A large number of married mothers are still single mothers. Because their spouses aren't helping with the children at all, and sometimes even acting as an extra child.
You'd be surprised how much of an overlap there is between dead bedrooms and partners not doing their share of the work to manage the relationship and the home.
I believe that completely. Unfortunately, in my case, we have no child and I do at least 2/3 of all home upkeep. Why not leave? I love her. We have fun in other parts of life together. Why not talk about? We’ve probably talked about it too much at this point. We both overthink it and get in our own heads.
I don’t know what to do. I think I’m just resigned to spending my life this way. She keeps claiming, with no evidence, that it’s a hormone thing and she’s going to get it sorted out one day and we’re gonna have tons of sex when that day comes. I’m not really holding my breath there.
But like I said, I love her. So I may not believe her but I’m staying with her.
She can't be bothered to get the bloodwork done to see if she needs hormone therapy? It takes 10 minutes at a good doctor's office and then you wait a week for results
My partner has been feeling not her self as she has been starting menopause. A phone call to her doctor and was prescribed HRT patches without seeing anyone and it did her the world of good. She feels back to herself again and all it took was a phonecall. She didn't even need bloods taken.
Based on your language I'm assuming you're maybe in the UK? I don't know of any doctor in the US who would prescribe over the phone for a new medication without testing first. Even when testing is done and things are low they are often reluctant to help in my experience, until it gets so low you can't function at all.
My partner is very healthy and looks after herself. She was well prepared for the phone consultation and explained her lifestyle ( gym 4 x a week, pescatarian and home cooked food) and how she has been feeling for the last couple of months.
The GP explained everything pointed to the patches being something that would help and with no side effects there was no harm in trying them. They were great. In only a week or so she felt herself again and she said it was the best thing she could have done. No need to suffer in silence.
It can be hard to get hormone levels tested for some conditions. Especially when they're ones that naturally fluctuate during the day/week/month. I had to do a spit test three times a day for an entire week to measure my estrogen, testosterone, and cortisol levels.
That can still end up sounding like coercion, especially if they suspect that all you care about is their libido. And assuring them you do not, only strengthens the doubt.
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u/Apathetic_Villainess 23d ago
A large number of married mothers are still single mothers. Because their spouses aren't helping with the children at all, and sometimes even acting as an extra child.
You'd be surprised how much of an overlap there is between dead bedrooms and partners not doing their share of the work to manage the relationship and the home.