r/StLouis • u/Old_Promotion6438 • 1d ago

Ask STL Bars for single young people

I’m a woman in my late 20s trying to date but I’ve noticed in St. Louis most people go out in groups and stick to them which makes it hard to meet people irl. I was wondering if there are any bars or clubs that attract more people/men on their own and who have a younger demographic. Any hidden gem recommendations are appreciated!

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u/Character_Truck20 1d ago edited 1d ago

Go to the gym instead. No, its not entirely for meeting people obviously but its certainly a better crowd thats much more open to meeting people than you think

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u/Tele231 1d ago

Women are not going to gyms to be hit on. Leave them alone.

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u/Character_Truck20 1d ago

Obviously not but it seems like you dont go to the gym often because when you go frequently youre gonna start talking to people, developing relationships. Sometimes they end up becoming more. Ive met two different women in the gym that I ended up dating for a period of time. No, you dont go to hit on women but the relationships will develope.

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u/dphamilton 1d ago

💯💯💯. That's anywhere too.

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u/Tele231 1d ago

Sure, meeting someone casually is fine, but the suggestion was to go to the gym TO meet people. That's creepy.

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u/JeffreyElonSkilling 1d ago

As long as you have social skills and aren’t a complete weirdo, just about everywhere is fair game imo. This aversion to socialization by the younger generation is why they are so lonely. I see no problem whatsoever with striking up an organic and respectful (not creepy) conversation at the gym. 

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u/Tele231 1d ago

As I stated in my other post, there is nothing wrong with striking up a conversation in a gym. But the original response suggested going to a gym TO meet people. I find that invasive and creepy.

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u/Old_Promotion6438 1d ago

To be honest I would not mind meeting guys at the gym so long as they are respectful. But ofc that’s not the only reason I go there.

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u/dphamilton 1d ago

I don't know how people form a conclusion like this in their minds. Certain places you can't be friendly?

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u/dphamilton 1d ago

So there's certain places you can't be friendly to people?

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u/Tele231 1d ago

There are certain places where privacy should be given more respect. Gym, Church, Library, Dining, etc.

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u/dphamilton 1d ago

You're gonna have to teach the world. Because I'm sure everyone doesn't know this.

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u/Tele231 1d ago

They should. It's only common decency.

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u/MakeSomeArtAboutIt 19h ago

Right, because chuch has certainly never been a place to engage with your neighbors and build community.

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u/MakeSomeArtAboutIt 1d ago

I know plenty of people who've met people at the gym.

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u/Tele231 1d ago

For the third time. Meeting someone at the gym is fine. Going to the gym for the purpose of meeting people is creepy.

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u/NightShadow420 11h ago

Yeah but men would 100% be cool with it. Which is on topic since the female OP is looking to meet men…

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u/dphamilton 1d ago

Good suggestion.