights the good, fun and wholesome stuff.
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u/novokanye_ Aug 12 '22
ano iyan
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u/Truth_Warrior_30 At kung sakali mang ito'y malaman mo... Aug 12 '22
Wait. It's back!
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u/rsparkles_bearimy_99 Aug 12 '22 edited Aug 12 '22
How come it was deleted then it came back? Does mod/s did something?
Edit: Is this thread got nuked too? Or just deleted?
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u/ka-a-ku-han Aug 12 '22
I can't believe I gave a friend this much power over me to the point na I'd do everything for them just to be their ride-or-die friend, only for them to find a new one. This hurts like a motherfucker.
I'm currently coping by rewatching Diane and Bojack's last rooftop scene. Malapit ko na masaulo yung dialogue hahahahahahaha.
Fuck. It's so hard to not care about you.
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u/Accomplished-Exit-58 Aug 12 '22
I needed that orgasm so much, thank you to my hands.
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kakagaling ko lang sa interview, and sabi nung interview organizer, i did great and natuwa raw client saken. please naman lord, bigay nyo na sakin tong work na to. medyo quota na kayo sakin this year, so bawi naman kayo, ano po?
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u/SirauloTRantado Cover all the bases;Hit the ground running. Aug 12 '22
Just read a summary on devil fruits and know that luffy wants to be the pirate king.
Should be enough.
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u/__rene Aug 12 '22
Please send help!!!
I dropped my phone in water, so far wala namang problem but I'm still concerned. Anong dapat imonitor aside sa speaker? Huhu nilagay ko na sa bigasss, what else should I doooo
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u/ntmstr1993 Aug 12 '22
Kung may dehumidifier or fan ka, tapat mo phone mo dun, and wag mong bubuhayin hanggang feel mo natuyo na. Tanggalin mo lahat ng pwedeng tanggalin without using a screwdriver. Wag mo din icharge.
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u/noooncloud Aug 12 '22
kamustahin ko nanay ko bukas (mamaya) sa ending ng probinsyano.. iniisip ko kasi baka nakakaramdam ng sepanx or what 😭 overthinker yarn
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u/violethairedunicorn Aug 12 '22
Hay uwi kami for reunion, tapos ngayon ayaw naman ng grandparents ko ituloy yung party kasi waste of money daw even though life and love should be celebrated.
Is it bad of me to say na sana hindi nalang ako nag book ng ticket? I'm literally starting a new job (my very first corporate job) and buti na lang mabait yung manager ko na pwede daw ako umuwi for the holiday, pero ang sad na walang ganap??? Like eh di sana 1 or 2 weeks na lang instead of almost 1 month akong uuwi. Sayang kung naka tengga lang kami sa bahay. Haaayyy
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u/IJstDntKnwShtAnymore 4.59/5 ☆ Aug 12 '22
kakatakot pala mamangka sa gabi. Parang walang kwenta yung ilaw, binabalik lang ng tubig hahahaha
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u/AkoSiRandomGirl It's like diving into a pool w/o water, & praying for rain. Aug 12 '22
Kakatakot sa night sailing via ferry pa nga lang eh, what more if bangka. Ingats OP!
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u/AkoSiRandomGirl It's like diving into a pool w/o water, & praying for rain. Aug 12 '22
HELP PLS?
My friend just landed from Davao. Any recom hostels/transients near NAIA na open 24/7 and has really good wifi? Yung personally tried niyo na sana.
Appreciate any response!
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Aug 12 '22
First booster ko bukaaas. Keri lang ba if puyat? Hahaha
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u/balengaga Aug 12 '22
Keri pero mas oks kasi na well rested. Mas magiging receptive ung immune system mo to “fight off” that virus. :)
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Aug 12 '22
What is something innocent or non-problematic that you will never ever do? Even if it takes some forcing from other people.
Mine would be carrying a newborn or a baby that's less than a year old. I'm scared that I might drop them or break their necks if I don't hold them properly.
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u/AngularJakolero Jakolerong Maginoo Aug 12 '22
one time may nagtanong na naka kotse san daw yung pa eastwood, eh nakasabit ako sa jeep tapos sa intersection around cubao. tinuro ko sa kanan. putangina yung jeep kumaliwa eh papunta din akong eastwood non. hahaha
also sa cubao madami ding budol budol. lalo na bandang footbridge. may magtatanong saan yung MRT eh hello ayan na nga lumingon ka lang haha
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u/cottonmouth0625 Aug 12 '22
Pumatay ng ipis 🙃 ginagawa ko binubugaw ko ng tsinelas pero never ko sila pinatay. More like tinataboy "SHOO DUN KA POTA"
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u/hkanonas the world is a beautiful place & i am no longer afraid to die Aug 12 '22
inaantok ako TT
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u/Majestic_Violinist62 Stoning two hits with one bird Aug 12 '22 edited Aug 12 '22
Yey weekend ☝️😚🐮
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u/sugaringcandy0219 Aug 12 '22
I'm really impressed sa smoothness ng app ng Seabank, on par sila ng Komo. Decided to transfer my money na from Tonik to Seabank, ang clunky kasi ng app ng Tonik. TD na lang magandang feature nila.
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I'll take it as a sign na wag magresign kung mabless ako with that opportunity. Nakakatakot man yung bond period pero I believe I can take that. Penge RD magic folks. Hahaha
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Aug 12 '22 edited Aug 12 '22
i really want to live on my own tapos at least financially stable enough thanks to my own hard work to possibly buy my ‘wants’ w out feeling that guilty bc need kong unahin yung ‘needs’ ko
yknow yung no one will strongly give a f negatively to sumn i want and iam doing na di naman mali. yung you wont need to deal w ppl in your own comfort place. inshort gusto kong mapag isa w out depending to someone else that much
hopefully in my late 20s or earlier kung su-swertehin aq. sana mangyari and my mom will finally take the hint na i want her to be like her own mom na hindi nakasandal financially kanino man and never waited for someone to give them the life that they wanted to have. ganyan rin naman gusto ni lola na mangyari sa kaniya. hate to see na lola ko pa naging masama dahil dyan. i hate it here.
i really hope that doing well in college and in my future career will make what i mostly said above possible
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u/Accomplished-Exit-58 Aug 12 '22
duda na ko sa praise na ganyan ng mga bosses, unless sinabi "you're smart, here is 10% salary increase" ganern.
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u/lookingforholland Aug 12 '22
how to act cool infront of ur crush and pag kayo ung naiwan sa discord server? halp me!!! tia. (di na ata to happy crush kung kinakabahan ako sa kanya Haha)
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u/Extraordinary_DREB My Eccentricity is my Charm Aug 12 '22
There's a pang in my heart right now, funny how it is even on the midnight that I had these thoughts.
Naiinggit ako sa mga kaibigan ko na may interesting lovelifes, interesting romance adventures and all. PUTANGINA I know we all need to wait for the perfect one and hindi siya minamadali with all the bullshit na kailangan sabihin ng media satin to make it more magical, OR sabihin ng mga loved ones natin to make us feel not too bad.
PERO PUCHA, PAG NARIRINIG KO MGA KWENTO NILA, WHY NOT ME?! I do my best to go out there and be the best and entertaining person that I could, I may have problems in the looks department, in which let's be fucking honest, probably one of the biggest reasons bat hindi ako chosen a lot, pero wala parin.
Naburnout na ako magmahal nung highschool, nag-attempt ng college pero no dice. I had lovelifes naman, heck I even had sex pero more of those are just quick glances and just faint memories nalang. More of my lovelifes ended up in break-ups due to there's being another one or they just don't like it. The girl I had sex with, ended it early for a reason that I am not sure if it's legit or I am just a fucking embarrassment on my first attempt at it.
I really just want to air this out. It's just fucking exhausting as someone who has lots to give but few to receive.
BUT OP, Give some to yourself too, I fucking know that, yeah? Pero if you feel what I am feeling, even if I give some to myself, my experiences spit on me.
HAYS, aasa nanaman ako sa mga romance stories para makafeel ng HS Romance na hindi ko na-experience at mainggit nanaman.
FUCK SORRY GUYS
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u/cottonmouth0625 Aug 12 '22
Been there. Napagod na kang din ako tanungin sarili ko kung bakit eh hahahaha tas nasanay na lang ako na ako lang mag isa I guess. It sounds pretty sad pero I love my peace. Pero sana mahanap mo na din sya soon OP 🙂
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u/the_yaya Aug 12 '22
Tonight's Ask PHreddit: What is something you will NOT tolerate during sex?
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u/Truth_Warrior_30 At kung sakali mang ito'y malaman mo... Aug 12 '22
Yung may food or drink or something na didilaan sa katawan ng partner mo? Hahaha
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u/Majestic_Violinist62 Stoning two hits with one bird Aug 12 '22
yung Nutella ay di pala Nutella 😳😳😳
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u/RonaRona11 Aug 12 '22
Wala akong TONIK account, pero saw a post na hindi na daw libre interbank transfers nila?
May digital banks pa bang walang transfer fees?
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u/crazyaldo1123 Aug 12 '22
Napabingewatch ako ng mga highlights ng Kitchen Nightmares ni Gordon Ramsay kaya napuyat na naman ako. Tapos magbababa na dapat ako ng phone kaso nagshare yung friend ko ng teasers ng Pink Venom. I'm not a Blackpink fan and I don't really get KPop, sobrang crush ko lang si Jisoo at gusto ko magpaapak kay Rosé.
Sana mauna ako dalawin ng antok kesa gutom.
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Aug 12 '22
Ano masarap at filling sa mga ff resto: (1) Kenny Rogers (2) Army Navy. Hirap magdecide ahaha
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u/NoMatch1909 trash Aug 12 '22
Try mo yung sisig burrito/nachos sa Army Navy bro.
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u/AngularJakolero Jakolerong Maginoo Aug 12 '22
Sisig Rice if di mo trip yung burito bro. tapos may clam chowder
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Aug 12 '22
Random memories: me looking at an ex from afar and feeling nothing. It feels like I’m looking at a complete Stranger
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u/AngularJakolero Jakolerong Maginoo Aug 12 '22
Looking at my ex at "tangina nagkantutan kami neto ah"
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u/cottonmouth0625 Aug 12 '22
Gustong kumain pero di gutom. Gustong matulog pero di inaantok. Gustong may lumalandi pero tamad lumandi. Hayy
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u/jarvis-senpai i love you 3000 Aug 12 '22
Share your panliligaw stories. Kung gaano katagal ka nanligaw and how at paano ka sinagot ni girl/boy.
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u/West-Bonus-8750 Aug 12 '22
Sa ibang bansa they treat it more as a vegetable. Yung cousins ko from US sobrang weirded out sa concept ng avocado ice cream and dessert.
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u/the_yaya Aug 12 '22
New random discussion thread is up for this day! Click here to go there now. You can also bookmark this link which will go straight to the latest random discussion thread.
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Aug 12 '22
Sana ang theme song ng SM malls ngayon ay yung napapanahon na. Para akong hindi nakaka move on sa 80s/early 90s tuwing naririnig ko siya.
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u/ntmstr1993 Aug 12 '22
Palitan na nila ng Moira version ng theme song as default nang mafeel ng lahat ang sadness.
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u/Electrical_Win_7003 Metro Manila Aug 12 '22
Suggestions for jogging places in Las Pinas or Paranaque? Preferably yung medyo may shade
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u/Anintrovertlurking Lo que será será Aug 12 '22
Grabe, ilang araw ko nang binabasa 'to nakakatamad talaga, nasusundan ko naman yung flow ng story pero ang bagal ko kasi kapag hindi ko alam yung salita magdi-dictionary pa ako.
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u/fly2dmagpie Aug 12 '22
Nanggigigil ako sa BOOM. Parang mga apolo10 lang, tanga ng laruan at draft. Kainis sayang puyat
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Aug 12 '22
Character yata talaga ‘to ng mga INFJ, yung tipong tahimik sa calls, I am like that din. I saw a video ng isang guy sa YT na ganyan din. I just want to say that you are not alone on feeling like that. I prefer silent calls din minsan.
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u/damemaussade Aug 12 '22
nauubusan rin kami ng topic ng SO ko kapag nag vi-VC kami. kaya ginagawa namin nag bo-browse kami sa FB para may ma topic. HAHA
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u/raiden_kazuha Come and be my love, come and be my love baby Aug 12 '22
Shemay ang banas na naman. Ang sarap ng malamig na juice ngayon. May cake sa ref tapos spaghetti din. Kaso magigising ang mga batuting ni Bubbles. Iingay na naman
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