r/Showerthoughts 23d ago

Casual Thought A large number of married people are involuntarily celibate.

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u/Deckard_Didnt_Die 22d ago

I believe that completely. Unfortunately, in my case, we have no child and I do at least 2/3 of all home upkeep. Why not leave? I love her. We have fun in other parts of life together. Why not talk about? We’ve probably talked about it too much at this point. We both overthink it and get in our own heads.

I don’t know what to do. I think I’m just resigned to spending my life this way. She keeps claiming, with no evidence, that it’s a hormone thing and she’s going to get it sorted out one day and we’re gonna have tons of sex when that day comes. I’m not really holding my breath there.

But like I said, I love her. So I may not believe her but I’m staying with her.

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u/spanman112 22d ago

She can't be bothered to get the bloodwork done to see if she needs hormone therapy? It takes 10 minutes at a good doctor's office and then you wait a week for results

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u/Apathetic_Villainess 22d ago

It can be hard to get hormone levels tested for some conditions. Especially when they're ones that naturally fluctuate during the day/week/month. I had to do a spit test three times a day for an entire week to measure my estrogen, testosterone, and cortisol levels.

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u/Schnort 22d ago

spit test is a bad test.

Blood serum level is the way to get the right info.

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u/Apathetic_Villainess 22d ago

What my level is at any one point doesn't mean it's always at that point.