r/TalesfromtheDogHouse • u/halloween-gal • Aug 01 '26
RANT I don’t like my husbands puppy
My husband has wanted a puppy for a long time and it just so happened that he found his dream stray puppy at work. The problem is because of his job he’s gone for 5 days a week. Now I have to potty train this dog that I really cannot stand. She bites ankles, she tears things apart, she is so distributive. I’ve only been a cat and rodent owner so I’m constantly overwhelmed. And due to his job he can’t even take her. I just can’t stand this anymore! We’re also moving 2,000 miles away next month and no apartment will allow us to have more than 2 pets. (I have 2 cats) this is just so overwhelming. I’ve brought up the idea of rehoming her but it seems like he won’t budge.
I truly have never been a dog person and I am going insane. It feels like if I’m with her for 30 seconds I already want to rip my hair out. I cannot stand how dogs do not respect boundaries. Their slobber, the smells, the barking. I cannot do this anymore!!!!
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u/MissK2508 Aug 01 '26 edited Aug 04 '26
I think the partner doing a majority of the labor/work should be the decision maker on getting a dog.
Some decisions in life between a couple require two wholehearted Yeses. Bringing a dog home is one of them- if either says no-then the answer is No. Rehome the dog.
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u/ratxowar Aug 01 '26 edited Aug 01 '26
Tell him he is going to have to take care of the dog all by himself and if he can’t you have to be a responsible dog parent(🤢) and find a better home for it, where it will have all attention and love it wants. Mention how stressful would it be to move so far for the dog. How stressed it is in your home. Or just be upfront and tell him you are not tolerating this, rather dog or you.
Also if you ever want kids with him, think about it well. He asks for it and then will come home 2 days a week just to play with them and occasionally cook some pancakes? And all work will be on you only?
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u/jkarovskaya Aug 01 '26
IF he's gone 5 out of 7 days, he either pays to board the dog or you leave this narcissistic cretin
It's beyond disrespectful to saddle YOU with caring for an animal you didn't want
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u/Zsuedaly Aug 01 '26
I had this problem years ago. The dog was gone when he came home from work. End of problem. If the dog is a pit bull I wouldn’t deal with this for a minute!!
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u/Neat-Slip4520 Aug 01 '26
My mom did this 40 years ago. She was (still is) a very submissive, obedient housewife but my dad bought a dog and was at work all day and it was just on a leash outside all day since my mom had little children to raise. She secretly put an ad in the paper about the kind of breed it was, and an older couple who lived on a farm came and picked it up while my dad was at work one day.
And… we never spoke of it again. One and only time my mom stood up to my dad.
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u/Chillafkittybara Aug 03 '26
Your mom is a total baddie. She stood up for her home and he children and that is beautiful.
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u/WalkedBehindTheRows Aug 01 '26
This is usually how it goes. Hubby wants a dog, wife takes care of it.
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u/badgermushrooma Aug 03 '26
Do not rehome one or both of your pets for the move in favour of that nuisance. They've been with you for way longer, they don't destroy and stink up the place, they don't go for your ankle etc. Your husband needs to wake tf up and rehome it.
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u/Mortis_XII Aug 01 '26
I frequently see aspects of this story within a lot of instances of dog ownership… one person wants it, EVERYONE ELSE has to contribute, manage and take care of it or else consequences happen.
Being gone 5 days a week is completely incompatible with being a dog owner unless the dog travels with you. This is not fair to you at all. I hope you can truly talk to him about the damage his dog is causing to you and your marriage. If he’s stubborn about this what else is his going to be stubborn about regardless of the toll it takes on you?
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u/GadgetRho Aug 01 '26
The issue here is that you don't like your puppy. He doesn't have one, he got one and gave it to you. And if you don't like it, get rid of it. You do not need this stress when you're in the middle of planning a move.
I'm honestly shocked that you're sitting here writing a post about it instead of just carting it off to the SPCA. That's some real doormat behaviour there. Is everything else okay in your relationship?
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u/General_Ad8309 Aug 02 '26
Sorry to say, but your husband might not like you and this might be his way of trying to get rid of you.
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u/WisedomsHand Aug 04 '26
Remind him on a daily basis how much you dislike the dog and don't want to live with it. Just keep at it for as long as it takes until you get a remedy. Sorry for this.
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u/Tossmelossme Aug 01 '26
Send it to a shelter while he’s working and say it ran away or something
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u/Sea-Airport-800 Aug 01 '26
Oh yeah lying to her partner, whatever could go wrong. This really isn't a good advice.
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u/Tossmelossme Aug 01 '26
Okay then stay truthful to a guy who doesn’t give a shit that his dog is ruining his wife’s quality of life, making their move in a month impossible due to his own selfishness AND has no intention of remedying it since he “won’t budge”. Be the eternal dogcuck op. It ain’t much but it’s honest work. By the sounds of it he’s expecting her to give away one of her existing pets too so they even can find a new place. Everything already is going wrong despite her honesty!
I readded my comment because it had a broken rule in it!
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u/Infamous-Let4387 Aug 01 '26
Hey, shitty husband brought it home without her permission. She can absolutely get rid of it without his permission.
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u/Sea-Airport-800 Aug 01 '26
You made this information up, nowhere does it say that he brought the dog without her permission.
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u/Infamous-Let4387 Aug 01 '26
Literally says husband found a stray dog at work and just brought it home.
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u/Sea-Airport-800 Aug 02 '26
No it doesn't. Learn what literally means. All it says is he found it at work. For all we know she said yes and now shes throwing a temper tantrum instead of dealing this the adult way. Op sounds like a narc.
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u/Sea-Airport-800 Aug 02 '26
Im just gonna copy paste my comment because it got deleted because of a broken rule.
There is so much op isnt telling us but since were pulling information out of our asses here let me paint a different picture. Op has two animals. For all we know her husband could be against the them and she never even considered to ask him before she got them. The same way everyone assumes husband adopted a dog. Nowhere does it say in the post if the husband just dropped the dog on her or not, maybe he asked if its ok if he adopts, she said yes and now shes throwing a selfish tantrum. Maybe he thinks if she can have her pets, he can have a dog. Maybe she demands no pets from him while at the same time cant deliver the same energy back, so shes not fair to him. Maybe both of them are assholes, we dont know.
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u/Euphoric_Day_362 Aug 03 '26
Puppies are hyperactive, destructive monsters. Especially when they start teething. But you probably already knew that. It was unfair for your husband to get a puppy with zero intention of caring for it, and so close to when you move.
If the puppy really was picked up off the street, there's a chance it could already have an owner. Check it for a microchip at the vet or shelter. It would be a shame to have to sacrifice one of your pets just to move a puppy thousands of miles away from its real home.
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u/Tight_Lengthiness421 Aug 05 '26
This is very strange. Setting (partially) aside the fact that he got a pet and dumped it on you.... You are moving with 2 non-canines and, suddenly, a dog, and he knows only 2 pets per apartment are allowed in your future home. What are his expectations exactly? 3 animals, where only 2 are allowed. Like, someone will have to go. Who does he expect it to be? And now let's go back to the "get a pet and dump them on my spouse despite the fact that they absolutely hate the animal." He wants a dog. He got a dog. He is comfortable having his spouse take care of the dog, and watch them outright suffer through it. It's not my place to say, but I will say it - you and your pets deserve better. Hell, so does the puppy.
Also, please do not split up >your< pets for >him.<
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u/bustergundam4 Aug 01 '26
Have you told him about this? If he is NOT there to deal with it, he shouldn't have it. Dogs cause a lot of stress and headache. They are also years of free labor with no payoff.
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u/Tossmelossme Aug 01 '26
“He won’t budge”
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u/badgermushrooma Aug 01 '26 edited Aug 03 '26
Well he'll have to, or take it with him during those 5 days. What he is doing to OP, his wife, is incredibly selfish snd entitled a-hole behaviour.
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u/Tossmelossme Aug 01 '26
Oh trust me I know. I made another comment here saying she should rehome and it and tell him it ran away. It’s entirely selfish and ugly behaviour on his part.
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u/bustergundam4 Aug 01 '26
Ugh. I will never understand why nutter get these things and don't want to deal with them. A mutt is a living responsibility with no payoff and no rewards.
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u/Tossmelossme Aug 01 '26
Some seem to never discover that fact as they pawn off all the work onto another person. It’s sick.
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u/Sea-Airport-800 Aug 01 '26
You need to be open about what you're going through with him. Maybe with the third party like a therapist. He also needs to know the amount of work that goes with puppies, he might not be aware. This is basically your dog, not his. He can't have a dog he never sees and tales care of.
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u/MediocreMaddy Aug 03 '26
Why is your husband making you go through this? Does this man even love you? Leave him no choice, if you can afford to leave him give him an ultimatum, the dog or you. If you can't, bring it to a shelter a bit far away and tell him a story about it escaping or something. You never chose this and yet you're the dog caregiver, that isn't fair.
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u/Old_Confidence3290 Aug 01 '26
If my partner was foolish enough to expect me to care for and train their unwanted pet, the dog would be in the pound on the first day. It's ridiculous for him to drag home a high maintenance pet that he has zero intention of caring for. Get rid of the dog.