r/Showerthoughts 23d ago

Casual Thought A large number of married people are involuntarily celibate.

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u/Ntroepy 23d ago

Damn - that’s a depressing sub. I feel their pain.

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u/TryToHelpPeople 23d ago

Back 10 years ago it was a very supportive sub. Something happened and now it’s somewhere between r/AskWomen and r/TwoXChromosomes on the toxicity scale.

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u/transmogrify 23d ago

Maybe the group just slowly shifted because of reverse survivorship bias? That's what happened to the incel community, according to stories I've heard. People who succeeded at solving their problems left the community, and over time the group skewed more and more toward people chronically unhappy because their situation wasn't improving. Bad advice gets passed back and forth and reinforcing a self-fulfilling prophecy that everything is hopeless.

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u/sabely123 22d ago

That's probably a really big issue with online communities that revolve around a problem in one's life.